Newly single and dealing with it.

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Georgio

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Hello Christian Chat. I suppose I'm writing this in hopes of reaching others in my position.
First off, praise be to Jesus that he's done so much for us. God helps us in our weakest hour. I gave my life back to Him two days ago.
I was in a relationship with a girl for 8 months until yesterday. This was not a Godly relationship in the slightest. Fornication, drugs, and everything in between were what we had with eachother. I couldn't even trust her because I was lied to on occasion, but she grew on me and grew on me until I became dependent on her affection and 'love'. However, I suppose God didn't give this relationship to us, we just sort of took it. In recent weeks, I've been feeling convicted by having no purpose with this relationship (and my whole life for that matter). After realizing that God was the one who was tugging at my heart to come home, and with the help of some very good friends at a biblestudy (thank God for friends), I realized that it was time for this relationship to end. 1 Cor. 15:33 says: "Do not be mislead: Bad company corrupts good character" so I knew what had to be done. I needed to cut myself from this girl. Now I know that 8 months is miniscule, but I grew along side her and became so used to her that she was almost a part of me. I had tried in the past to break up with her three times... Each time I tried, it was impossible because I was just too dependent on her. I became a nervous wreck, constanly worrying if she was thinking of me... It sounds nearly romantic, but trust me when I say that I've never been so miserable. I prayed and prayed and prayed for strength because I knew it was going to be hard. My biblestudy also prayed with me, and for me.
I went to her yesterday knowing that I was going to try and even though it felt like an impossibility, I just kept remembering that I'm not the only one pulling the yoke anymore. The Holy Spirit was with me. Needless to say, it was hard... I don't want to get into too much detail as this is a Christian website and there are children... But guys, you know what I mean when I tell you that when a girl wants you and you have been involved with her, it's nearly impossible by your own strength to refuse it... Especially when they know what makes you tick. But while she was tempting me, I just kept on praying and pranying and praying while she was tempting me and I, all of a sudden, had the strength to say "I don't want to do this anymore". There you have it... God delivers.

Now I am single and I feel a huge void within me. It feels like I've torn off a piece of me and I'm slowly bleeding out. I know that as time passes, I'll learn to let God fill that void more and more. I find much comfort when I pray now and when I think of Jesus. All things considered, I'm better off now. I now have a relationship with my Lord and Saviour... and I'm no longer in a relationship that I could never (even though I tried) have faith in. So I guess my point is: If you ever find yourself in a position like mine, have faith in Jesus and He will provide comfort. He promises this in Matthew 11:28-30.

Thanks for taking the time to read,

Georgio
 
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Georgio

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Note: I realize some sentence structure in there that doesn't make sense. Just read through it.
 
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DABEARS85

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You are 19. Don't worry so much. The key thing you need to learn is to love yourself first and foremost. Love makes you vulnerable and dependent, which isn't a bad thing, but you need to make sure you only give it to the right girl. The thing that really stands out to me was you were so dependent and clingy with her that you now feel a void in your life. You let her control your happiness instead of controlling it yourself. It's natural, but fill that void back up with your own interests. Fill it with God and hobbies and whatever else will pass the time for you. Work on making yourself happy instead of needing others to do it for you, and you will find someone again without even looking. The next time however, you will be a stronger person for it, and you will be able to say "no" to things that you don't need or want in your life.
 
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Paws4Jesus

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Well young man I can tell you this. My marriage is over, as of the 30th of this month I will be a 50 yr old divorced Christian lady. Now, my plans are, find things to occupy my time, do more work with animals, getting out to more christian gatherings, and spending more time with the friends that are still there for me, that I neglected in my marriage. Yes, i am from an era where you put your husband first, your friends understand ... however many of my friends are NOT from that era and didn't. I lost a few good friends so am learning moderation. Yes spouse can come first (ONLY after GOD AS HE is the true FIRST) however friends that are true are there for you no matter what. The hardest part for me comes on my days off. I am blessed to have a farm so there is always work to do however there are times you would like a nice man there to help when it is 99 degrees out. I praise GOD each day He keeps my puppies and ponies happy and healthy and gives me the energy to care for the farm and work my 40 hour a week job as well. I won't look for another spouse, boyfriend etc. Right now I am happy to serve God and if there is a man out there, in whom I can see CHRIST FIRST, and then him, then so be it. If not, well, each day I get stronger, I learn just how independant I am, how strong I am, and a relationship is ALWAYS better when you realize that person is one you WANT in your life, NOT NEEDED. I shall never again lose my identity, give up my strength to another human. It is God's gift to me, and I shall cherish it. God bless you !!! Stay strong!!
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I didnt read anything anyone said, but i wll say georgio thats a cool avatar
 
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