Trading Emotions.

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Thesedays I've been sharing with a nice lady. She is honest andtransparent enough to reorganize her life to keep on living withsomeone else. She often says she doesn'tdeserve a man or that sheis not the one a man would marry...Why? Believe me I like her and know her enough to give me a try, butwe could be unequally yoked because I lack many things she would misslater on, and she has shown me -several times- she shrinks for fearsor would turn back because of my beliefs and style life.


I liketo train myself on these things of trading emotions. Years ago, Iwould regret not being the one I was. I could dislike not gettinganything to please me for a while. I would walk to get sexualgratification or anything not really glued with real love or holymotivations. I would fail choosing and could “help” others tofail with me.


Findingsomeone, for you or others is not easy. You may find someone you'dlike to keep for yourself. You have found many youthought they were for you and, this ishappening all over the world, for centuries.


Fearsare alive like a wounded heart. We hurt (and are being hurt) whilelearning the best way and our heart is not a safe compass to find theperson we think is missing: A compass never points up to heaven. Itdoesn't give you real directions like those moving stars pointing outon changing dreams. It just tells you're a human being and seldomtells where you go...


Transparencyis a most on Christianity and life business. Some love to take,search and destroy, but I tried to settle down.


Thatfriend I got is like that. Perhaps we're not those ones we missed,not those we would like to keep and belong, but the search of love isnot over. I'm not the possessor of her dreams.


There'snot a way to shut up a talking heart which longs to sharing itself,willing to receivemore than to give . There's nothing bigger than the joy of giving andreceiving love. Perhaps we have become selfish, too self-centeredwhile asking to receive -rather than giving- but I also see God iswilling to give Himself, for love. The present-day example is Jesus:He died to pay for the death penalty Ideserve. I'm not an Israelite, I'm nottoo Jewish; but my whole life's transgressions are asbad as those any has done, according toGod's will.


Guiltserves you to change and make some amendments. Some people lack thenotion of guilt and keep on hurting and doing things the way theyplease. A thieve does what he does and could be caught any time. Hewould not regret his faults, but the hand which seizes him or her. Ina jail, sentenced to death penalty, very few of them would considersin as it is. Some would think about their ultimate transgressions,but see how some may react (and failed) when lacking some amount ofguilt, same way those thieves did on their cross at Jesus'crucifixion. What did we need to turnand repent?


I said my friend I wouldconsider dating a Pemon Indian or a Missionary for dating. Pemonpeople have a couple of things I have now. Missionaries have learnedto live a simple life, centered in Christ, owning few things to live,although I became a kind of hermit, trying to avoid common people andthe things they like to do or enjoy.


I wish I could meet anopen-minded Amish. I guess they don't have an irregular Internetconnection like me, an account on Skype like that of [FONT=URW Bookman L, serif]truehermit1[/FONT]...But I like to entertain on that, perhaps, I'd find common groundswith those who retired in their seclusion or personal/socialisolation. Who knows? (Only God knows).


There are millions wholong to be loved, but are unwilling to sacrifice nothing... Today, bythe way, someone told me he is willing to marry a young girl of16. I told him that that would be unsafe for him, since she soonwould like to date a younger man -he is of 51- but nurturingthe idea of having someone “at home”. Could he find a hommiegirl? I know, according to my experience, not owning the completetruth, that marrying could be a whole life process (or a timewasted). We like the benefits of it and often bypassed the godlycommitment to pay part of the real price.


If we men like beauty,they seek safety. If we see their legs, they looked at working handsand strong arms. I won't say they don't like your sexy tattoos but,not all of them are crazy or materialistic.


Each person is different.Some may have likeness, but we're not alike. Traditionally men soughtfor younger women, today we see old ladies marry younger men too. Dowe have a law or moral code on that? I guess we have no law to keep,except loyalty, faithfulness, to avoid cheating(which is a hypocritical lying).


We are in the process tounderstand that dating two or more persons during a week (or a month)is close to cheating. Your emotions can be trading with evil desires,but it's up to you whom you pay and give give your attentions.


Your emotional stabilitydepends on God and your relation to other people. You can't be finewhen hurting others. Can you buy love at stores? How long LOVE issold at any market place?


No one -but you- knowswhat you like. No one knows what you lack nor the suffering of yourlife, except God, your loved ones, and those you gave a tip of yourlife.


Female needs are:



  • Ears to be heard.
  • Arms to be hugged and cared.
  • Eyes to be seen and admired.
  • Mind to be loved and honored.
  • Generous hands to give, rather than taking (although tendency is receiving than giving)


Each life has the recordof their right or wrong. These are not written on public papers, butare written on the minds we touched and on those we hurt... I justwant few time to turn to those I hit because, those who left,despised me with reason and out of reason. Those who went away lackednothing, except what they keep on seeking, and I came here to SERVE.I will not look at circumstances, but at healing, at loveprocesses... I came here to learn, to simply live.
 

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Fears are alive like a wounded heart. We hurt (and are being hurt) while learning the best way and our heart is not a safe compass to find th eperson we think is missing: A compass never points up to heaven. It doesn't give you real directions like those moving stars pointing outon changing dreams. It just tells you're a human being and seldom tells where you go.. very good
No one truly knows your suffering heart but you and God;
 
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Shilo;bt6034 said:
" Fears are alive like a wounded heart. We hurt (and are being hurt) while learning the best way and our heart is not a safe compass to find the person we think is missing: A compass never points up to heaven. It doesn't give you real directions like those moving stars pointing out on changing dreams. It just tells you're a human being and seldom tells where you go..." very good!

No one truly knows your suffering heart but you and God;
Thanks! Perhaps these are nothing, compared to those I have met and known about... The good thing is I have lived, I have learned, and lives goes on some where.

A.T.