Friend with autism
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Well, from what i have gleaned from this situation, my intuition barometer is pointing strongly at the mother. You want to know what is wrong with this girl 'ding ding ding' we have a winner, it the mother!
Also consider this, there was a man who loved the mother enough to be engaged to her, and he was willing to sacrifice that relationship to help the daughter,, he may not have had the right idea how to do it, or he may have, but either way, that situation says allot about what kind of person the mother is.
Sometimes parents live in denial when it comes to their children, but this kind of denial helps no one, and usually makes things worse.
Also consider this, there was a man who loved the mother enough to be engaged to her, and he was willing to sacrifice that relationship to help the daughter,, he may not have had the right idea how to do it, or he may have, but either way, that situation says allot about what kind of person the mother is.
Sometimes parents live in denial when it comes to their children, but this kind of denial helps no one, and usually makes things worse.
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Truthfully, I was getting more and more uncomfortable reading this, so I quit halfway down. Right around the time you said it's okay to talk to about you behind your back, but it's not okay to talk about your boyfriend behind his back.
Why was I uncomfortable? Because I'm naturally a gossip and this whole thing smacked of gossip.
And, yeesh! I am assuming you're both in college, so why are you calling her mommy? She has what it takes to make it in to college. You're not her mother. She's autistic, not intellectually disabled.
I can make many things about this, but none of it has to do with Sue, other than she has you to contend with. If you need to tell of your heroic efforts, why not keep a diary? At 20, you should learn to deal with life, instead of getting others to deal with it for you. And your life. Sue has to learn to deal with her life too.
Why was I uncomfortable? Because I'm naturally a gossip and this whole thing smacked of gossip.
And, yeesh! I am assuming you're both in college, so why are you calling her mommy? She has what it takes to make it in to college. You're not her mother. She's autistic, not intellectually disabled.
I can make many things about this, but none of it has to do with Sue, other than she has you to contend with. If you need to tell of your heroic efforts, why not keep a diary? At 20, you should learn to deal with life, instead of getting others to deal with it for you. And your life. Sue has to learn to deal with her life too.
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It sounds to me like Sue and her mother need deliverance. No kidding! You can pray and fast. Honestly just be kind and pray and fast. Do not get any more involved unless you are sure God wants you to... It sounds to me like a wise experienced minister with deliverance experience needs to manage this. I'd recommend you directing them to one if you know of someone trustworthy, kind, and compassionate as well as a help to them to find financial support, and just keeping in prayer and fasting regularly. You have an obvious big heart. So many would run from Sue or mock her. I'm praying for all involved. I
have a nephew now 20 who is autistic... Sounds like to a similar degree. The difference his parents are both reborn Holy Spirit filled followers of Christ. They also use nutrition and other helpful supplements for him that help. He just got his drivers liscence last week, and finished high school... So although a little behind schedule he is coming along fine, and although quirky he is wise and kind and able to function and will be a valuable asset to society... Not to mention he is brilliant... Knowing several languages including Hebrew... And memorized most of the Bible. So there is hope, in Christ.
Also, there is nothing wrong with someone speaking a word of correction, if in love and it's actually correct and not a nasty opinion. Just tell people thank you but that doesn't minister, or that you will consider what they said. Often people speak to quickly or with zeal but not wisdom. Still do pray that God show you if there was any validity at all to their comment.
Lord bless you.
have a nephew now 20 who is autistic... Sounds like to a similar degree. The difference his parents are both reborn Holy Spirit filled followers of Christ. They also use nutrition and other helpful supplements for him that help. He just got his drivers liscence last week, and finished high school... So although a little behind schedule he is coming along fine, and although quirky he is wise and kind and able to function and will be a valuable asset to society... Not to mention he is brilliant... Knowing several languages including Hebrew... And memorized most of the Bible. So there is hope, in Christ.
Also, there is nothing wrong with someone speaking a word of correction, if in love and it's actually correct and not a nasty opinion. Just tell people thank you but that doesn't minister, or that you will consider what they said. Often people speak to quickly or with zeal but not wisdom. Still do pray that God show you if there was any validity at all to their comment.
Lord bless you.
It sounds to me like Sue and her mother need deliverance. No kidding! You can pray and fast. Honestly just be kind and pray and fast. Do not get any more involved unless you are sure God wants you to... It sounds to me like a wise experienced minister with deliverance experience needs to manage this. I'd recommend you directing them to one if you know of someone trustworthy, kind, and compassionate as well as a help to them to find financial support, and just keeping in prayer and fasting regularly. You have an obvious big heart. So many would run from Sue or mock her. I'm praying for all involved. I
have a nephew now 20 who is autistic... Sounds like to a similar degree. The difference his parents are both reborn Holy Spirit filled followers of Christ. They also use nutrition and other helpful supplements for him that help. He just got his drivers liscence last week, and finished high school... So although a little behind schedule he is coming along fine, and although quirky he is wise and kind and able to function and will be a valuable asset to society... Not to mention he is brilliant... Knowing several languages including Hebrew... And memorized most of the Bible. So there is hope, in Christ.
Also, there is nothing wrong with someone speaking a word of correction, if in love and it's actually correct and not a nasty opinion. Just tell people thank you but that doesn't minister, or that you will consider what they said. Often people speak to quickly or with zeal but not wisdom. Still do pray that God show you if there was any validity at all to their comment.
Lord bless you.
have a nephew now 20 who is autistic... Sounds like to a similar degree. The difference his parents are both reborn Holy Spirit filled followers of Christ. They also use nutrition and other helpful supplements for him that help. He just got his drivers liscence last week, and finished high school... So although a little behind schedule he is coming along fine, and although quirky he is wise and kind and able to function and will be a valuable asset to society... Not to mention he is brilliant... Knowing several languages including Hebrew... And memorized most of the Bible. So there is hope, in Christ.
Also, there is nothing wrong with someone speaking a word of correction, if in love and it's actually correct and not a nasty opinion. Just tell people thank you but that doesn't minister, or that you will consider what they said. Often people speak to quickly or with zeal but not wisdom. Still do pray that God show you if there was any validity at all to their comment.
Lord bless you.
So here's an update: Sue lied to me. She messaged me pretending to be someone she wasn't. I believed it for a short time then I messaged the girl she was pretending to be and she said that she hadn't tried to contact me.
So I was kind of at a loss for what to do. So I called her mom after confronting Sue asking her what I should do. Her mom was in a bad mood so she was very snippy with me however I could understand why. Sue was being disrespectful again. Her mom really seems to have had it with sue. She seems ready to put her in a group home. I don't know what to do because this is waaaay beyond anything I have ever experienced. Any thoughts? Any advice?
Her mom says that Sue needs a normal friend to do friend things with and I dunno how to do that with her.
So I was kind of at a loss for what to do. So I called her mom after confronting Sue asking her what I should do. Her mom was in a bad mood so she was very snippy with me however I could understand why. Sue was being disrespectful again. Her mom really seems to have had it with sue. She seems ready to put her in a group home. I don't know what to do because this is waaaay beyond anything I have ever experienced. Any thoughts? Any advice?
Her mom says that Sue needs a normal friend to do friend things with and I dunno how to do that with her.