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Im married and I love being married. Not meaning to rub it in, but if it makes you feel any better I feel there is something that I struggle with that I need some advice on.
Last December, my husband and I decided to move permanently from New Zealand to Vancouver, Canada. And something that has really disappointed and saddened me is that we've both noticed how after we made that decision public, my friends very obviously distanced themselves from us. Maybe they haven't even realised they done it, but we have. Since I grew up here, the majority of our friends have been people Ive known since highschool so I have the closer relationship compared to my husband. Some of them are single, some married with children, some were older parental like friends. Previously there was communication and intimate conversations and invites for get togethers and involvement with children, advice asked by my single friends. Now nothing.
I thought making friends in Canada would be a bit scary, now Ive realised keeping my New Zealand friends is harder.
So something happened today that got me really excited but awkward at the same time. I met someone (female) at work who is lovely and we had a fantastic time working together (despite stresses of our job), we found out we live only a few apartments away from each other on the same street. We're both newly weds with no kids, both involved with church (though I didn't outright ask if she was a Christian), into gardening and kids and even more incredible, she and her husband are planning to move to Vancouver, Canada as well - how freaky is that?!
We ended work saying "catchya later!" (even though it was her last day at work so I'll never see her there again). And this sounds really pathetic, but I wanted to give her my number or at the very least facebook links but I didn't cos it SOOO sounded as if I wanted to ask her out or something which is so dorky and awkward for two christian married women. I genuinely felt, like this was a person I could become friends with, which could carry on into another city on another country.
So I walked down my driveway, and recognised her car a few houses ago and I really want to invite her and her husband around or SOMETHING.
What do I do?? All of a sudden Ive had to experience the awful anguish of what its like for you folks getting the nerve to ask someone out, and all I want is a platonic heterosexual christian relationship!
Help!
Last December, my husband and I decided to move permanently from New Zealand to Vancouver, Canada. And something that has really disappointed and saddened me is that we've both noticed how after we made that decision public, my friends very obviously distanced themselves from us. Maybe they haven't even realised they done it, but we have. Since I grew up here, the majority of our friends have been people Ive known since highschool so I have the closer relationship compared to my husband. Some of them are single, some married with children, some were older parental like friends. Previously there was communication and intimate conversations and invites for get togethers and involvement with children, advice asked by my single friends. Now nothing.
I thought making friends in Canada would be a bit scary, now Ive realised keeping my New Zealand friends is harder.
So something happened today that got me really excited but awkward at the same time. I met someone (female) at work who is lovely and we had a fantastic time working together (despite stresses of our job), we found out we live only a few apartments away from each other on the same street. We're both newly weds with no kids, both involved with church (though I didn't outright ask if she was a Christian), into gardening and kids and even more incredible, she and her husband are planning to move to Vancouver, Canada as well - how freaky is that?!
We ended work saying "catchya later!" (even though it was her last day at work so I'll never see her there again). And this sounds really pathetic, but I wanted to give her my number or at the very least facebook links but I didn't cos it SOOO sounded as if I wanted to ask her out or something which is so dorky and awkward for two christian married women. I genuinely felt, like this was a person I could become friends with, which could carry on into another city on another country.
So I walked down my driveway, and recognised her car a few houses ago and I really want to invite her and her husband around or SOMETHING.
What do I do?? All of a sudden Ive had to experience the awful anguish of what its like for you folks getting the nerve to ask someone out, and all I want is a platonic heterosexual christian relationship!
Help!
