I just had a situation, praying with & assisting a neighbour in her faith. she grew up in a christian home, her husband's roots are also Christian... they are both so far from the Lord, or were. Sometimes the Lord has to bring us to our knees before we get diligent about our relationship with him & with others and exhibiting fruits of the spirit. I hesitate to recommend anything for the Lord is all powerful in all things. I do know that you have made your requests known with thanksgiving to a Lord who is present right beside you and knows your needs before even you do. I know that God's will for marriage is that it stay together, that covenant between you and the Lord & your wife remain unbroken. Unfortunately there also is free will, this your wife has. I will pray for you the way I prayed for my friend. I will pray for your wifes heart to soften towards you and I will pray for you to have confidence in who you are and how valuable you are that a phone call will cause you no distress whatsoever. You too, pray for your wifes heart to soften & another thing, remember when we forgive one another we should try to do it as Christ did it for us... its washed away, it never happened it is as far away from you as the east is from the west. Dont allow satan to mess with your mind by reminding you of fights or arguments that should remain in the past. Bless your heart and know that no matter what your trials the Lord absolutely will show you through.
My advice to you... stop holding on so tight, dont ask who she's talking to... be the man, doing your jobs, being there, being gentle, not suspicious, try to go against the flesh and just exhibit the fruits of the spirit for a time. Pray & fast for a day too. Change things up a little so she remembers what she stands to lose