I need a bit of advice.

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Amberjune

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Ok so here it goes. This is a very hard topic for me to talk about but I knew that sooner or later I would have to. And whats a better place to do it other than in front of all my brother and sisters in christ. Anyways... So I live with my two older sisters. One of them is kind of promiscuous. She is a christian she has just fallen away from the lord. She is married but seperated. She thinks that she has to have someone at all times. Anyways. Her husband is extremely psycho. He has tried to rape her several times since they have been speperated. Also to make matters worse they have a beautiful baby boy together. Her husband has pretty much nothing to do with him. My sister since her seperation has just gone down hill majorly. I understand that she is confused and cant make the best of decisions right now but it is getting a bit out of hand. I am always trying offer her advice and its always in the best intrest of her and my nephew. But she seems to ignore me all the time. She always tells me to stop offering it because I know she wont listen. I pray about it often but I just cant find the answers. I am just wondering how I can get through to her. Someone needs to and I feel it should be me. I am the closest friend she has. Shes very hard headed. But I am constantly in fear of what mistake she is going to make next. I understand that she will have to pay for everything she does... But I kind of feel like I might pay if I dont try and make her feel guilty. I am sure that the lord is doing this... but I feel like she isnt listening. She says she wants to change but never acts as though she actually does. I just need advice. Its so much to handle. Please give me some advice. =]
 
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He tried to rape her several times? I hope he is in jail right now and stays there for the next couple of years. A good friend of mine was in a similar situation. What helped her was moving to another place and just make a fresh start. Maybe that will help.
 
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It sounds like the usual acting in the world to me. You know the best thing to do for her is be a prayer warrior and it sounds like you have been. Also your not going to be guilty for something that other people are doing. Also sometimes we aren't meant to have the answers. Instead we are to be faithful to God and live according to his purpose. I hope that helped. God Bless.
 
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ariannaaa

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Oh my word amber my heart just breaks for you. Im really close to my older sister and i cant imagine a situation like that I'm so sorry. I fully understand your want to make her feel guilty- trust me i've felt the same way in similar situations- but sometimes thats not what they need. It sounds like she is probably hurt, insecure, and scared from her marraige.. and probably feeling like she lacks self worth bc of the promiscuity. Its WONDERFUL that youre praying so much for her- you're already doing the best thing you can do. Other than that, I would just love on her more than I ever have. Surround her with Christians who might help rebuild her self worth and remind her that to Christ she is invaluable.

As simple as it may seem, she may need to be reminded that she'll be forgiven all her sins if she repents of them, that what her husband has done is not her fault, that God still loves her and has an amazing plan for her life, and that she is worth- and deserves- so much more than she realizes.

I will definately be praying for you and her. Good luck with everything.