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Hey everyone, I have been very hesitant on whether to post on here or not, going back and forth but I need some advice and I think this may be a good place to get it. A little background is that I am divorced have been for about 2 and a half years. I found out I was pregnant inApril of 2011 and had broken up with my boyfriend just a couple weeks prior (Its his), We sat down over lunch and I told him about the baby. And his intial response was "Marry me" because I had already been divorced I told him no, but if he wanted to get back together and try dating again that I would be okay with that and try to work things out and maybe it would lead to marriage later on. After my response to his proposal he told me if I didnt want to marry him now then he didn't want to be a part of our baby's life.
Fast forward.... I only heard from him once after that at the end of August beginning of September when I was in the hospital for slight complications, and I needed to know if there were any health concerns on his side of the family. He told me no, and to lose his number. After that I sent him one message online giving him details about his baby and he deleted and changed all of his contact information.
I had my daughter Harper December 26, 2012 and have to this date never heard anything from him and I've been okay with it for the most part. I don't understand how a grown man could turn his back on his own flesh and blood but thats his choice. I am in a serious relationship now and am engaged to be married. My soon to be husband has taken care of my daughter like his own and loves her very much and wants to adopt her once we are married. But I need a paternity test from her father and him to sign his rights over and I have not been able to contact him.
Now, I never met his parents because they were always in and out of town, I have been to their home and was told a lot about them and know that they are good christian people. His dad is in a christian singing group that travels around tennessee. And I know that they have two other grand daughters from their other son. I have struggled with this part the most because I don't think he has told his parents about Harper, and I know they would want to know about her. I've finally made up my mind now that she is nine months old to write his parents a letter about their grand daughter, explaining everything including the hopeful adoption.
This is where the help comes in....How do I tell them?
Fast forward.... I only heard from him once after that at the end of August beginning of September when I was in the hospital for slight complications, and I needed to know if there were any health concerns on his side of the family. He told me no, and to lose his number. After that I sent him one message online giving him details about his baby and he deleted and changed all of his contact information.
I had my daughter Harper December 26, 2012 and have to this date never heard anything from him and I've been okay with it for the most part. I don't understand how a grown man could turn his back on his own flesh and blood but thats his choice. I am in a serious relationship now and am engaged to be married. My soon to be husband has taken care of my daughter like his own and loves her very much and wants to adopt her once we are married. But I need a paternity test from her father and him to sign his rights over and I have not been able to contact him.
Now, I never met his parents because they were always in and out of town, I have been to their home and was told a lot about them and know that they are good christian people. His dad is in a christian singing group that travels around tennessee. And I know that they have two other grand daughters from their other son. I have struggled with this part the most because I don't think he has told his parents about Harper, and I know they would want to know about her. I've finally made up my mind now that she is nine months old to write his parents a letter about their grand daughter, explaining everything including the hopeful adoption.
This is where the help comes in....How do I tell them?
