i need help. encouragement. advice. support... something.

[lovedlady]

im 18 years old. i will be 19 in a few weeks actually. i have worked at mcdonalds for the past three years, basically. i have gained so much weight. i never really was happy with my weight before, but i was never actually overweight like i am now. well in the past few months ive picked up smoking.... well in the past week...anytime i get hungry i will go smoke a cigarette and try to convince myself im not hungry. usually it will work but sometimes i still have to get something to eat... when i do it is very little tho. i know this is really unhealthy... but i hate myself anymore. and ya. help me?

 

[woodie]

well smokingt is not the best thing to do hope that smoking hasn't become addicting for you to quit yet it don't help at all i hope you can quit but hey i was Fatish in elementary schol but i had joind like marching band and didn't realy eat that much and nnow i think i'm skinny and plus i drum 4 a band and drum fast so thats quiite a work out. but ya if you get hungery get some sub way or somthing i hope this helps and hope you gett better

 

[DH_Mike]

The best thing I can tell you is know how your body works. Eating small portions at random times will increase your weight dramatically because your body is assuming your starving and instead is eating muscle away which makes you gain weight. Eat something small for breakfest so that way you have energy then something small for lunch and dinner. Also something most people dont know is that when you eat and you sit down or take a nap you gain almost double the weight , after eating take a walk somewhere or do something active. Hope this helps , and always pray and remember WWJD.

TCGB - Mike

 

[ariannaaa]

lovedlady, i wish that you would speak about yourself the way your display name does. yes, its important to take care of yourself for health sake. but not by using cigarettes in order to curb your appetite because youre insecure about your weight.

1 Samuel 16:7 says "Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees, for
man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."

girl honestly if you're looking to find yourself a strong man of God than he'll end up looking at your heart. i know thats hard to realize sometimes since so many guys put emphasis on the physical, but honestly thats not the type of man who is going to treat you how you deserve to be treated anyway.

you are ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL no matter what your weight is. i think you need to find your value in Christ and look for your worth in Him because in
Isaiah 43:1-3 it says "Fear not. for I have redeemed you! I have called you by your name. YOU ARE MINE...Since you were precious in my sight you
have been honored and I have loved you." God calls you precious! which means highly esteemed, costly.

i think that if you truly realized how incredibly valuable you are to God, overweight or not, this wouldn't even be an issue.

please try to remember how marvelously and wonderfully you were made.

 

[_breanna]

I understand that losing weight is a struggle. Make sure you're doing it for the right reasons! for healthy mind, body, spirit. As for me I usually take a holistic approach to almost everything, so maybe more supplements? Apple Cidar Vinegar is great as well for losing/maintaing weight. God Bless! it will get better. Pray for strength.

 

[Hillsong]

i know a good way, is if u really dont want to eat food and not smoke at all is ask God and pray that u will fast eating and ur purpose is smoking. so like dont eat for say 2 days and dont smoke at all. i know it may seem hard but God will reward you.

 

[Kathleen]

Belive me of all people I know its hard to lose weight. I have 5 brothers who are all, with the xception of my twin, at the age of trying to find themselves a wife. Living with all boys, and mu ofcourse, i find my self more self consius than I should be.
Basically they all think I am fat. Nd my dad has put me on a fitness regaim where I walk 8 miles aday. This helps me curb my eating habit, but by burning of say 800 calories a day, I am able to eat what I want plus 800calories, if I felt the urge.
But I dont, and I have lost weight this way, and although I am not my ideal weight, I am happy.
FInidng the right foods to eat is also a major factor. I mean 4 mars bars will put 800 calories on you straight away
But that is the temptation that God has put on the Earth for us.

 

[ClimbingUpward]

Will power not to eat mc d's. I used to be 74 kgs, but with will power and exercise, I lost 19kgs of that weight. Run 3 x per week. Count calories. Don't go crazy like i did, I lost an additional 5kg coz I got a little obsessed with loosing weight. Ask God to help you stop smoking, He will take the addiction away, if you want Him to. the biggest thing is getting past the initial feeling of hunger, it takes about 4 -5 days before you stop feeling hungry all the time. Then after that it's smooth sailing. Aim for 1800 calories per day, if you exercise on the day, you can have more than 1800. Do Not have less than 1800 calories. I did that - silly silly silly. I used a weight watchers booklet for counting the calories, but if you look at the back of the food packet, where it says ENERGY, followed by a number. Take that number and divide it by 4.2 Whatever is left, is the total calories in the food/drink.

Anyway, that's my nutritional advice, it worked for me. Hope that helps.

 

[sweetheart728]

well....
im trying to work on my weight also... my weight yo-yos alot...
one min... im losing weight and the next im gaining weight..
and it has nothing to do with what i eat.... because i dont eat alot..
being active helps me lose weight... that and drinking water...
by being active i dont mean excersise per say...

ok like i take the bus to work... so sometimes ill leave out 5 or 10 mins early so i can take the long way....

idk its the lil things that count...

and the whole smoking thing is not a good idea... it actually makes you gain weight

 

[VA2013]

I've actually dealt with the same situation. Well, not the smoking part, but back when I was in elementary and middle school, I used to be extremly overweight. I always hated the way that I looked and it used to really bother me. I always felt insecure because all my friends and family were a lot smaller than me and I always felt the odd person out because of my weight. I've tried diets, I've tried working out, but nothing ever seemed to work. By the summer of 2008 when my parents seperated and I went to live with my mom, I wasn't all that sad about my parents seperating, but at that point in my life, I wasn't even worrying about my weight cause I had so many other things on my mind. So in my 8th grade year at school, I started joining in Drama and TV Production clubs because I was intrested. And over the year, I lost weight and I didn't even notice! When I went and visited my dad back in West Palm, he noticed and told me that I lost a lot of weight. And the rest of my friends and family told me the same thing. And it just amazed me because I've been wanting to lose weight all these years and when I finally don't care about my weight, is when I finally lost some weight and it just gave me another reason to love God because it seemed as if He was waiting until the time is right. Because what you want, is not what you always get, but when you control your spinning emotions and just live your life, then God will give you want you deserve for proving to Him that you're not going to let something simple as weight keep you down. And also keep you distracted from actually doing what you should be focusing on and that's Him.

 

[BeauBLESSED]

Well, miss, I don't know if someone has already offered this to you, but before you take your next puff, think about what you will be getting yourself into if you keep the habit up, ie. gangrene, heart disease, and wrinkles! Just think about how terrible those things will be and it might just kick the habit for you.

And as for the weight problem? Try to substitute the fatty foods for fruits and vegetables, and go for a walk as often as you can; to have a friend join you on your walks might be some good motivation too! =]

When all else fails, I'll put in a prayer for you. All the best for the future! =]

 

[Jordan9]

You've gotten some good practical advice, I've got nothing to add in that department. But, in addition, it's important to want to lose weight for the right reasons. Being upset about your weight could potentially be a sign of underlying self-esteem issues. I know people who have lost weight but still had a pretty negative outlook about themselves, even after becoming what the media calls "thin."

So, lose weight if you want to, but do it for your own well-being, and because you want to, not because you think others want you to.