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forgivenandloved

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I have a question. I'm 17 and I'm pregnant. Well, my mom is mad that I'm not having an abortion so they gave me 1 week to get out of the house so my boyfriend and I are going to try to live together until my dad can come take me in. My boyfriend also asked me to marry him and I agreed. So I'm engaged and I'm going to try to live with him until I can move out. Is this an okay plan for now? I really would love advice I am so confused at the moment.
 
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greatkraw

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Gabby,it is a very hard situation for you

I think I have seen something a little similar on here

different christians will have different ideas

do you have a church where you are with people you fell comfortable with?
 
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forgivenandloved

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greatkraw said:
Gabby,it is a very hard situation for you

I think I have seen something a little similar on here

different christians will have different ideas

do you have a church where you are with people you fell comfortable with?
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Yes, atm it is. No I do not. I really like my boyfriends church though thats where I got saved, but I haven't decided I haven't really taken much thought lately. I've been busy, but I guess I shouldn't be too busy for the things of God I need to make more time.
 
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greatkraw

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im gonna pray that you can find a godly woman to talk to and get close to:D - to pray with
 
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Raeshelle

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forgivenandloved said:
Yes, atm it is. No I do not. I really like my boyfriends church though thats where I got saved, but I haven't decided I haven't really taken much thought lately. I've been busy, but I guess I shouldn't be too busy for the things of God I need to make more time.
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You should go talk to the Pastor and his wife, you and your BF. Seek counsel from them. Your pastor is there to help you, or if you have a youth pastor even talk to them.
I really don't think living with your BF is what you need to do before you are married. Now if you are talking about staying with his family as a guest that is different but if you are talking about moving n together as a couple I would say no. Not a good idea. But find someone to talk to you trust. I was in your shoes once. You need to find someone to be there for you. I feel bad that your Mom feels like she does. But she may change her mind once the little one is born.. I will be praying you find someone to help you.
 
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forgivenandloved

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Raeshelle said:
You should go talk to the Pastor and his wife, you and your BF. Seek counsel from them. Your pastor is there to help you, or if you have a youth pastor even talk to them.
I really don't think living with your BF is what you need to do before you are married. Now if you are talking about staying with his family as a guest that is different but if you are talking about moving n together as a couple I would say no. Not a good idea. But find someone to talk to you trust. I was in your shoes once. You need to find someone to be there for you. I feel bad that your Mom feels like she does. But she may change her mind once the little one is born.. I will be praying you find someone to help you.
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Ok i think I will go talk to a youth pastor. Yes, we're trying to get married ASAP. Thanks prayer is needed. :)
 
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forgivenandloved

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Well, we talked to the youth pastor, and he told us that we are in a very difficult situation. So we decided that we're going to move in, but we are getting married either next saturday or the saturday after that. We are staying in different room atm.
 
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asamanthinketh

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this sounds like a much better plan than aborting your baby, it may be happening fast and you feel uncertain, but from your words your boyfriend and dad are rising to the occassion and caring for you. maybe you could get into a young mother's program where you would have support.
 
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Dear God help Gabby. Gabby your mom is worried about you. Lots of people don't think of a baby really being a baby until it comes out. Hope your boyfriend has a good job. Start thinking about school for both of you. I give credit for your boyfriend. Most boys run away. Make sure to help out a lot at your new home. Things are going to be tuff for a while as you see already. Hang onto God. Don't hold anger to your mom. She'll most likely come around.
 
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forgivenandloved

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loveschild said:
Dear God help Gabby. Gabby your mom is worried about you. Lots of people don't think of a baby really being a baby until it comes out. Hope your boyfriend has a good job. Start thinking about school for both of you. I give credit for your boyfriend. Most boys run away. Make sure to help out a lot at your new home. Things are going to be tuff for a while as you see already. Hang onto God. Don't hold anger to your mom. She'll most likely come around.
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Yes, my boyfriends has graduated college and has an excellent job. My mom is a confusing person I'm not sure if I even want her in the life of my child atm.
 
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songster

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forgivenandloved said:
I have a question. I'm 17 and I'm pregnant. Well, my mom is mad that I'm not having an abortion so they gave me 1 week to get out of the house so my boyfriend and I are going to try to live together until my dad can come take me in. My boyfriend also asked me to marry him and I agreed. So I'm engaged and I'm going to try to live with him until I can move out. Is this an okay plan for now? I really would love advice I am so confused at the moment.
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I want to tell you that I applaud your decision not to bend to your mother's will, who, while she may love you very much, is not giving helpful advice at this time. Congratulations on the engagement. Keep going!
 
pickles

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Good works forgiven. You and all are in my prayers.
Hugs and God bless, pickles
 
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Wootie

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I suggest that you and your fiancee get close to God right now. Stay close to Him & your paths will be directed by Him. Otherwise it is going to be unbearable for you both=-and your child will be the one to suffer the most. I hope you get God deep into your heart.
 
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Matthew

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forgivenandloved said:
I have a question. I'm 17 and I'm pregnant. Well, my mom is mad that I'm not having an abortion so they gave me 1 week to get out of the house so my boyfriend and I are going to try to live together until my dad can come take me in. My boyfriend also asked me to marry him and I agreed. So I'm engaged and I'm going to try to live with him until I can move out. Is this an okay plan for now? I really would love advice I am so confused at the moment.
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I respect you a lot for saying no to an abortion and standing by the consequences of your actions like an adult, it is very good.

Just be sure you are not confusing your desire to provide a family for your child with what your heart says, if the pregnancy had not occured and your boyfriend had proposed would you have said yes?.......think hard before you marry him because all three of you deserve a family but if you marry for the chlds sake that may end up being bad for all of you, it may harm your child more to have the family break apart in future years.

I know you must feel a strong desire to make a family but no mater what the circumstances marriage is not something that should ever be taken lightly and if you would not have considered yourself ready for marriage before you became pregnant it isn't wise to rush into it because of that.

It is obviously best to raise a child in marriage but if you marry for the wrong reasons and things go wrong later you may do harm to everyone involved emotionally, I know you are in a hard situation but if this pregnancy was unwanted do not go into an unwanted marriage to make yourself feel like you are doing things right, that may be an illusion and a false feeling of comfort.

All that said, I wish you the very best of luck and hope for all of you that your family is happy.
 
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jesus_be4_religion

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I commend you for not having an abortion. If your boyfriend is your only choice of a place to stay, other then with other family or friends, then it might be the right place for the time being. Make sure you pray to God about this, and i will keep you in my prayers.
 
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jesus_be4_religion

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Where in the USA do you live maybe I could help
 
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forgivenandloved

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Thanks. I live in TX.
 
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