sister Pcc1996 First of all welcome to this site! I am from Michigan as well,so I know how hard life can indeed be for many of us,not just where we live either. Since I have never married I have no right at least to myself to tell you how you should conduct yourself in that marriage! But I do know of many married couples who like yourself are having some serious problems in there union.
I notice you said you were saved as a child,but since that,where have you gone in your relationship to the Lord in your life? For many,not saying you sis at all! But for many they are not so happy by themselves,and think if I were married,then my life would be much fuller and bright.Then they get married and for a while it is! I have learned from married couples that the first 5 years of that marriage is the toughest,and if you both can get through them together,the chances of a divorce go down,because both are willing to place a great deal of work into there union.
But during this time,about the 3rd year,couples are drawing apart, they think lets have some kids!!That will fix our problems! And again for a while it does! But later,now the couple has two problems,there children and there marriage! The kids take on the judge and jury of the couple,and pretty soon,one, if not both parents are even more bitter at each other,then they ever were without there children.
Now the escape! I know there are two sides to everything,your side as you have stated short and sweet, and his side,which i have not heard. So let me stick with your side. You have done everything you could to promote a good marriage lets say. Lets us say that none of this is your fault whatsoever! What can you do now personally to keep a rational mind? Before sister we eat at the table we must prepare the table first! In my humble opinion you need to draw near to both God's Word and to Jesus you say you believe in. He believes in you sis!!( john 15:16)
The problem is, you have never took the time to learn how does one bear fruit. Nor how that good fruit should, and can ever remain. If i pushed you aside saying you are my best friend,how long do you think in your mind would I remain your best friend sis? How long would it take you to believe because of what I have done to you,i could ever remain a best friend to you,if I never speak to you or see you?
Or if I only speak to you when I am having a problem? How much would you look forward to even seeing me then? You see sis whether we think so or not Jesus, like us, wants to be needed by us! Jesus loved us so very much and wanted our time so badly that he gave his life for us and rose just to keep all of us in his victory,so we could, and would always be thankful to him! ( 1 thess 5:18 his very will for our lives!!)
Jesus has not pushed you away sis!! Nor has he ever forsaken you either! But you will never know this in truth until you go to him with your time,and set the table for him to join you and eat with him. How long will you hear the knock upon the door of your heart and not open the door?( rev 3:20-22) You first have to hear it!! So we first have to be in a position to open the door!
There is so much to say to you sister,but I sure do not wish to write a book here!! LOL All i can do is get you into the race,you must run it sis,i cannot run that for you,nor could anyone for me. Find a church with a lot of love in it,partake of that church,stay in the Bible daily,for such life giving words come from the very God who made us,words such as this sis!( Psalms 27:13) I would have despaired had I not believed I would see the goodness of God in the land of the living! You sister, as myself are in that land of the living! And speak God's Words from it!That is the secret to having fruit to both bear and yes keep!
Renew your mind in this!( rom 12:1-2)Depend upon this food for your life sis! If you will be faithful in little things of the Lord,then he will give you greater things as well!( luke 16:10) I show you scripture so you will understand how important his Word has become to me sis! Best friends do that! And our best friend is our Jesus sis!
If you will learn the Word, you will find you life really comes from what is not seen by others first,Jesus will help you,from your inside out! To comfort you, when you are in need of comfort!!( 2 cor 1:3-7) To show you that Jesus by himself for us is the only way,the only truth, and brings the only real life for us sis!!( john 14:6)
These things I have spoken to you sister so that the Joy of our Jesus would be made full in you!!( john 15:11) So that you can go encourage another sister or brother to do the same,but we cannot give something we do not yet have,that is why we must go and get it!! We can never help another until we ourselves become fixed. My prayers are sure with you sis!! I hope this has given you something to consider,and will help you to indeed escape the pain I know you are in!!( 1 cor 10:13)
The escape is before you sis,will you open the door to Jesus,who will then,move from the door for you to join him,and walk together into freedom!!! i was very glad I did sis! Prayer daily,is not always speaking!! Prayer in putting us in a position to listen as well! For what does God himself nor already know about us sis??( psalm 100:1-5!!) this i do daily! Then i listen! ( proverbs 3:6) In all our ways acknowledge HIM,and he WILL make you paths straight!!That is a promise sis! And he indeed has done that with my life,and will for your as well!!( acts 10:34)God loves us all the very same!!Blessing sis!