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'Tis very difficult to find support for non-ADHD children who are living with ADHD parents. Info on reverse (non-ADHD parents living with ADHD kids) is everywhere. My father has full-blown ADHD. He will say one thing one minute and then contradict himself completely the next, refusing to apologize no matter what.
Have heard preachers say, "The cure for ADHD is to spank the child!" Makes me realize how uneducated those preachers are because true ADHD is not a spank-cures-all condition. The brains are completely different from common sense thinking. Have studied autism and Asperger's (which are in same spectrum as ADHD) and am amazed to find that they have same quirks and symptoms as my dad. Used to think my dad was a very talkative autistic person until I started reading up on ADHD.
When kid, I actually thought he was two people taking turns "appearing" in our home because of mood swings (intense concentration and then bursts of anger, etc.). Then we discovered he had ADHD and everything made sense. Ninety-nine percent of symptoms fit him. He cannot read facial expressions or others' feelings. A smirk can become smile to him; a studious expression can mean anger. Causes many misunderstandings.
Blurts out complete wrongs all the time. Examples: 1) Was served two pieces of cake at party. As one of the people who made one cake approaches, he says, "I must say that I like the other person's cake better than the one you made." 2) Sees friend in skirt. Says, "I didn't recognize you because you always look so old when you're not wearing a skirt." 3) Remarks to person who just got haircut, "Oh! I hate it!" 4) When new house is built, says, "I don't like new structures. I wish you had kept the old house. It was prettier."
Trying to figure out how to honor him as a parent without causing friction between us because his normal is so different from the rest of world. He gets angry when I try to tell him the proper way to act in society. Causing me lots of stress since he has very short temper and is stalkish if things do not go his way. Will persist until he can get what he wants. He is a Christian and knows Bible extremely well but does not live it very well.
OK. This has gotten way too long. Just want to know if anyone else is in similar situation. This life of mine is making me short-tempered
Have heard preachers say, "The cure for ADHD is to spank the child!" Makes me realize how uneducated those preachers are because true ADHD is not a spank-cures-all condition. The brains are completely different from common sense thinking. Have studied autism and Asperger's (which are in same spectrum as ADHD) and am amazed to find that they have same quirks and symptoms as my dad. Used to think my dad was a very talkative autistic person until I started reading up on ADHD.
When kid, I actually thought he was two people taking turns "appearing" in our home because of mood swings (intense concentration and then bursts of anger, etc.). Then we discovered he had ADHD and everything made sense. Ninety-nine percent of symptoms fit him. He cannot read facial expressions or others' feelings. A smirk can become smile to him; a studious expression can mean anger. Causes many misunderstandings.
Blurts out complete wrongs all the time. Examples: 1) Was served two pieces of cake at party. As one of the people who made one cake approaches, he says, "I must say that I like the other person's cake better than the one you made." 2) Sees friend in skirt. Says, "I didn't recognize you because you always look so old when you're not wearing a skirt." 3) Remarks to person who just got haircut, "Oh! I hate it!" 4) When new house is built, says, "I don't like new structures. I wish you had kept the old house. It was prettier."
Trying to figure out how to honor him as a parent without causing friction between us because his normal is so different from the rest of world. He gets angry when I try to tell him the proper way to act in society. Causing me lots of stress since he has very short temper and is stalkish if things do not go his way. Will persist until he can get what he wants. He is a Christian and knows Bible extremely well but does not live it very well.
OK. This has gotten way too long. Just want to know if anyone else is in similar situation. This life of mine is making me short-tempered