Why is it so hard?

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ashleynicole2716

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Why is it when you desire to have a boyfriend. the one that is meant for you. he doesnt come? I know im relying on God and being patient but it is just hard. Ive never been kissed, never had a boyfriend, never had sex. Just waiting on the one. How do i know hes the one though?
 
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Mari

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dont try to rush things?? its not worth it.. just wait for the right time,,, how old are u?? me and my husband both waited and im glad we did.. u will just know when that person is the one for u
 
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ashleynicole2716

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im 20. im not trying to rush things. its just hard waiting on the one.

ashleynicole2716 said:
Why is it when you desire to have a boyfriend. the one that is meant for you. he doesnt come? I know im relying on God and being patient but it is just hard. Ive never been kissed, never had a boyfriend, never had sex. Just waiting on the one. How do i know hes the one though?
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Mari

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ashleynicole2716 said:
im 20. im not trying to rush things. its just hard waiting on the one.
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yea i agree it is hard waiting but in the end its all worth it.. my husband was my first kiss and thats what made it even more special
 
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sportygirl

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Yeah it is hard waiting. I didnt get a boyfriend till 19, he was brought to me by God I still believe that, if for nothing else than to teach me some things about myself and about where I needed to be. BUt now im back in the waiting game, and find it hard, but ive been reading Authentic Beauty and it helps and gives you steps to follow in order to realyl let God lead. And yes i just got out of a relationship so i might not be the best advice.
 
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Wug

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Um, I feel like a minority, being the first dude to say boo in this room. But I look at it like this. If I ask God for wealth, I'm not going to expect God to send some dude to my door with a briefcase full of cash, I would expect him to bless me through my hard work. If I ask God to clean my house, I'm thinking that He might use me to do it. And when I ask him for a girlfriend, I don't think that He's going to have her knock on my door and ask "Is this the place that God told me to go?". Now, if that happened, that would be great, and God is more than capable of doing all those things. But, God has blessed humans with great ability. He has made us the smartest species. And he has given us the ability to obtain things through our own works. Not that anything we obtain is not from God, it is. He just uses us. So, if you want a cool Christian dude, you might go looking for one. I'm in no way judging you, for I am girlfriendless. I was at your age, and three years later still am, thus I'm in no position to judge you. I understand that it's not easy to go looking for a significant other. To me it's terrifying, and I always have hangups in my head that get in the way. But, if we want a good spouse, praying is good, but we have to be genuine enough in our desires to actually go seeking. "Ask, and it shall be given unto you. Seek, and ye shall find".
 
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glenwood74

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Take it from a 35 year old who has yet to find the one......be patient and focus on the Lord. Jesus will grow your faith and increase your understanding, and when the one comes along, you will be ready for him. Do not try to rush into something that is not Holy just because you are lonely. That is a relationship waiting to fail. Maybe you will meet him tomorrow or many years from now, but if you focus on Jesus, then the wait will be a blessing!
 
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bobie

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Wug said:
Um, I feel like a minority, being the first dude to say boo in this room. But I look at it like this. If I ask God for wealth, I'm not going to expect God to send some dude to my door with a briefcase full of cash, I would expect him to bless me through my hard work. If I ask God to clean my house, I'm thinking that He might use me to do it. And when I ask him for a girlfriend, I don't think that He's going to have her knock on my door and ask "Is this the place that God told me to go?". Now, if that happened, that would be great, and God is more than capable of doing all those things. But, God has blessed humans with great ability. He has made us the smartest species. And he has given us the ability to obtain things through our own works. Not that anything we obtain is not from God, it is. He just uses us. So, if you want a cool Christian dude, you might go looking for one. I'm in no way judging you, for I am girlfriendless. I was at your age, and three years later still am, thus I'm in no position to judge you. I understand that it's not easy to go looking for a significant other. To me it's terrifying, and I always have hangups in my head that get in the way. But, if we want a good spouse, praying is good, but we have to be genuine enough in our desires to actually go seeking. "Ask, and it shall be given unto you. Seek, and ye shall find".
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great response buddy!
just like what they say, God help those who help themselves! in other words prayer without action is powerless :)
 
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Mtbrama

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I know what you mean, nineteen going on twenty this year, never had a'girlfriend, can't find the right girl, sometimes feel like my standards are too high( all im asking for is a devoted, wild christian girl). Praying for her though...............
 
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jesus33

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Just wait, I'm in same situation, but I just waiting for the right one, I'm sure that she wiill come as soon as God will for me.

just focous at school, or University, and helping people and will see the right one for you.

God bless you.
 
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lil-rush

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Mtbrama said:
I know what you mean, nineteen going on twenty this year, never had a'girlfriend, can't find the right girl, sometimes feel like my standards are too high( all im asking for is a devoted, wild christian girl). Praying for her though...............
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Or maybe everyone else's standards aren't high enough.
 
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jonnoboy

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Hello My name is Jonathan

I understnad its hard, like you i have had no luck with love i get so worked up with girls around me and go shy and i think Patience is the Key topic here although its so hard Trust the lord, i know i do and he has great plans for you and me, you will know the right one has come when you are not scared of him nervous of him unsure of him, everything will become clear, and thats a promise

TRUST THE LORD FOR HE IS GOOD!!!

Hope you have luck soon time will tell my friend

Jonno
 
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