J
So, as many of you know, my husband and I have been having problems for several months now. Well, the problems started right after we got married. We had a plan, but things fell through and we were both left jobless. I worked my butt off in several different part time jobs while my husband filled out 3 applications in a year and only turned in 1. He worked odd jobs every few months that would amount to a few hundred dollars, but that's it. The day after we returned from our honeymoon our pastors removed him from leadership so that he could get a job. He never did. Instead, he became resentful and bitter towards them. In the last 6 months he stopped completely going to our church. He demanded that I not talk to the pastors. I began going to counseling and we began dealing with boundary issues in my relationships. My husband didn't take to kindly to me setting them. He began coming to counseling. The counselor even got a donation for him so that he could attend. He came to 8 single sessions, and 3 couples sessions. Most weeks, he refused to return. Two weeks ago we were working through a model and he got stuck. When asked to invite the HS to help him, he completely shut down, got angry with the counselor, and walked out... all because she asked him to pray. He hasn't returned since.
Saturday, as I was coming to work, he dropped me off and told me he was done and filing for divorce. This is about the 4th time. This time was different though. He wouldn't talk. I went to the Greg Laurie Crusade with some students. When I came back we organized our sleeping arrangements and slept. The next day was church. Afterward I packed some clothes and went to stay at a friends. He stared at me the whole way out to the car.
One time he said it was basically all my fault because I was so mean and I have hurt him so much. He said it had gotten worse over the last few weeks which is a lie. Yesterday I read a note he left in my phone. It basically said I'm divorcing you because I don't want to hold you back, and I can't be the husband that you should have.
Today he's threatening me at work that if I don't leave work, or skip my counseling appt. tonight, then he'll never talk to me again... Today is the last chance to talk. This is his MO... I don't want to be at home because I don't know what he'll do. I want him to leave, but he refuses. He says he'll leave on Saturday, but if he doesn't (which is very possible) then I don't know what I'll do. He's on the lease... He's sister is the manager... So any way I go about this, it gets really messy.
I just want strength and wisdom. I still want this to work, but only if he's willing to take some steps. If he is unwilling to take steps, then I pray that he files quickly (completely out of his personality) and doesn't string me along.
Saturday, as I was coming to work, he dropped me off and told me he was done and filing for divorce. This is about the 4th time. This time was different though. He wouldn't talk. I went to the Greg Laurie Crusade with some students. When I came back we organized our sleeping arrangements and slept. The next day was church. Afterward I packed some clothes and went to stay at a friends. He stared at me the whole way out to the car.
One time he said it was basically all my fault because I was so mean and I have hurt him so much. He said it had gotten worse over the last few weeks which is a lie. Yesterday I read a note he left in my phone. It basically said I'm divorcing you because I don't want to hold you back, and I can't be the husband that you should have.
Today he's threatening me at work that if I don't leave work, or skip my counseling appt. tonight, then he'll never talk to me again... Today is the last chance to talk. This is his MO... I don't want to be at home because I don't know what he'll do. I want him to leave, but he refuses. He says he'll leave on Saturday, but if he doesn't (which is very possible) then I don't know what I'll do. He's on the lease... He's sister is the manager... So any way I go about this, it gets really messy.
I just want strength and wisdom. I still want this to work, but only if he's willing to take some steps. If he is unwilling to take steps, then I pray that he files quickly (completely out of his personality) and doesn't string me along.
