So at my church there was a sermon about marraige and the stance that the pastor took was this: husbands love your wives; wives RESPECT your husbands. He explained it like this: women are wired to be loved, men are wired to be respected. Women need respect and men need love but women need love more than respect and men need respect more than love.
This really set my mind at ease about the whole submission controversy. It also helped me understand my boyfriend a little better.
I can only see good come from this kind of mindset.
Oh and he talked about this thing called the tornado slide but I'll tell you about that later.
Anyway for now what are your thoughts?
Oh and can we all try to be respectful of both genders and of our fellow CC members on this thread please?
Marriage is a parallel to Christ and the church. That's why it is a sacrifice thing unto God. Your pastor obviously used this verse as a format.
Ephesians 5:24-40
[SUP]24 [/SUP]Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
[SUP]25 [/SUP]Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
[SUP]26 [/SUP]That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
[SUP]27 [/SUP]That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
[SUP]28 [/SUP]So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
[SUP]29 [/SUP]For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
[SUP]30 [/SUP]For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
[SUP]31 [/SUP]For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
[SUP]32 [/SUP]This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
[SUP]33 [/SUP]Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
It impossible to be submissive to husbands God's way if the husband doesn't love the wife as Jesus loves the church. It is also impossible for the husband to love the wife God's way if the wife isn't submissive God's way to her husband. It works both ways or not at all. Then it's just being tolerant of each other, and the love continues to wane as the years pass. We've been married going on 44 years at the end of this month. It wasn't easy, but it worked because God was/is in the middle.