I need your honest opinion ladies. Personality or looks

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Yez, sure we are more than our earthly vessels:)
Although having your body in harm , sickness etc is not nice and if we can do the best for our bodies then thats good.
Care for them and find encouragement and support and help to care for them , not just "for some bodies only".

It is the soul and inner core of he that most important.
Imagine he in another body or bodies or without body.
A someone whom owns a big chubby overweight body is not automaticly beautiful inside in how they are.I know of overweight people been bullies and done horrid things, calculated and planned and laughed at someone they jealous of who was almost dieing .

It can be an attractive body to you but what if it was taken over by someone horrid...
or an unattractive body to you that you not attracted to but a soul and spirit you attracted to was in the body and everything changed so you attracted..

Imagine a soul, spirit, being you may looooove or be so attracted to, imagine her in lots diffeent bodies.
If she still is who she is, just in diferent bodies.

Do you feel different towards her?
Or are you not still attracted to her for whom she is, deeper level.

Ok, if she lands in an overweight body you may want encourage her to exercise for her health.

But is it not whom she is, her "true colours" that truly attracts you?
What if she landed in one body with a personality you did not approve of du to a harsch life and maybe cut herself in another body....would you still recognise her deeper self and true colours.

Deeper than body and even "personality".
Because who you are as soul, spirit, true colours and true being is more than this.

Buuuuuut personally and body can be improved.

She can heal and improve body and personality if she has a pure soul and good being, deeper level who she is.


Im sorry to hear you cut yourself Rachel.
I almost had such experiences but only cut a tiny bit, not leaving scars.
Maybe you can have them removed with laser and feel like a "fresh start".
Hope you will find someone beautiful and when i say beautiful i mean beautiful in who they are.
And treat you beautifully.


I joined gym but as may mentioned in previous post i have some bad people i try keep away from me who been stalking and violating me and stealing and who are criminals etc..
I just dont feel comfterble untill they gone and i got restrainingorder but that did not help the slightest.Made things worse.
Im not overweight but want build muscle and better health and posture and feel better.

Hope you keep loose weight.


i was used and betrayed very deeply and they dont care what body you have, they will pretend be your friend and then suck you dry on all they can.
Be careful who you date or allow in.


Best wishes to you.

and my choice is : deeper than peronality and looks........

I'm not skinny either (I'm tall-ish at 5'7'' so it's a bit more evenly distributed) and I have physical scars from my past of self-harm, so sometimes I think "No one is gonna want this" so I understand your struggle. I'm at the point now, where that doesn't matter as much. Sometimes it crosses my mind, but God has slowly been working on it with me. Rather, I've been slow learning. :o It's a good thing God is patient!

Looks and physical attraction do play a part. That being said, I think it's more of a combination of both personality and looks. It also depends on how well you know the person. For example, there was this guy I used to think was super attractive. Then I got to know him more and, well, he became...not as attractive. On the flip side, I once met a guy who I thought was "Eh" but the more I got to know him, the more attractive he became to me.

Besides, even if I had the perfect body now, what am I going to look like when I'm 65? Far from perfect. If you (general you) are marrying for looks, those will not last long. Godly character and personality are longer lasting.

We are more than our earthly vessles. :) Congrats on the weight loss, by the way!
 
My ex-husband as 6'1" 400 lbs. I still found him attractive. Taking care of yourself is attractive.
 
I know where you're coming from. I'm 5'4"ish and am a whole 100lb thin. Always been single, have never known if its because of looks or personality, always felt alone, still do a lot.. Just trying to go to the lord with it. :)
 
Be who you are, personally once your ok with who you are people will see how great you are! God bless :D