i dont know if its me who attracts cheaters what it is im done bein hurt help plz? :(

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it seem like no matter what girl i meet seems to me like i get all the cheaters who wanna hurt me sometimes i feel its that im to sweet or that i look terrible all i want is advice on how to stay away from cheaters because 13 times is enough and i would love to just get help on what i could do so plz comment with adive that will help me i apperiate it :)
 
The key here is you are repeating a pattern. You are going for the same type of females, probably without even realizing it. This is the same concept as the girl who complains 'i keep ending up with abusive me and i don't know why'. There is something in your past, or personality that gears you towards women that are unfaithful. Most traits can be picked up by people subconsciously, but the problem is it doesn't enter our conscious so we can't learn from it.
I'd suggest doing some research on the type of behavior that women who cheat put out and keep your eyes peeled for this behavior. Also, take a look at yourself, or your past and find why it is you keep gearing yourself towards these types of women.
Also, i believe authors Townsend and Cloud, Christian psychologist, have a book on learning to spot unsafe people. I believe the book is called Safe People. They also have a series of books, the first one is called Boundaries. I'd suggest that book and maybe look into others they have. Books on reading body language could also help you spot things in people. The Definitive Book on Body Language by Allan Pease would be a good one.
Really this is just a matter of becoming aware of what in your past triggers this habit, and making yourself aware of the red flags of these types of women. Hope this helps.
 
it seem like no matter what girl i meet seems to me like i get all the cheaters who wanna hurt me sometimes i feel its that im to sweet or that i look terrible all i want is advice on how to stay away from cheaters because 13 times is enough and i would love to just get help on what i could do so plz comment with adive that will help me i apperiate it :)
You need to stop playing the dating game, get serious about God and your relationship with Him, before its too late! You are young, as if you claim to be a follower of Christ, and are getting involved with women who cheat or whatever, do you actually think you are on the narrow road that leads to eternal life?

Wake up, get on fire for God and His truth, and you will be hated, lonely, despised, abandoned, and the women God brings you way will be the right one.

Get your priorities straight, which is God first, and obeying Him with all your heart, mind and soul!



Have you escaped?

2Pe 1:4 Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.

How does one become a partaker in the divine nature of God? Does it come from some magical transfer? Or is it something much more that requires the broken repentant heart to do.

We know that the exceedingly great and precious promises of God are not to be taken lightly, as they encompass the whole existence of the true convert, who has come into the kingdom through real repentance towards God, followed by a real obedient faith towards Jesus Christ. Acts 20-21.

Now all this comes together when you understand what it means when Peter said, “Having Escaped” which means it already happened, it’s not an ongoing dilemma, that occurs somewhere down the road when God decides to equip the struggling sinner with some mysterious power to escape.

Either you have escaped the corruption that is in the world through its lust, or you are still in bondage, unable to be partakers of His divine nature, and dead to His great promises that come only to the obedient and righteous heart.

For those who profess Christ, and claim they are still addicted to their flesh, such as fornication, drunkenness, drug abuse, immorality, outbursts of anger, and adultery, etc.they are not true saints of God as they think they are.

But many have come into the fictitious kingdom that gladly accepted them still in bondage to sin and worldliness, because some charismatic Bible pundit told them they were born depraved, and now Jesus in their remedy. They do nothing, especially having to escape the corrupt world, and the lust of it as commanded, thus they remain carnal sold under sin, and a prisoner of their very own conceived notions that sears their conscience and hardens their heart as they sin with impunity against God, becoming numb to any and all conviction, leaving them in a very dangerous state leading to condemnation unless they wake up and repent on the scale of Nineveh!

Rom 6:21 What fruit did you have then in those things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death.

It’s simple good fruit (obedience, holiness, purity, humility) leads to eternal life IF you continue in these God given virtues, but bad fruit (willful sin, rebellion, complacency, addictions) leads to death!

Have you escaped? Or are you still in bondage to your flesh, producing
 
it seem like no matter what girl i meet seems to me like i get all the cheaters who wanna hurt me sometimes i feel its that im to sweet or that i look terrible all i want is advice on how to stay away from cheaters because 13 times is enough and i would love to just get help on what i could do so plz comment with adive that will help me i apperiate it :)
One thing that I've noticed is that you've already had 13 relationships and you're only 20. That's like one a year since the age of 7. If that number is right then I think you definitely need to take a lot more time evaluating the person you're attracted to before getting serious with them.
 
Some great advice here...hopefully you will try & apply a bit of it. Yer' so young yet...slow down man...you have your whole awesome life ahead of you yet...just continue to get stronger with God,let him do the rest. The more time you spend with God..I think you'll spot those women with a giant red flag over their heads!
 
thanks guys and it wasnt since i was 7 a year each only 1 lasted a year in a half the other lasted 4 to 5 months
 
I agree with what Ugly has said. 13 times? That is just horrible to experience :(

Asked what was good, the hare said "It is good to see a dog before it sees you" - Chechen proverb.
 
thanks guys and it wasnt since i was 7 a year each only 1 lasted a year in a half the other lasted 4 to 5 months


It sounds like you've been in a relationship since the moment you could have one, and honestly, you probably took anyone who would take you. You've got to remember that nice is different than good. Just because someone is "nice" doesn't mean they're a good person. Take some time to be single and follow Ugly's advice. Read that book! Boundaries is a wonderful book and should help you to learn about yourself too.
 
sorry guys i overreacted alil bit it was under 8 i was just upset and wasnt thinking properly