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Just wanting to find some answers / opinions on whether relationships should continue when there are issues that seem to be unable to be resolved. How do you know when it is time to end a relationship, when it is best to 'cut your losses' and move on? How do you know that there isn't someone out there who is better -- a man who is more 'right' for you? Is it possible for two people in a relationship to really change?
I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, and we fight nearly every day over trivial issues. When we met and started dating, we seemed perfect for each other, but now, after months of fighting and trying to sort out our issues, it all seems too hard. We both have seen sides of each other that we hate and that makes us feel like we got into something that neither of us wanted. What seems so ironic though is that we never fight over important matters - we both hold the same values and etc, but we just complain about little things that the other person does and small disagreements. We both really love and care about each other and have seriously considered breaking up, but I just can't seem to go through with it. I won't only be losing him but his whole family who I have grown really close to. Yet, some days I feel as though I am still hoping for my Prince Charming to come and whisk me away out of this life. I have prayed etc, but I have found nothing to tell me what is right to do.
After talking to some of my (older, divorced) colleagues, I was convinced that its better to have someone thats not perfect than to have no one at all. But, at the same time, I wonder whether I would prefer to take the chance of possibly having no one in order to see if there is someone else. My dad once told me that if he had known what my mum was like when he met her, he probably wouldn't have married her... But is it just romance movies that make us feel that life has to be like a fairytale, or is there something that I'm missing out on? Or am I just being unrealistic?
Married people I would love to hear what you think about this especcially.
I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, and we fight nearly every day over trivial issues. When we met and started dating, we seemed perfect for each other, but now, after months of fighting and trying to sort out our issues, it all seems too hard. We both have seen sides of each other that we hate and that makes us feel like we got into something that neither of us wanted. What seems so ironic though is that we never fight over important matters - we both hold the same values and etc, but we just complain about little things that the other person does and small disagreements. We both really love and care about each other and have seriously considered breaking up, but I just can't seem to go through with it. I won't only be losing him but his whole family who I have grown really close to. Yet, some days I feel as though I am still hoping for my Prince Charming to come and whisk me away out of this life. I have prayed etc, but I have found nothing to tell me what is right to do.
After talking to some of my (older, divorced) colleagues, I was convinced that its better to have someone thats not perfect than to have no one at all. But, at the same time, I wonder whether I would prefer to take the chance of possibly having no one in order to see if there is someone else. My dad once told me that if he had known what my mum was like when he met her, he probably wouldn't have married her... But is it just romance movies that make us feel that life has to be like a fairytale, or is there something that I'm missing out on? Or am I just being unrealistic?
Married people I would love to hear what you think about this especcially.