I keep coming across the topic that if people are struggling with sexual immorality, impure thoughts, etc, they should get married because that's what the bible teaches.
Now, this is not a scripture that I have looked into but I can't help that think that this scripture (1 Corinthians 7:9) is being taken out of context.
The verse says:
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry,
for it is better to marry than to burn with passion
Okay....here is my view of the scripture.
The verse says "they"...not "you". I believe that if a person is can't control himself, he should focus on God till the fruit of self-control blossoms in his life. He shouldn't enter in a relationship and get married. I won't even get into the verses the follow but I don't believe that a man or woman should marry because of their lack of self-control but if they are in a relationship with each other and they can't control themselves then....even that I struggle with. How much of a dysfunctional marriage will they have if the only reason they're together is because of sex? I can only see more harm than good.
Can you imagine talking to someone or even being that person yourself that says "Well the only reason we are married is because they couldn't control themselves. They were burning inside with lust and so it was easier for us to get married than for him to deal with his lust and to learn to control himself. Basically you would be nothing more than a sex object....like....if we really break it down to layman's terms...that's basically what you would be. An instrument for sex. You would only be there...for sex....how low would you feel? How devalued would you feel?
I think that telling people to marry if they can't control themselves is shocking advice. Absolutely shocking.
Discuss this with me people! Talk me through it!
