I need to ask for some prayers for my core family, namely my father. We are very close to each other and supportive to no end but that doesn't mean we are perfect.
When my dad got my mom pregnant he dedicated his entire life to his new family, he worked non-stop to provide everything within his means for us. My sister was born 3 years after me and the first 17-18 years of my life are the best I've ever had. I regularly have dreams about us purchasing my childhood home and living together again. The problem here is that my fathers solution to any kind of difficulty ever since my birth has been to work harder. About 20 years ago my entire family self destructed, I got into drug's, my mom got into a car accident, and my sister moved a few hours away for college. At one point I was in the basement affraid that someone upstairs would hear me breath, 4 years in total I had no human contact. My mom has spent many many years in severe chronic pain and was for all intensive purposes bed ridden. The whole time my father hunkered down and worked harder. He has almost never done anything for himself to the point I once saw him legitimately wearing a pair of sunglasses missing an arm and a lens, he just wouldn't let them go and swore there was nothing wrong with them.
Within the past year or two I wrote a facebook post about how amazing my father is and posted it on facebook and then emailed it to him. It mentioned that I had everything I needed as a child and he not only didn't miss a single little league game he coached it and we took first place one year. He is above and beyond a great father.
So the reason I need prayers; I just had a conversation with my mother and we are both worried about him. He works 7 days a week morning to night. I am with him 6-10 hours of the day but he is doing office work and answering the phone before and after my time with him. Until a few month's ago I was working 7 day's a week and had been doing so for the past 13 years. I think it was yesterday, but we stopped at a gas station so I could use the restroom and I asked him if we had any water, he said yeah there is some frozen water in the back and I shouldn't buy any. Well I have been realizing that the frozen water is only a trickle while waiting for it to thaw so after the bathroom break I literally took 2 extra minutes to buy two waters for $2.50 and when he saw that he threw a complete fit. Going fast over bumps and swinging the van around corners and complaining that he isn't done when he goes home, he doesn't get to play video games like me. I was just waiting for things to escalate so it could become a confrontation.
Here is the part where I somewhat defend my father and explain his side of thing's. My mother is rather needy because though she can now get out of the house thanks to her luxury SUV (the last surgery did the trick, was a back surgery), it is all very new to her. She is used to dwelling in a bed for well over a decade and nagging at my dad. My sister got pregnant 6ish years ago and married a man who while I love him like a brother, he literally does nothing. He has a job as a security guard so he commutes to the other end of town only to stand around and walk around, then comes home and works out then sit's on the couch. The only bill he pays is the comcast bill and he doesn't even take out the trash. Now I can't fault him entirely because my sister is a border line horder, she goes through cycles of buying things she never uses and throwing away things she never used. She has two bedrooms that you can't walk through and every room of the house is a disaster. He on the other hand used to cope by having a tidy home. Also my sister racked up $15-20k in credit card debt a couple years ago mostly on amazon and some shoe website. Still my dad just solves it by working harder.
My mom in the past has taken up her time by making financial demands as well. And I'm no stranger to it. We have a massive amount of money go in and out of our hands, a lot of it being taxes and business expenses. So my father has a lot on his plate. With that said, he will NEVER have enough money and my mother is honestly afraid he is going to have a heart attack and die. She almost teared up a little when she said that. The thought had never crossed my mind because I couldn't function if that happened, but I'm afraid she has a point. He is stressed non-stop and will literally go back to back to back to back phone calls where he cuts one customer short saying he has to answer the other line, all this while being out in the field working.
I love my father deeply, but something needs to change.
When my dad got my mom pregnant he dedicated his entire life to his new family, he worked non-stop to provide everything within his means for us. My sister was born 3 years after me and the first 17-18 years of my life are the best I've ever had. I regularly have dreams about us purchasing my childhood home and living together again. The problem here is that my fathers solution to any kind of difficulty ever since my birth has been to work harder. About 20 years ago my entire family self destructed, I got into drug's, my mom got into a car accident, and my sister moved a few hours away for college. At one point I was in the basement affraid that someone upstairs would hear me breath, 4 years in total I had no human contact. My mom has spent many many years in severe chronic pain and was for all intensive purposes bed ridden. The whole time my father hunkered down and worked harder. He has almost never done anything for himself to the point I once saw him legitimately wearing a pair of sunglasses missing an arm and a lens, he just wouldn't let them go and swore there was nothing wrong with them.
Within the past year or two I wrote a facebook post about how amazing my father is and posted it on facebook and then emailed it to him. It mentioned that I had everything I needed as a child and he not only didn't miss a single little league game he coached it and we took first place one year. He is above and beyond a great father.
So the reason I need prayers; I just had a conversation with my mother and we are both worried about him. He works 7 days a week morning to night. I am with him 6-10 hours of the day but he is doing office work and answering the phone before and after my time with him. Until a few month's ago I was working 7 day's a week and had been doing so for the past 13 years. I think it was yesterday, but we stopped at a gas station so I could use the restroom and I asked him if we had any water, he said yeah there is some frozen water in the back and I shouldn't buy any. Well I have been realizing that the frozen water is only a trickle while waiting for it to thaw so after the bathroom break I literally took 2 extra minutes to buy two waters for $2.50 and when he saw that he threw a complete fit. Going fast over bumps and swinging the van around corners and complaining that he isn't done when he goes home, he doesn't get to play video games like me. I was just waiting for things to escalate so it could become a confrontation.
Here is the part where I somewhat defend my father and explain his side of thing's. My mother is rather needy because though she can now get out of the house thanks to her luxury SUV (the last surgery did the trick, was a back surgery), it is all very new to her. She is used to dwelling in a bed for well over a decade and nagging at my dad. My sister got pregnant 6ish years ago and married a man who while I love him like a brother, he literally does nothing. He has a job as a security guard so he commutes to the other end of town only to stand around and walk around, then comes home and works out then sit's on the couch. The only bill he pays is the comcast bill and he doesn't even take out the trash. Now I can't fault him entirely because my sister is a border line horder, she goes through cycles of buying things she never uses and throwing away things she never used. She has two bedrooms that you can't walk through and every room of the house is a disaster. He on the other hand used to cope by having a tidy home. Also my sister racked up $15-20k in credit card debt a couple years ago mostly on amazon and some shoe website. Still my dad just solves it by working harder.
My mom in the past has taken up her time by making financial demands as well. And I'm no stranger to it. We have a massive amount of money go in and out of our hands, a lot of it being taxes and business expenses. So my father has a lot on his plate. With that said, he will NEVER have enough money and my mother is honestly afraid he is going to have a heart attack and die. She almost teared up a little when she said that. The thought had never crossed my mind because I couldn't function if that happened, but I'm afraid she has a point. He is stressed non-stop and will literally go back to back to back to back phone calls where he cuts one customer short saying he has to answer the other line, all this while being out in the field working.
I love my father deeply, but something needs to change.
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