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Hi guys I wanted to get some advice on what I should do. For those of you who don't know me I'm in a wheelchair. I got into a car crash years ago and I need lots of help taking care of myself. However I want to move out of my grandma's house. Most of my reasons for not having left yet was because of my family. Mostly of what my family would say or do when they realize they can't keep tabs on me. Of course thats not my only reason for wanting to move back to my hometown. The other reason have to do with independence, privacy, wanting a life, and to start fresh. Okay now I bet your wondering why I didn't do this years ago when I became 18? Well I've always had the idea of it in my head just never had the guts to do it. I've also wondered what would happen to my grandma and cousins. See its my grandma and two cousins living here and I just hope they can find a place to stay because if I move everyone needs to too. The rent and bills are to much if I leave. Secondly I'm faced with the option of living in a nursing home for awhile until I can get money to get my own apartment. The gov't has a grant that help people in nursing homes get back into the community. Even though I'm scared and kind of embarrassed to live in a nursing at the age 20 I want to move more! My question for you guys(and girls) is what should I do? Am I being selfish? How long show I put others first while I feel so unwanted and mistreated at times? Show I sacrifice my own happiness? All your advice can help.....thank you!
 
I would pray about it and see where God is leading you to go. I know that is not what you want to hear, but it is something you need to do. This a major change in your life and I would try to approach it with GOd on my side :)
 
The question is, though you are in a wheelchair, what is your remaining mobility?
And if you leave the nursing home, will you have the necessary family, friend, or community support to take care of yourself and your place of residence. Pay bills, grocery shopping, hobbies and activities.

I think it is a good idea if you can do it. And you will be able to live and do daily living activities, and you have the money to pay for your expenses.

This is your one and only life, CORRECT? You need to know that. Maybe that will help you make the best decision that you feel, and any others who are helping you make this decision.

That's all.

I saw the other post, pray, and speak to the social worker in your facility. It is their job to help you.
 
The question at hand here is what will give the most glory to God. How can you do the most good. This is hard for you to do because you, along with most people, are bias toward themselves. And are much more interested in "What will make me more happy, or successful or satisfied?" But you are coming at the situation with a Christian outlook to consider others along with yourself. The Bible says "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves (Philippians 2:3)." The fact that you came on a Christian site to ask for Christian advice shows that you're not showing selfish ambition. Only you can be the one to decide if your move is for vanity, or for the glory of God. Ask yourself: If I weigh the benefits I receive by moving from the cons of my family being without me, which does more good overall? That's what the Bible says, which is distinctly different from giving you my opinion. Being that I'm only 21, my opinion shouldn't count for all that much, but I'll give it to you because you asked. I think you should move out, but give it a year or two as you can prepare your family and friends that way. This also gives you more time to plan the details of the arrangements. Either way. Pray Pray Pray (1 Thessalonians 5:17)!!! Can't say that enough. Being close to God will help you through any situation no matter what happens.

I'm praying for you sister. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you. Amen.
 
Cassie (I assume that that is your name, and that you are 20 ;) ),

Again, while you might not like to hear this, I think the answer to WWJD? is found in 1 Timothy 5:4, "But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God." (emphasis added) If your financial support is necessary to maintain your family's current lifestyle, I believe that Scripture tells us that it is incumbent on you to stay where you are.

This doesn't necessarily mean that you must keep the status quo in everything. You can explore other ways to become more independent. Perhaps you can even change your living arrangements to achieve more privacy within the household. I believe that if you submit to God's will, He will show you ways to make your life better right where you are.

By all means pray for guidance. God will show you His will for you. But I believe that it is hard to deny the scriptural evidence. Family is a central concept in the Bible, and Christians are admonished to stay true to theirs.
 
Cassie Just do it!
Jesus doesn't require adults to live with their parents.

Your mobility issues are irrelevant to the decision, it is only relevant to the how which you seem to have worked out.

Just do it.
 
dmdave17 said:
Cassie (I assume that that is your name, and that you are 20 ;) ),

Again, while you might not like to hear this, I think the answer to WWJD? is found in 1 Timothy 5:4...
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He makes a good point. I didn't know about that Scripture. I truly believe this decision is up to private time with you and God. No quick decisions should be made about this. For big decisions I make a chart with all the considerations on it, so that if I make a mistake, I can go back and say "I did everything I could to do the right thing with what I knew." ..So I can't blame myself later.

Things to consider: God's happiness, your happiness, your parent's happiness, your family's happiness, Also the Bible says we should be content in all circumstances like Paul (Philippians 4:11-13). And I'm sure you can think of more things.

Number one question: What gives more glory to God and how can I enjoy God more?
 
What would Jesus do? Well I dont know if you have ever listened to Joyce Meyers T.V christian show but I heard a message recently from her that really impacted me alot. When you are unsure about something its best to allow yourself some time to wait on the Lord. He knows your needs completely. Follow Peace...is the message from Joyce..when your not sure which way to go, simply follow peace. The Lord wants you to have peace, and sometimes we need to spend a while in a uncomfortable situation until the Lord is ready to move you through an open door. Give this desire to the Lord in prayer. The answer is there, but in the Lord Timing...and timing is everything...hang in there......Blessings to you!!!...Skylyn
 
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