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So, I'm a bit confused.
Back in January my world came crashing down when my husband decided he didnt want to be married anymore. Long story short (I'll spare you the details, cos that's not the point of this thread) is that we've been separated since. I'm now living on the opposite side of the country, trying to move on with my life, but I dont understand his current behaviour.
When this first happened, we kept everything amicable, and obviously over time lost contact. Aside from the occasional text asking 'Do you have my passport' or 'Can you send me this bank document' or whatever, we really don't speak. We dont hate each other, but honestly we have nothing left to speak about...however recently he has begun texting me.
He sends me pics of things he sees (that would only mean something to us and would make no sense to anyone else) and often it will be 'I was just in Kmart and I saw such and such on sale for $xyz (referring to something we may often have looked at, or an item we often purchased). Just today he texted me asking me the answer to a crossword puzzle for his Mother (I was the one who did them with her, so she always got the answers from me), and after I replied, he carried on asking me how things are with me.
I am trying not to be rude, so I politely answer, as briefly as I can and leave it at that. The one time I had to call him and ask him about an important document I needed for my tax.. we ended up having a 20 minute conversation, because he started telling me all about the latest news with family/friends etc. I didn't want to be rude (and I do genuinely care about the wellbeing of his parents particularly as they are elderly and unwell) so I politely let the conversation continue, but in all honesty it's just kinda weird.
I am trying to understand what is going on in his mind? Everytime he contacts me (especially since its usually about something that is relevant only to us- like the picture he sent me) a small piece of me dies again. I had moved past the worst of the pain, and then the memories come flooding back.
So, I guess Im asking what I should do? Do I ask him to completely cut off contact? Do I ask him why he's doing this to me (is there even a reason, or is he just oblivious, and living in a fantasy world where he thinks he can still casually chat to me like a best friend- or is he having regrets and reminiscing what he threw away?)
I'm so confused. Any suggestions/ideas?
Back in January my world came crashing down when my husband decided he didnt want to be married anymore. Long story short (I'll spare you the details, cos that's not the point of this thread) is that we've been separated since. I'm now living on the opposite side of the country, trying to move on with my life, but I dont understand his current behaviour.
When this first happened, we kept everything amicable, and obviously over time lost contact. Aside from the occasional text asking 'Do you have my passport' or 'Can you send me this bank document' or whatever, we really don't speak. We dont hate each other, but honestly we have nothing left to speak about...however recently he has begun texting me.
He sends me pics of things he sees (that would only mean something to us and would make no sense to anyone else) and often it will be 'I was just in Kmart and I saw such and such on sale for $xyz (referring to something we may often have looked at, or an item we often purchased). Just today he texted me asking me the answer to a crossword puzzle for his Mother (I was the one who did them with her, so she always got the answers from me), and after I replied, he carried on asking me how things are with me.
I am trying not to be rude, so I politely answer, as briefly as I can and leave it at that. The one time I had to call him and ask him about an important document I needed for my tax.. we ended up having a 20 minute conversation, because he started telling me all about the latest news with family/friends etc. I didn't want to be rude (and I do genuinely care about the wellbeing of his parents particularly as they are elderly and unwell) so I politely let the conversation continue, but in all honesty it's just kinda weird.
I am trying to understand what is going on in his mind? Everytime he contacts me (especially since its usually about something that is relevant only to us- like the picture he sent me) a small piece of me dies again. I had moved past the worst of the pain, and then the memories come flooding back.
So, I guess Im asking what I should do? Do I ask him to completely cut off contact? Do I ask him why he's doing this to me (is there even a reason, or is he just oblivious, and living in a fantasy world where he thinks he can still casually chat to me like a best friend- or is he having regrets and reminiscing what he threw away?)
I'm so confused. Any suggestions/ideas?