How do parents REALLY view their kids?

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I never really thought about it until recently. I've realized how many parents talk about their kids like they're annoying nuisances who are always getting in trouble and costing time and money. Like last night I heard this lady (like alot of other parents I've heard) say "I could have killed that kid." It didn't really bother me when I first heard it, but now that I think about it, it bothers me. I know she was just joking, but still how could someone say something like that jokingly? Or another time I was in line at this store, and the lady in front of me was talking about what "a pain in " her daughter was. She kept going on and on about how her daughter was making her life so miserable, but then she ended it with "...but I still love her. Or there's this lady that my aunt knows who blatantly tells people she hates kids. She won't do anything with my aunt if she knows I'm going to be there. She doesn't even know me, but she hates me. I mean, I hear all these people (who are nice people) talk about how kids are always in the way, getting in trouble, annoying, and a pain. I've never thought about it before, but do parents just say that they love their kids becuse they have to. I mean, I always hear people who are good parents and all that, but they talk about their kids like they're dumb, annoying, idiotic things.
 
selfishness.
that is what you hear being spoken of. if you want them to stop and if you want to see if they truly love their kids (because some people do not sadly love their kids) just ask if they would rather not have kids.

not all parents love their kids, but thank God that most do. it is more do they love God or do they love themselves and their selfish desires more?

My kids annoy me at times but all the annoyance in the world is worth that smile and that hug that says "we love you mom"

We love God because He first loved us. Our kids love us because we first show them love and affection and care. kids who have parents who do not love them as they should have more problems and issues that can only be healed by the grace and love of God.

as for that lady, she most likely hates not being the center of attention and it is about having to share more than anything.
 
Selenah, this very thing has been on my heart for several days now. Some parents can't or do not know how to love their children. It makes my heart sad, and I know it makes God's heart sad too. I have been praying for those children so much lately--it hurts my heart so much I can hardly stand it.

On the other hand, it is sometimes difficult to be a parent. Sometimes parents complain about their children as a way to vent frustration, like a person might complain about their job or their spouse. When they say these things it might mean, "I wish I didn't have children," but it could also mean, "I'm so frustrated and tired! I just need a break!!!" My husband often says things like my daughter is "naughty" or "being a brat" because he has less patience than I do and she wears him out quicker than she does me, but I KNOW that he loves her with all his heart and would give anything he had to keep her safe and happy.

I think MOST parents love their children so soooo much, but not all parents know how to show it, or have a lot of patience to handle children, or even know how to be good parents. If this issue is strongly on your heart, you could always become a mentor to younger children. Even if a child has a "rough" upbringing, research shows that it only takes one strong role-model to help that child grow up to become a healthy, productive adult.

Thanks for your post. Be blessed.
 
Most parents actually do love their children. It's essential for a child to be loved and cared for by their parents until that child grows up to be independent. However, I think my parents love me only because I am their son and they have cared for me since I was a baby. My parents will always love me unconditionally but that's what I don't like. No matter what my personality is like they'll still love me. So they don't love me for who I am but for the aforementioned reasons. I guess it's better this way for child development but after that I find that this kind of love is unnecessary.
 
As a father who has dealt with (a) a broken home (one daughter), and (b) a prodigal offspring (another daughter), I can tell you that not a day has gone by in my life that I have not thought about them. I love them both and would do anything for them. That doesn't mean that I don't get exasperated with them at times, especially the prodigal, and I may even voice my frustrations at those times; but that doesn't change the fact that they are dearer to me than anything on this earth.

Parents want the best for their children. That means that they want them to grow up into healthy, happy, productive adults. When they show signs that this may not necessarily be happening, parents may get a little "testy" about the situation. I guess when that happens children should bear with their parents the way that their parents bear with them. ;)
 
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