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[Brenna]

Hello everyone,

if anyone has an encouraging word me for me please respond.

My husband who I believed was faithful has been found to not be. There is still a lot that in unclear right now.

I am so sad and desperately searching for help. I waited and remained alone for years by choice, until God sent me a man from him. I wanted the best. I believe God led me that this was the man. I am lost. I don't understand God. I heard from my husbands own mouth that he was faithful, others testified how they saw him have faithful qualities, I myself saw them too. Most of all I took him to the Lord and after reading scripture and prayer I felt peace that this was right so I moved forward only to find something beyond my comprehension. I feel my heart has been dashed.

I love the Lord and his people. I appreciate however God leads you to respond.

Love, Brenna

 

[Jordache]

I do not know exactly what you mean by your husband being unfaithful. Perhaps you mean he cheated on you physically. Perhaps his infidelity was in his heart. Perhaps youve discovered an addiction to porn or something else. Maybe he doesnt love the lord as much as you thought. I don't know, but I can share my experience and the hope that I found.
I dated my husband for 5 years and sought the lord. I felt like he was who God had for me. He loved the Lord. He had aspirations to be a pastor. He was a true worshipper and a musician. He knew scripture. His heart was for ministry. He came from a good family and was well known in the church. His parents were youth pastors. After a year and a half of marriage he turned on God, me, and himself. He became abusive. He stopped going to church. He stopped praying. He had no aspirations. He did a complete 180. I even had people shocked because as they said, "I thought he was a big teddy bear."
It hurts a lot, but I've had to find myself in the Lord only. No matter what we do, we cannot control how our loved ones will respond. We are all capable of doing 180's...every single one of us. The lord is your strength. You shall not want.

 

[redemption]

I have no advice at this point. Just prayers and the reassurance for you that this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. I'll keep you sister.

 

[psychomom]

Brenna, honey, I'm so sorry.

I will pray that the Lord, Who is Light, will bring all things that are in darkness to the light, and that the truth of this matter will be known.
I encourgae you to be careful not to hold God responsible for whatever poor choices your husband may have made. (not that I see this in you, my love, but it tends to be the natural man's reaction to heartache..."Why have you done this, Lord?") Though your husband may not be faithful, Jesus IS Faithful. You need Him, especially now, dear heart. Don't let this situation make you angry with Him, or disappointed in Him. Did He know this would happen? Absolutely! Did He allow this in your life? For sure! And does He have a plan for it all? You know He does. ♥
You can't see clearly what the end will be, but just as you had faith He had the power to redeem you, so now I encourage you to trust in His power to care for you, even in this.

I have prayed for you both, Brenna. Hold fast to God. Draw nearer and nearer. Allow Him to comfort you, sweet life. He's terrific at it.

Love,
ellie

 

[Ugly]

Also, if you mean he cheated physically, a one time accident is a lot different than a continual behind the scenes romance. Either way, its a tough situation and i hope some positive resolution can come out of it all somehow. Just keep praying.

 

[brokenheart69]

It is unclear for me to tell exactly what happen. How he was unfaithful. But we should not jump in and blame (GOD)Jesus for the actions of man. Satan is the one that runs around seing who can Kill, what he can still from you, and how he can destroy your happiness and your faith in GOD. I will keep you in my prayers.

 

[Lucy68]

Hi Brenna,
So sorry you're going through this pain! Are you sure your husband has been unfaithful?

I think God does leads us to our spouses but remember these spouses are still 'imperfect', just like we all are imperfect and have sinful natures.

Have you talked to your husband? Please go to him first and talk to him about what you're thinking.

 

[GOD_IS_LOVE]

I just want to say that I feel for you. I can't even begin to imagine what that must feel like and how hard it must be. I pray the Lord gives you both the grace you need to work things through. Also, don't blame God for mistakes humans make. May God be with both of you!

 

[Deadtosin]

A man can fall away from his faith. Be it television, a friend, coworkers or whatever, Satan uses every tool at his disposal to lead God's sheep astray. I am very sorry for your situation, it is a very sad thing. The farther we walk from God's path and onto the path of the world the more blind we become. (television, movies and music) are really bad at defiling that which is within us. We begin absorbing the self serving immoralities of the world through our eyes and our ears and it eventually reaches to our heart and into our mind. Your husband is probably feeling very sick at himself right now, likely he doesn't feel worthy of God, and the voice that whispers that in his ear is Satan himself. I will be praying.

 

[Candy2]

Hey there, your husband like us all is just another imperfect human being. We all have lessons to learn in life. God I believe is doing something in his life but as a wife we need to find that extra strength to be there for our husbands and family and ourselves. Don't be upset and feel too discouraged thinking God has left your side. He never does but hang in there keep praying and watch God do his thing. I too am currently wondering how my husband who I trusted so much would be unfaithful but I t makes no sence we search this world for answers it would b too tiring. It is hard but I am trying to draw closer to God at this time. I took him for granted and I believe he has alloed this to happen to draw me closer to him. Cuz despite how angry I am sometimes when I think of the situation all I want is to be with my husband and let God work us out. Keep praying, I'll be praying for u and others like us..........all the best love

 

[ed12]

Hi Brenna,
What a wonderful lesson. You have been crushed, once. God so loves the world. How must He be suffering? How much must Jesus be suffering? We are called "to share in His sufferings." There is an older song, "Walk a mile in my shoes." I think Jerry Lee Lewis may have sung this song as well. You, Brenna have walked but one step in Jesus's shoes. Dwell on this, pull the lesson this way and that, because His lessons are multifaceted. Don't waste the lesson. You know what is true, what is faithful, what is love. Hold onto these constants as you search the lesson. Know this, the greater your love, the greater your faith, trust, the less you fear and the more you can cope. You take the pain and turn it into a positive, an understanding any thing which gives you growth in Him. Look to yourself. What has happened because of his actions has caused some change in you. Discount any queries regarding God and Jesus.. But where you are IS where He wants you. Give thanks, give thanks give thanks, this is so so so very important. If you feel you don't really have understanding, fast until understanding comes. Understanding will come if you really desire it.
love in Jesus
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