I want to ask for some advice from anyone who has a lot of experience of life, preferably the more negative aspects, and who has come out the other end and made it in some ways; be it a successful marriage, or a happy career, or just someone who has had a rough life and has changed it around.
So a little about me first.
I've always been a deep thinker, I'm creative and I write music and stories and play guitar and drums and piano and I sing and I write songs and I read, I cook a lot and I've been a chef and a painter, I have a lot of skills. I love social settings and people who make me think, who are articulate and can challenge my views and give me something to think about. I spend a lot of time just pondering life, the dynamics of society and how people interact and I'm also quite a good-looking guy, I study hard and I work hard. I don't earn much money at the minute, though I eventually aspire to earn a reasonable wage. I can be quite unmotivated at times but at others I can also be really charged up and ready to go, I suppose a bit like everyone.
But I have a few really deep wounds that I can't seem to get over and I've just really lost my confidence and my faith in humanity. I used to be such an optimist but I've become I suppose, a little bitter and cynical the last few months because of some things that have happened to me and I just can't come to trust people. I'm bored and tired of the world.
My girlfriend recently broke up with me and she said it was just because she wanted to be single and live the single life, but I just can't help thinking that it was because I am inadequate as a person and as a partner.
My father left when I was a young kid and he used to cancel plans on me all the time and I always felt unwanted that way. My mother and step-father are really quite nasty at times, I always find myself feeling very put-down and I've really developed the 'I'm a loser' mentality over the past few years. I honestly can't remember the last time I woke up and I thought 'I'm an adequate human being'. My sisters are very spiteful and always shouting and arguing and my other family members don't really bother with me anymore.
It's just really hard to figure out why people; girlfriends, friends, my family, have all seemed to be so irreverent and dismissive and really quite hurtful to me over the years.
I hold things against myself that happened years ago, childhood mistakes and cringy moments and little lies I told and things that have long since passed. I just can't seem to ever feel proud of myself or to feel satisfied with who I am, I'm always like 'One day I'll be good enough'.
I was bullied in school and I also had a really tough time with mental illness and depression and I was only 16 but my parents expected me to be out, getting a job and going to college and I just couldn't handle it. They would be nasty about it and i was always hearing words like 'lazy' and things.
I'm 23 now and I'm studying hard and trying my best to progress as a human being.
I just want to tell my story really and have someone listen without all the put downs, but also I want to ask some advice on how I can have maybe a successful marriage and be happy because I really feel quite miserable but I have to put on a show for everyone else.
So a little about me first.
I've always been a deep thinker, I'm creative and I write music and stories and play guitar and drums and piano and I sing and I write songs and I read, I cook a lot and I've been a chef and a painter, I have a lot of skills. I love social settings and people who make me think, who are articulate and can challenge my views and give me something to think about. I spend a lot of time just pondering life, the dynamics of society and how people interact and I'm also quite a good-looking guy, I study hard and I work hard. I don't earn much money at the minute, though I eventually aspire to earn a reasonable wage. I can be quite unmotivated at times but at others I can also be really charged up and ready to go, I suppose a bit like everyone.
But I have a few really deep wounds that I can't seem to get over and I've just really lost my confidence and my faith in humanity. I used to be such an optimist but I've become I suppose, a little bitter and cynical the last few months because of some things that have happened to me and I just can't come to trust people. I'm bored and tired of the world.
My girlfriend recently broke up with me and she said it was just because she wanted to be single and live the single life, but I just can't help thinking that it was because I am inadequate as a person and as a partner.
My father left when I was a young kid and he used to cancel plans on me all the time and I always felt unwanted that way. My mother and step-father are really quite nasty at times, I always find myself feeling very put-down and I've really developed the 'I'm a loser' mentality over the past few years. I honestly can't remember the last time I woke up and I thought 'I'm an adequate human being'. My sisters are very spiteful and always shouting and arguing and my other family members don't really bother with me anymore.
It's just really hard to figure out why people; girlfriends, friends, my family, have all seemed to be so irreverent and dismissive and really quite hurtful to me over the years.
I hold things against myself that happened years ago, childhood mistakes and cringy moments and little lies I told and things that have long since passed. I just can't seem to ever feel proud of myself or to feel satisfied with who I am, I'm always like 'One day I'll be good enough'.
I was bullied in school and I also had a really tough time with mental illness and depression and I was only 16 but my parents expected me to be out, getting a job and going to college and I just couldn't handle it. They would be nasty about it and i was always hearing words like 'lazy' and things.
I'm 23 now and I'm studying hard and trying my best to progress as a human being.
I just want to tell my story really and have someone listen without all the put downs, but also I want to ask some advice on how I can have maybe a successful marriage and be happy because I really feel quite miserable but I have to put on a show for everyone else.