please pray my marriage is in trouble

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carolina_kat

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What do u do when your husband ogles other women and has lost complete interest in you. I have tried everything to make sparks but I get nothing. Please Pray for my marriage and for the hurt to stop.
 
Dec 5, 2012
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There is nothing I can say that may make you feel better. We get closer to Jesus trough suffering. Reading the bible is good, but prayer is more powerful. You must calm your anxious heart. Give your suffering to Christ, He wants to carry it for you. When you pray, meditate in the passion of Christ. It is there that he took all our sufferings. Let God guide you trough this troubled times. Do not listen to what society says you should do. Listen to what God says. Have faith in Him, you know many times something does not make sense but after some time you can see how blessed you had been. This too will be a blessing someday if you just let Christ carry this burden. Pray, Pray and when you are done, pray some more. God bless!
 

Lucy68

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I'm so sorry you're hurting right now :(. It definitely is not ok for your husband to 'ogle other women'. Jesus said that just the thought of committing adultery was the same as committing it. Is your husband a Christian?

It's a proven fact...people will let you down and hurt you, even your spouse. That's why it's so important for us to have a close relationship with Christ. Only God can fill that empty place in our hearts and fill it perfectly. We can't expect perfection from fallen mankind (including ourselves). It's only through redemption that we can make sense of the world.

Have you talked to him about how much it hurts you when he does this? How has he responded?

Praying for you...strength and guidance. May the Spirit lift you up and advise you in your relationship with your husband.

Do you attend Church? It's a great place to learn about God and find love and support :).
 
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MarkayMrk777

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Get closer to God together. Read bible, pray together.
Get a daily devotional for couples, set a time every night / morning
to read it together.

God is the source of Love in any relationship.

A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. - Ecclesiastes 4:12
 
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zaoman32

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praying for you guys.
 
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Songbird_7

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I know how this feels. My husband openly admitted to me (and I respect him for that because it was hard for him) that he has a problem looking at other women. Hey, we're not blind, right? If I see a good lookin guy, I might be tempted to look one more time. But it's definitely a problem if it goes beyond that. Sounds like he has an issue with lust. Has he always done this and does he know how it makes you feel? What about porn? I know that can be a huge problem in a marriage. Do you guys have other issues going on besides this? Pray for the conviction of the Holy Spirit that your husband will realize this is sin. If he's not in a right relationship to God, he may not even feel that what he's doing is wrong. Talk to him about it.
 
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In trying to deal with lust. I would like to show you a video that may help you guys see our bodies differently. in the light of God. It may not immediately remove this feelings but I think it might help. Let me know what you think of it if you'd like.

Link ---> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X0-wXODqTsU
 

OnThisRock

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I'm sorry you are going through this! Make sure you are taking care of yourself during and through this. Get more support. Unfortunately this is not an uncommon thing. There are many women who go through this and think they are alone. Try and find another trusted Christian woman who has or gone through similar things, or a Christian therapist. Praying for you!
 
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wolfywolfs

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you could always tell him if your going to ogle other woman i will do it to men, if he disagrees with you fine you can talk and sort something out come to an understanding, and if he doesnt well thats just not good
 
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:( reading your story and family situation...

God bless you!!!
 
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brokenclay

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What do u do when your husband ogles other women and has lost complete interest in you. I have tried everything to make sparks but I get nothing. Please Pray for my marriage and for the hurt to stop.
Dear sister, it wasn't long ago a brother named Steven was on here. His wife left him in torment. He is hurting badly as well. More and more marriages are being destroyed because one spouse is mature or immature. Lust takes over and their gone. Leaving behind a hurting spouse and often children. Please don't throw away your life for a few years of pleasure. Their sins will correct them. I'm reading a book titled "All THINGS ARE POSSIBLE THROUGH PRAYER ".by Charles L. Allen. I pray God will keep give you strength and increase your faith. I pray God will open your husbands eyes to see the beautiful woman he gave him. Take care.
 
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gr8faith

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There is hope to restore your marriage to where it used to be. God can heal your relationship. Look to God and he will answer. Check out:

Real Hope for Hopeless Marriages At Last

May God bless you and restore you and heal your hurting heart.
 

JGPS

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What do u do when your husband ogles other women and has lost complete interest in you. I have tried everything to make sparks but I get nothing. Please Pray for my marriage and for the hurt to stop.
That's quite a serious issue. When you talk to him about it what does he say?

Have you considered trying to find a way to have a 'getaway weekend' or other kind of special event\date\time together?

Prayer may be all you have, it sounds like you've done your part and there is a problem on his end that needs to be resolved.