My Gal is Red Hot--Your Gal Ain't Doodley Squat!

[seoulsearch]

Hey Everybody:

I was talking to a guy recently who was pretty ticked off because he'd taken a picture of his new girlfriend to work and some of the other guys had commented, "Eh, she's not that hot." (The title of this thread comes from an old song... I think it was from back in the 60's, if anyone's heard it.)

Have you guys (and gals) had this happen to you? Maybe you were dating or interested in someone and everyone around you brushed them off, mostly because of looks? Or maybe you were the one others said wasn't "hot enough". How did you react?

I know that as Christians the ideal answer is: "We are all beautiful in God's sight and what's on the inside is what counts," but we also have to be real, and as everyday people in the everyday world, unfortunately, we face these kinds of criticisms.

A girl I worked with once told me, "No offense Kim, but (my boyfriend) is kind of weird-looking." I told her he had beautiful eyes, great arms (I happen to find arms to be extremely attractive), was good to me, and was very loyal (this was my own personal and probably very snarky and un-Christian-ly jab-under-the-table because the guy she was seeing made it well-known that he was dating her as entertainment on the side because his current girlfriend was pregnant.)

I'm not saying my reaction was right, because like anyone else, I have my moments.

So... what were YOUR reactions to your own experiences in this area? And how do you suggest we should react according to our Christian beliefs?

 

[Liam]

People are shallow

 

[Meridoc]

I agree Liam, my opinion is "everyone" else can shove it.

 

[Liam]

I am now adding you as a friend. Lol

 

[kiwi_OT]

I agree Liam, my opinion is "everyone" else can shove it.

I agree too
Obviously attractedness is only important to the person dating them. We're attracted to them from our own perspective. Shove the rest

 

[Sharp]

He took a picture of his girlfriend and took it to work to show a bunch of guys and ask them what they thought?

What a loser.

He might as well let these guys make out with her.

 

[songster]

Someone explain to me how, in an age when pornography is demeaning women, and binding others to becoming fixated on outward beauty, (as in a thread started not long ago by 'seolsearch'), that we, as christians have begun to adopt the lingo and the media driven personification of beauty?

Each of us want to believe we've done our best when we decide to date or marry, and preferences differ, but compatibility, and how we feel about that special person in our life, should never be subject to someone else's scale of 1 to 10. These are some of the reasons relationships fail. There are relationships primarily based on physical attractiveness, which seem to crumble when 'play time' is over.

These are not the building blocks for a lasting relationship, built on a foundation of Christ. These are typically, temporary romances, with an extremely high degree of the probability of pre-marital sexual activity, because one or both partners have not developed a mature sense of what a real relationship consists of.

When the leading of the Holy Spirit and praying for a godly mate, is exchanged for the latest media gospel of 'who's hot and who's not', we must begin to reconsider just where our focus is.

 

[Matthew]

I was talking to a guy recently who was pretty ticked off because he'd taken a picture of his new girlfriend to work and some of the other guys had commented, "Eh, she's not that hot."

Well that says it all about that guy in my opinion, to do something like that shows he is putting his focus in the wrong place and being sucked into concerns based on vanity.

I have never had it happen to me but it honestly wouldn't matter at all, I would never seek someone's opinion on the physical appeal of my partner, if I found them attractive then that is all that matters, we are all going to come up short in someone else's eyes at some point, whether physically or in terms of attitude or personality.

When it comes to being with someone there is only one opinion that counts and it doesn't come from anyone I know.

 

[seoulsearch]

I agree Liam, my opinion is "everyone" else can shove it.

I really had to laugh at this. Meridoc rocks!

 

[eugenius]

You have some very unique topics and titles. LOL.

What I want to hear is, "my girl has brains and morals. your girl just has looks"

 

[christiancollegegirl]

Ever heard the phrase 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder'? My friends didn't think my boyfriend was all that, but I thought he was very handsome. It's not exactly their opinions that matter now is it?

 

[seoulsearch]

You have some very unique topics and titles. LOL.

What I want to hear is, "my girl has brains and morals. your girl just has looks"

So cool. I'd love to have a guy who said that about me (the brains and morals part! )

And I agree with you 100% CCG--what we think is attractive, someone else might not... but they certainly don't have to criticize us for it!

 

[FixYourWeave]

If somebody doesnt like the way the person im dating looks... ohh well. They dont have to look at him i do, so they can shut it up

 

[Dread_Zeppelin]

Looks are meaningless