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givenfaith

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My husband and I have been married for 8+ years and have 2 children. Our marriage is far from happy and the idea of divorce has been mentioned many times by both of us. My husband was baptized Christian about 5 years ago after being raised Roman Catholic, I did not see the truth until last year and was baptized in the same church that my husband had been attending with our children. For several months now, he has been making it known that he is irritated that our children listen to Christian music and only has negative things to say when I try to talk to him about the wonderful things that God has done in my life. He finally told me yesterday that he felt that I should put him first in my life, before God. He said that he puts me and the kids before God in his life. I told him that that is not how it is supposed to be. I tried to be encouraging to him, but ultimately told him that I couldn't talk to him anymore. He is an over-the-road truckdriver, so I haven't talked to him since. I don't know what to say to him. I feel like this is the last straw. I have been praying, but feel like I'm drowning in frustration.
 
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Lndnwll

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I am the last person to give advice....I can't imagine what you are going thru because I have never been married nor have I or my childrens father been baptized...but I pray...or have prayed...all I can say is just continue to pray for what you believe is right and don't let the ideas of others cloud your judgement....I was told "pray for him, pray that God works through him and works on your family, and if he is who God has chosen for you, then this to shall pass." So I guess that neans to pray for God to work on him and show him the direction he needs to go...if he is for you, and for God, he will begin to understand what you are telling him.

I'm really sorry that you are going thru a hard time. I really hope that things change for the better.
 
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enduretotheend

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Continue encouraging him. Continue praying for him. Ask the LORD to put on your lips the right words to give to your husband and the correct heart to convey them. Ask our God for faith that you might go forward in love even though darkness lies before you and you do not yet see the light at the end.

And this is prayed for you.

P.S. For those long days or hours your husband is on the road consider getting a prepaid cellphone so that the both of you can have more frequent contact; this might help on those long hours that you wait to hear his voice or to continue a discussion that was unresolved. Most of these phones have texting abilities and even if you think maybe a voice chat might be too soon you can text him off a message of, "I love you", and just leave it at that and instead of something negative stewing in his mind,,,,,"I love you",,,,,can sit in there for a while. ---- Walmart has prepaid cellphones like Net10 and others you can chose from.
 
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givenfaith

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Thank you so much for the encouragement. I should have said that this conversation was on the phone. We talk everyday, good or bad. I have asked God MANY times for the words to speak, to say the right things. My husband sees it as a sign that I am a bad wife that I put God first, so I do pray that he will one day see the truth. I do fear that his attitude toward church will rub off on my children, so I will continue to pray that they will not be swayed that way. Thanks again.
 
Wonderland

Wonderland

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Oh GivenFaith! My heart aches for you!

Do you have any healthy supportive people in your life? That is so important for a struggling marriage! I started attending a small group at my church which helped me to grow close to a group of christians that I now feel comfortable talking about my marriage with--the good, bad and the ugly. They have been an immeasurable blessing and source of support and encouragement!

I hope the best for you. Be blessed!
 
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enduretotheend

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Mat 22:37 Jesus answered: Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind.

Mat 10:37 If you love your father or mother or even your sons and daughters more than me, you are not fit to be my disciples.
 
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qdn4real

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Hi I am going through the same thing with my wife. She has completely changed this is my advice to you. God hate divorce He says so in His word and He will not give you something you can not handle. I know its tough I tell I know some days you wish you could just go away and never come back. I want to tell you that His words say All things worked together for the good for those that believe you need to stand for your Husband and also stay strong. GOD will come through for you. YES i am still waiting for him to come through for me 3 years. I know he will not fail us.

Stay strong the best advice stay close to the word.
 
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