I read your other post, judebee. I'd say you have more than enough reason to believe you can leave. But... just because you got bored, or stopped trying in a marriage is not justified. A lot of people get married a few years, get tired of the person, or have a wrong idea about what marriage is, or whatever, and decide they've just changed their mind. God would tell you too bad. But abuse or cheating, God gives us an option.