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Hi, I am new here.
I have for many years felt the loneliness of being a single woman in a lively church with many families, married couples and children. First of all I have to say I personally am not looking - have had too many bad experiences with men and made my decision to remain single when I was six years old. That is not my problem.
I feel very lonely when there are get togethers - such as a church weekend away - where the emphasis on activities is on families and children. I have no problems with people being married and having children if that is their destiny but I feel that I have nothing in common. There is no ministry for singles in our church or as far as I can tell in any of the other churches that I know of around the town where I live. All the preaching, teaching, activities etc seem to be down to families and married people. The singles are literally forgotten or used as babysitters - not so fun if you are not used to children. Christmas, New Year etc are also bad. Nothing is organised for those of us who do not have families in this country or whose families for whtaever reason are not able to get together, or who are dysfunctional.
There are many singles who are feeling the same way in the church and though I am not confident in my capabilities I have felt that there is a real need for ministry to the singles in the church. Sundays are soooo lonely. You go to church in the morning and then the pastor says "Go and have a good time of fellowship with your family!" I have spoken to him about this and he says go ahead and organise something, but what!??
I would be grateful for some ideas that do not involve money and what sort of activities we could do, how we can encourage each other as singles and support each other. I hope I have made myself clear and do not sound like a whinger. I really feel that there is a need in my church and in others so I wonder if anyone had any ideas as to how to get something started.
I have for many years felt the loneliness of being a single woman in a lively church with many families, married couples and children. First of all I have to say I personally am not looking - have had too many bad experiences with men and made my decision to remain single when I was six years old. That is not my problem.
I feel very lonely when there are get togethers - such as a church weekend away - where the emphasis on activities is on families and children. I have no problems with people being married and having children if that is their destiny but I feel that I have nothing in common. There is no ministry for singles in our church or as far as I can tell in any of the other churches that I know of around the town where I live. All the preaching, teaching, activities etc seem to be down to families and married people. The singles are literally forgotten or used as babysitters - not so fun if you are not used to children. Christmas, New Year etc are also bad. Nothing is organised for those of us who do not have families in this country or whose families for whtaever reason are not able to get together, or who are dysfunctional.
There are many singles who are feeling the same way in the church and though I am not confident in my capabilities I have felt that there is a real need for ministry to the singles in the church. Sundays are soooo lonely. You go to church in the morning and then the pastor says "Go and have a good time of fellowship with your family!" I have spoken to him about this and he says go ahead and organise something, but what!??
I would be grateful for some ideas that do not involve money and what sort of activities we could do, how we can encourage each other as singles and support each other. I hope I have made myself clear and do not sound like a whinger. I really feel that there is a need in my church and in others so I wonder if anyone had any ideas as to how to get something started.