Wife has making love for any reason

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Let me say up front that I have been married for 35 years and it has been a living hell. My wife hates anything that has to do with sex. In fact we have not had sex for over 7 years. She will not kiss me, touch me in anyway but says she love and God. Personal knowing some things about her family background, I believe that she was rape or some thing as a very small child.
The pain of longing is so great. I just want to get away. Have no one to talk with. Is there anyone out there that has the same problem? Anyone that would like to talk about it on E-Mail?
There are time I feel that I should just have a woman and forget all my wife.
 
THAT SOUNDS VERY EXTREME. HAVE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT SUGGESTING COUPLES COUNSELING? SORRY TO HEAR YOUR TROUBLES BUT THERAPY MAY BE A GOOD IDEA IN YOUR CASE. 35 YEARS IS QUITE SOME TIME TO BE TOGETHER. TRY TO MAKE THINGS WORK OUT, DON'T GIVE UP!
 
Pray for her,your not exactly perfect either[rQUOTE=caringandloving;565902]Let me say up front that I have been married for 35 years and it has been a living hell. My wife hates anything that has to do with sex. In fact we have not had sex for over 7 years. She will not kiss me, touch me in anyway but says she love and God. Personal knowing some things about her family background, I believe that she was rape or some thing as a very small child.
The pain of longing is so great. I just want to get away. Have no one to talk with. Is there anyone out there that has the same problem? Anyone that would like to talk about it on E-Mail?
There are time I feel that I should just have a woman and forget all my wife.[/QUOTE]
 
I say pray for her continuously and ask God for wisdom and guidance. Tell Him to help you reach out to her heart that you may know the problem. I'll be praying for you. God bless
 
Hi caringandloving.

So what do you think she is thinking? You don't say.
 
caringandloving said:
Let me say up front that I have been married for 35 years and it has been a living hell. My wife hates anything that has to do with sex. In fact we have not had sex for over 7 years. She will not kiss me, touch me in anyway but says she love and God. Personal knowing some things about her family background, I believe that she was rape or some thing as a very small child.
The pain of longing is so great. I just want to get away. Have no one to talk with. Is there anyone out there that has the same problem? Anyone that would like to talk about it on E-Mail?
There are time I feel that I should just have a woman and forget all my wife.
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I gather you and her have talked to counselors within your 35 years of marriage. Stupid concern of mine, but I like to cover all bases. :o
 
Caregiver,
a couple of questions. is your wife a christian? Do the both of you go to church? together? Is she aware of apostle Paul's admonition "
do not refuse one another except for a seaon of prayer and fasting."lest the spouse is tempted?
What would she say? Do you suspect her of having an affair? Is she willing to go to counseling? What reason does she give?
Praying for you.
Likewise
 
that womwn isn't you wife. not sure what she is but sure isn't your wife. you to really think where your at with her
 
That sounds like an extremely difficult situation, my prayers go out to you. If it has to do with what you mentioned about her history I would say that, as I'm sure you know, it's not about you but about her and a shame that she relates to intimacy. Maybe God put you in her life to be the rock she needs to fall on that does not let her down. That seems like a very high and difficult calling but I think God equips those He calls to those tasks that look impossible, you just have to remember that Jesus is our Rock to fall onto for shelter. Now one thing we know is that Jesus is a miracle worker and you need a miracle. My only practical advice is to love and reassure her and tell her that she is beautiful and special and set apart by God for God. And pray.

God bless
 
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