My thoughts exactly. I only asked because that's exactly what happened to me. A school friend called and asked to meet me. I didn't feel right about it. I know this guy. Have helped him in the past at least emotionally.huh, I think I would be a little suspicious. Depends on what the favour is. Probably I would say no. Because I've had that experience when I was quite happy that an old school mate contacted me and thought we were going to do a fun catch-up (as had some of my other old school mates and reminisce about our school days) but really she was only hoping I'd buy tupperware and host a party for her.
If that happened to me now and it bothered me, I'd pray and ask God what the wise thing to do is. I've learned its ok to say no. They will just ask someone else. It's better to say 'no' in the beginning even if a bit unsure rather than go 'maybe' or 'perhaps' because then they assume you will help them and push you into it even if you having second thoughts. Then you start stressing about it and we DO NOT NEED MORE STRESS in our lives!
He has addiction issues. I don't. I'm also fighting to make things in my life work. I don't need to waste my time and energy on people who definitely don't appreciate it enough. I told him I'm not feeling well. Catch up another day. Which I will postpone indefinitely till he gets the idea.
Or even directly say no the next time.
You give to people. And they very easily take for granted what good comes from a friend without a second thought to the generosity and good treatment they receive from their friend.
It emotionally and financially drains you. I agree with what you said.