Two weeks ago, my wife of ten years (whom I absolutely adore and would sacrifice anything for) has recently decided that I'm a "great guy" but "not the right guy for her". This comes after reconnecting with an old girlfriend of hers from her teen-aged years who is single and who has lost all of her children to her ex's for one reason or another. I love my wife very much, but I think the struggles in our relationship have been amplified greatly by the connection to her old friend, who apparently offers her friendship to my wife, and probably (I'm not privy to their conversations) encourages her to "do what makes her happy", rather than work on our marriage. I'm heartbroken! I can't put into words how I feel, and when I look at our children, knowing that in a few days when my wife decides to tell them that she intends to divorce me...they will be devastated! I have been in constant prayer as has my church family for the last two weeks. My wife went to Arizona (from Kansas) to visit her friend and hasn't called me even once. I'm just lost and I don't know what to do. I've concentrated on spending time with my kids, knowing that the time is coming that my time with them will be limited if she has her way. Please, if anyone out there has been through something like this...I need advice and prayer!!! Thank you all so much!!!
Its a hard road but there is light at the end. It can be hard to see that light till some time passes.
It isn't a good thing that an outside friend has joined the problem. For me, that outside friend
needed a party buddy so it seemed more exciting than our marriage so the marriage lost. In my
case, it also resulted in adultery by her and she got pregnant.
I suggest talking to her about a Christian counselor. By this I mean a counselor that is a Christian and
follows God's Word. My counselor was a professed Christian but directed my wife away from our
marriage.
God would never allow divorce. If she is a Christian, she is a Child of God and I would point out
to her that whoever she has sex with, she is committing adultery if it is anyone other than you.
There are some good help groups in most areas. If you can't find a group in the yellow pages,
you might try contacting local churches to ask. Sometimes several local churches may group
together to form a help group but it is not published in the yellow pages.
The best you can do is try to get her to counseling and point out God's Laws. After that, her
decision may not be what you had hoped, but God will not allow her to make it without a high price.
And, if you are willing, just like the prodigal son, she may want to rebuild your relationship once
she sees the world always gives big promises but those promises are temporary and destroy
everything you hold dear.
