Why do guys 'not know' ??

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F8Th

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When you ask a guy why he did/said something (because you're wanting to know what it meant) why is it they'll say they dont know, or they're not sure? Guys, are you simply hiding ur feelings or scared to really let someone know how you feel? Or do you actually NOT know why?
 
zeroturbulence

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Its like asking an abstract painter why he painted a painting. There is no real reason. He did it because he felt compelled to do it.
 
Hommer

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Because we are clueless....
 
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SantoSubito

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Zero summed it up quite nicely. Most of the time we just get a gut feeling that we should do something, and if we follow that feeling we generally don't put much thought into why we did it until long after the fact.
 
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hotfudge

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LOL now i learned something haha
 
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Kooper

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Its like asking an abstract painter why he painted a painting. There is no real reason. He did it because he felt compelled to do it.
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This is true.

Because we are clueless....
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This is also true.

Men are men. We kill deer for the pure thrill of it. Usually "Because." Or "Just because." is our main excuse. Nonetheless clueless. Alicia Sliverstone was cute in that movie, by the way.
 
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F8Th said:
When you ask a guy why he did/said something (because you're wanting to know what it meant) why is it they'll say they dont know, or they're not sure? Guys, are you simply hiding ur feelings or scared to really let someone know how you feel? Or do you actually NOT know why?
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Your lucky to be with a guy that even forms complete sentences.... dont question it
 
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F8Th

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hmm...okay thanks all. I guess i understand better.... thats a good way to put it, a gut feeling.
 
zeroturbulence

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F8Th said:
hmm...okay thanks all. I guess i understand better.... thats a good way to put it, a gut feeling.
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When it comes to someone we love, we often listen to our hearts instead of our minds :)
 
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REDMama

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Half the time they are just "acting as a guy", they don't really know for sure what they mean, but they know they are a guy, and that is what guys say, because they learned from other guys, their dad, brother, sister, mother, you know, how we tend to pick up things from others, and it is not always a good thing, but can we escape it ------- hardly ever. There are many abusive bullies in this world, male and female, and they do not even realize the error of their own ways. They were in kindergarden and now as adults they still have not grown up. Imgaine that.

So, I say, do not let a guy confuse you for just no reason. Are you having fun? Getting to know him? And does he want you to?

Because some people will play games with your mind, and do harm, if they're not really interested in what you're giving, offering, or wanting, so as a self-protective measure, which is normal and God-given they will hurt you with their words and acts.

Best of luck!

As many Christians profess, God cannot be manipulated, yet much manipulation goes on, on the earth correct.

So, don't let it happen to you.

And christians who are manipulators, guys or girls, have not let the real, true God of light into their hearts and minds, to cleanse them of being a manipulator.

Manipulate

1. To handle skillfully
2. To manage artfully or hrewdly, often in an unfair way
3. To falsify for one's own purposes

So, can manipulation, like in using the word in the context of manipulating a carpentry tool, a muscle in massage, or to train and discipline a child, in a healthy and constructive way, and not abusive, YES

But it can also be bad, evil, of the devil, and everything the bible talks about that is not good and at all costs if possible to be avoided and flee from.

Like when a guy manipulates your emotions, and then you get all out of sorts, and hurt. Do you learn and back out and learn your worth, yeah sometimes? Or do you stay in it for the long haul, knowing growth and change will occur, yeah sometimes. Just some examples.

Thanks for letting me share.
 
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zeroturbulence said:
Its like asking an abstract painter why he painted a painting. There is no real reason. He did it because he felt compelled to do it.
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I love how you relate not being able to answer a question about motives to an artistic masterpiece, Zero. :p
 
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