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videomaniac

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Quick version, cuz i'm on cellphone and hate typing like this.

I had a girlfriend for almost 3 years. I really cared for her and still do. Problems begun when she turned 18 (legal adult age in my country) and she started drinking and going to nightclubs with people i don't really like. After 3 months of constant fighting, we broke up. I still have feelings for her.

She was buddhist but, after we broke up, i taught her christianity and she has learned to adopt it. Problem is she only adopts certain of the stuff i teach her, and doesn't want to change other parts of her, saying she doesn't feel she's doing wrong (when i as a christian know and tell her she is).

Also i met this girl at my university. She's a christian and a good friend of mine. I've talked to her a lot, opened up to her about my personal and love life (including my ex-gf), her mother really likes me (she told me she'd like some1 christian and good student as her daughter's boyfriend... That was after i told her about the things i do as a christian and a good student) and, well, i like this girl. Problem is she has a boyfriend. I used to be in his math class, and i don't think he isn right for her, but i don't want to do anything that could damage their relationship. He's not a christian.

My ex-gf won't open her heart completely to God, and my friend is taken. I ask myself if i should give up on either/both of them. Would you? I still am going to teach christianity to both of them (even though my friend is a christian, she has a lot more to learn).

There's a pastor i really admire and he met his wife was like my friend (she had a bf) but he "stole her away" (it's a really funny story) cuz he knew her bf wasn't right for her and he really liked her.

If asked which one i would pick, i'd say my ex-gf, but she won't fully adopt christianity and i can't be with her unless she changes. We broke up almost a year ago.

Kk so uhmmmmm that's my story. You're welcome to tl;dr it XD but if you read it, tell me what you think, and if you have questions you can make them.

Btw i'm a new user. Welcomes accepted ^^ inb4subliminalmessages
 
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sportygirl

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I would say just let God lead you in either situation. Work on developing a friendship with the one that is just a friend for now, but I wouldnt say actively pursue her, and if her and her boyfriend do break up please don't rush anything, cause even if hes not a christian it takes time to heal from these things.

And about the ex-gf well my question here, is what are your motives for liking each of them, do you really like both and can see yourself with either one depending on circumstances or is there only one you can see yourself with and the other is like a back-up in a sense?

If you do like your ex-gf as well just keep preaching to her, and pray about her and your feelings for her hopefully through that you wil get some answers about what you really need in life. And last of all your still young, just pray and put God first for a while, if you do that I believe he clears a lot of things up.
 
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videomaniac

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I in no way see either one as back-up :3 I still have feelings for my girlfriend, but she's so stubborn when it comes to listening to my advice... I don't know how i could make it work out. Besides, after all our fights, i don't know if she'd give me another chance. We're friends now, though. I started liking my friend because she has those characteristics i look for in a girl (christian, good student, hard-working).

My ex-gf has all but the christian part. I'm not suggesting my friend reminds me of my ex-gf. Their personalities are very different. But if my ex-gf were more willing to change i wouldn't be in such a dilema :/
 
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CatWoman

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Do you really want to be with a girl that is stubborn and wont take your advice? I dont think you can change that about her.
 
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Chrissy85

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my thoughts on the matter are to Pray, then pray some more, and then keep on praying. :)
Sorry to be "boring" and perhaps a little obvious, but God really knows what is best and how to walk with you through the frustrations of singleness.
Much friendship love to you in this challenging time. I wouldn't try and do anything other than seek God and his will, in his timing. Who knows what (and perhaps who) is just around the corner... :)
 
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