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There is this (Christian) young woman I met. We talked and surprisingly I was considerably confident, witty and easy-going. I have the intuitive suspicion that there was even chemistry (thats how psychologists call it I guess ) between us. I am not entirely sure, because I rarely had talks like that. (eye-contact, body language, flow of the conversation etc.may indicate this) Well, so what? Happens to many people every day,right? Now comes the odd part. I can't help it yet this conversation sparked something inside me, which manifests itself in severe, unpleasant emotions to put it mildly. I am both fully aware of it and I can't help it. Now this is my question. Is this normal for a person who rarely had these conversations or am I unconsciously attributing ideal childish idolatrous romantic fantasies to someone I barely know? Or is it simply natural to experience severe emotions when you deal with your first inevitable encounters of this kind with the opposite sex. I don't want to rationalize it, its an honest question. The slight problem is that this all happens as it was not under my control and morality is all about accountability, is it? Must I go through this "hardship" so that my character improves or may this rather serve as a motivation to actually act as a man and to be straightforward if I am sure (i find this language disturbingly awkward) . possibly both? I find this downright embarrassing. I want to live for God - for his glory - and yet there is this deep longing I begin to hate. I hate it because its distracting, out of my control and entirely unreasonable. Logically speaking its ridiculous. Do I have to be alarmed, appalled or whatever? To give some background -I am emotionally stable (usually^^), I am not needy, I have real friends, I have a great family, I am diligent, I am even successful and most importantly I love Jesus and to study his precious word. Logically speaking there is no need for me to get stirred up because of life's trivialities and all this vanity.Now I feel better because I articulated my emotional condition Wise counsel is appreciated!
O wretched feelings; obey reason or die instantly!
Its like A inevitably leading to B and I say to myself "Are you kidding me!?"
O wretched feelings; obey reason or die instantly!
Its like A inevitably leading to B and I say to myself "Are you kidding me!?"