Four Steps to Help You Genuinely Forgive

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Becky216

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1. Make a Quality Decision
Forgiveness is about more than saying a prayer, like, “Lord, I forgive so-and-so.” Forgiveness is a serious decision you make. It’s not easy and it will probably be uncomfortable or even painful, but the reward of going through it will be worth any pain you’ve experienced.


2. Depend on God
Fortunately, we can depend on God to gain the strength needed to forgive. This means we live with a prayerful mindset and attitude: “Lord, help me not to be offended today. Keep me from unnecessary anger. If I am mad at someone, show me who it is. Give me the grace to forgive them.” (See Ephesians 4:32.) If you’re easily offended or there’s a person in your life who just annoys you, not only do you have to decide to forgive and live in peace, but you are going to have to depend on God for the grace to do it and make it a matter of prayer.


3. Understand Your Emotions
You need to know that your feelings will probably need time to catch up with your decision to forgive. Your feelings are not the real you. They’re fickle. You can feel a thousand and one different ways about the same thing. You can love somebody one minute and then you can’t stand them the next. But remember, your will gives you the ability to live beyond your feelings.


4. Pray for Your Enemies
In Matthew 5:44 , Jesus instructs us tolove your enemies and pray for those who persecute you. This has got to be the hardest thing in the whole world to do. But we don’t get out of something just because it’s hard. Whatever God asks us to do, it’s always for our benefit.



Today, you have the choice to overcome evil with good and find a new level of joy you didn’t know was possible by choosing to forgive. I want to encourage you to do yourself a favor and make the right choice. Forgive.....
 
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OFM

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great well shared this has been talked alot on lately in prayer and bible room
 
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GreenNnice

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This takes work, but it's easy when the burden you carry can be given to.Jesus
Not only can the burden be given to Him, He wants to lift that feeling of unforgiveness from you because it's stopping you from fully doing what?

Trusting in Him.
Serving Him.

And, ultimately, growing in Him, so, one can even stop growing, stagnate, and.as I believe fall away IF that root of bitterness toward another brother or sister in the Lord is not uprooted. We can't uproot it, we need His counsel, and, His comfort, and, His help, and, hey, good news here, the Holy Spirit is who you need to lead and He is with you if you are hearted in Jesus' ways for your life, and He being your only hope, not to mention, Way, Truth, and, Life. :)

The Holy Spirit , Scripture says, is your Comforter, your Counselor, your Helper, and, that said, since Jesus was conceived immaculately inside Mary through Holy Spirit seed God implanted of Himself in her, Jesus said to His apostles that they they were no longer going to be called an acquaintance or apostle but a 'friend.'

Now, beck has strongly imparted forgiveness steps for us, and, understanding the power of God , yhrough Jesus, through His Holy Spirit working in you is important to undetstand. And, don't worry, when you think to go forgive someone(s) who wronged you, and, not sure exactly how to forgive them, as you pray, and, the Holy Spirit gives you what to pray for through 'groanings' from Him going on inside you. Then, and, let's put a little Beatle spin on this, as He will give you wisdom-filled words to say. There will be an answer to your fears of taking those brave steps. Say your 'peace' of forgiving, simple words, and, let it be. The Spirit works the work on that spouse, that friend who hurt you. The powe of forgiving, Christ peeps, is miraculous, from Him :)

It's important, too, to not hold bitterness toward another inside, Beck mentioned Ephesians 4:32, but a few verses earlier is where we are told 'nor to.let the sun go down on our anger,' not to go.to bed mad. This anger breeds contempt, and, even, if you are God's yoy might put shame on yourself, not that God blames or shames you, as, nope, He NEVER does, but...

If you read past the verse on not going to bed angry in Ephesians , 4:26, think it is, but, then, the very next verse explains why you are to put peace into a situation, work or otherwise, date gone badly, etc.

Why? Because it gives the Devil an inroads into your life. The Devil LOVES it when we get angry and uses that opportunity to blow us up in that pride as much as he can and as quickly as he can. So....

What does this all say about forgiveness? If you are forgiving someone, then that means they did something that caused you ire, or, to get angry. Irate?

Anyway, hopefully this is complementary to what beck's once again said in beautiful, woven, 'thread.'
And I leave you with what Paul says in Scripture is important in , i think.it's 1 Cor. , 'As much as it is up to.you, be at peace with all men.' :)
 
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