"Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you" Mathew 6:33
When we seek God first, we get what we need for relationships. i could tell you what men need, but that'd be repetitive. Seek God first and His righteousness and then all that we need will be given to us. Simple as that. Men do need to be men. I, nor anyone else can tell you what you lack, but each of us DOES lack and theres always room to grow.
i think maybe thats where a lot of frustration comes from,. As men we all lack in something so when that comes under attack in general it feels personal. But really, we all have to accept our weaknesses and let God work through us to work past those weaknesses. Don't let pride keep ya down.
As a random side note someone said, "What up with the whole music ministry thing?" It's called Pslams, and David was quite fond of them.