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To start with I'm in college and I never had a girlfriend or any other relationship with a girl my entire life. I will have to say I'm a very shy and introverted person so this probably has alot to do with it. I really want to experience a relationship with a woman (not sexual as that would be fornication, but a christian boyfriend/girlfriend relationship), but it just seems like that's probably not going to happen. Unfortunately for years my mind has been bothering me and I keep thinking about it all the time non-stop, which make me feel desperate and sad. How do I get my mind off getting a girlfriend? (I'm trying to give up thinking about it but I have very very weak thought control). Also any advice/tips?
I probably should give a little information about myself to help out. I should probably start with my physical characteristics first as that is what people see about me first. I'm 6 foot 3 inches tall, 230 pounds, and I'm moderately in shape as I can bench 300lbs. I rate my physical appearance as average, and I try to dress presentable if I'm leaving the house like any other person. I do have some flaws about myself such as a crooked spine (scoliosis) it high in the neck so its not too noticeable, left hand that will not stretch open without an outside force acting on it this is not very noticeable, extremely dry skin (people have shook my hand and said it felt like sandpaper and my skin cracks open but this problem is easily fixed with lotions and oils everyday before I go outside), I can be very clumsy at times and I have absolutely no dance skills whatsoever, and I find myself being sick constantly and my allergies and asthma do not help at all.
I'm also a christian that tries to follow and apply God's word in my life to the best of my abilities. Most people also describe me as an extremely nice and funny person to be around, but make no mistake I'm always ready to defend my self and my values. I also think of myself as pretty intelligent as most people around me including my teachers think of me as highly gifted intellectually, my psych teacher eventually gave me an IQ test in which I scored a 160. This didn't really help my social skills as most of my life I was isolated from my peers/classmates as they would betray me, mock me and sometimes even attack me for whatever reason, eventually I was able to stop the bullying when I got to highschool and later on actually make friends. Most of my interests involve computers such as video gaming, and surfing the web, but I also enjoy things like hiking and go-kart racing.
I actually try to approach girls but I always fail in some way. I will admit I probably don't approach as many girls as I should mainly due to the fear of rejection which is what I always receive. First I normally find a girl I would like to get know better, then I approach her and initiate small talk with her, then I continue to be friendly with her so I won't seem like a total stranger, and then I finally dig up the courage to ask her out. Everytime I try I fail or I become her friend but not boyfriend, she usually will either say she has a boyfriend already, she's not interested, or she will get scared, not speak to me again, and avoid me. I usually feel sad afterwards, unless I'm already super-happy and I'm feeling confident then I will just feel like "oh well" and go back to doing whatever. I'm also not very good at picking relate able subjects to talk about but when I do find a good subject I can keep the conversation going and interesting.
I probably should give a little information about myself to help out. I should probably start with my physical characteristics first as that is what people see about me first. I'm 6 foot 3 inches tall, 230 pounds, and I'm moderately in shape as I can bench 300lbs. I rate my physical appearance as average, and I try to dress presentable if I'm leaving the house like any other person. I do have some flaws about myself such as a crooked spine (scoliosis) it high in the neck so its not too noticeable, left hand that will not stretch open without an outside force acting on it this is not very noticeable, extremely dry skin (people have shook my hand and said it felt like sandpaper and my skin cracks open but this problem is easily fixed with lotions and oils everyday before I go outside), I can be very clumsy at times and I have absolutely no dance skills whatsoever, and I find myself being sick constantly and my allergies and asthma do not help at all.
I'm also a christian that tries to follow and apply God's word in my life to the best of my abilities. Most people also describe me as an extremely nice and funny person to be around, but make no mistake I'm always ready to defend my self and my values. I also think of myself as pretty intelligent as most people around me including my teachers think of me as highly gifted intellectually, my psych teacher eventually gave me an IQ test in which I scored a 160. This didn't really help my social skills as most of my life I was isolated from my peers/classmates as they would betray me, mock me and sometimes even attack me for whatever reason, eventually I was able to stop the bullying when I got to highschool and later on actually make friends. Most of my interests involve computers such as video gaming, and surfing the web, but I also enjoy things like hiking and go-kart racing.
I actually try to approach girls but I always fail in some way. I will admit I probably don't approach as many girls as I should mainly due to the fear of rejection which is what I always receive. First I normally find a girl I would like to get know better, then I approach her and initiate small talk with her, then I continue to be friendly with her so I won't seem like a total stranger, and then I finally dig up the courage to ask her out. Everytime I try I fail or I become her friend but not boyfriend, she usually will either say she has a boyfriend already, she's not interested, or she will get scared, not speak to me again, and avoid me. I usually feel sad afterwards, unless I'm already super-happy and I'm feeling confident then I will just feel like "oh well" and go back to doing whatever. I'm also not very good at picking relate able subjects to talk about but when I do find a good subject I can keep the conversation going and interesting.
