Should women submit to your husband? Why? How?

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womanofchrist27

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Why must a wife submit?


  1. [*]It is fitting and proper in the Lord: Col 3:18
    [*]That Word may not be dishonored: Tit 2:5
    [*]It pleases God: Col 3:20
    [*]Good and long life: Eph 6:3
    [*]God will reward: Eph 6:8; Col 3:24
    [*]Adorns the gospel: Tit 2:10
    [*]Win to Christ: 1 Pe 3:1
How must a wife submit?


  1. [*]With genuine respect: Eph 5:33
    [*]In the fear of Christ: Eph 5:21
    [*]With obedience: Eph 6:5
    [*]With fear and trembling: Eph 6:5
    [*]from the heart and soul: Col 3:22-23
    [*]with a gentle and quiet spirit: 1 Pe 3:4
    [*]With goodwill, as to the Lord: Eph 6:7
    [*]Submit as though you were submitting to the Lord: Col 3:23
    [*]Not eye-service but sincerely from heart: Eph 6:6; Col 3:22
    [*]Well-pleasing and not argumentative: Tit 2:9
    [*]To be ready to do any good deed: Tit 3:1
    [*]With chaste and respectful behavior: 1 Pe 3:2
    [*]verbally accepting them as leader, boss, authority etc: 1 Pe 3:6 "Sarah called him lord"
    [*]Clothing yourself with humility: 1 Pe 5:5"
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Just don't forget this: Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
 
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womanofchrist27

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I wrote about that in another post
 
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May I ask the source of the Scriptures you posted? Maybe you could provide a link to the Article/Web Site? Thanks.... :)
 
secularhermit

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I wondered how long those biblical reasons will be accepted,because present estate of human race tends to equality and those "biblical" principles are often viewed as machist, seeking men favors, instead of those beneifiting women. :confused:
 
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I submit to my husband. I don't see anything wrong with it.
 
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Great! The tendency is the opposite, particularly when it is seen that there are reasons who are prone to saying "submitting to one another" and that seemed to be the best, because I´ve liked Amos 3:3; because divorce is sought as the alternative when no one wants a man (or a woman) leading their marriage.
 
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This is all well and good, and I ain't fussing about any of it, but I am wondering how does one apply this to the very real fact that in today's world (here in the US) that there are millions of women who are single parents?
 
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Submission gets a bad rap in this day and age. We are told in the Bible to submit to one another but nobody really wants to do that either. I think the problem is our modern culture is too individualistic and we see submission as a sign of weakness, when it's not.
 
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skipp said:
Submission gets a bad rap in this day and age. We are told in the Bible to submit to one another but nobody really wants to do that either. I think the problem is our modern culture is too individualistic and we see submission as a sign of weakness, when it's not.
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So true. We as Christians should live biblical, not just for salvation, but also for a better life, as God designed.
 
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shrimp said:
I submit to my husband. I don't see anything wrong with it.
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I would definitely submit to my husband. Providing he honoured and respected me. I would do anything for him as long as be loved me with everything in him.
 
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Honestly,(And I KNOW i'm going to get a bad rap for this but) We should stop worrying about what is going to happen to us when we obey God. I would submit to my husband if he were an abusive nutter, regardless of the consequences. Why? Because I know, without a doubt, that GOD is in control. It's time to SUBMIT our LIVES to God, fearing nothing.
Serving one another with love not expecting anything in return.
 
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shrimp said:
Honestly,(And I KNOW i'm going to get a bad rap for this but) We should stop worrying about what is going to happen to us when we obey God. I would submit to my husband if he were an abusive nutter, regardless of the consequences. Why? Because I know, without a doubt, that GOD is in control. It's time to SUBMIT our LIVES to God, fearing nothing.
Serving one another with love not expecting anything in return.
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There is a huge difference between being submissive to a loving husband and being subjective to an abusive husband. No wife must tolerate either verbal or physical abuse or both.
 
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I think one element that is missing from most arguments here is that God's ways are best! There is a reason God made marriage this way: because it is the best for both man and woman AND it's best for furthering God's kingdom.

There really should be no argument. All those people screaming for "equality" have no idea what true equality is: having equal status before God. Other than that, we truly are NOT equal. I haven't seen any men giving birth!

My hubby is the head of our little household. He loves me and sacrifices for me. I submit to him. We've been married over 20 years. It works!
 
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Absolutelly! No mate would endarger himself or herself to such abuses.

Verbal or physical abuses are not condoned by the law of God neither Christ, because the law is LOVE: Loving GOD 1st and loving others, the way we love ourselves.
 
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Unfortunately it's not up to a woman to place a condition on her husbands behavior in order to decide whether she chooses to submit or not.
It is a command from God.
It is her calling by the Lord himself even if he is an unbeliever that by through her own actions of love and submission and a gentle and quiet spirit and being respectful to him that by through these actions
(since we know love is an action not a fluffy fuzzy butterfly feeling inside the tummy)
that she is an example which brings her husband closer to God.
Doing anything otherwise will usually only bring about discord in the relationship for not doing things Gods way.
And we know only Gods ways work, all other ways fail.
We are to be a sacrifice, a living one.
both people not just one of them since a rship is the duty and responsibility of both parties.
Not just the husband.
And in that they both submit to the other
One persons role is not conditional upon the other.
Their roles are dictated by God
just as the mans role under Gods word is not dependent upon his wifes submission.
As Skipp pointed out, submission is a strength not a weakness.
A strength founded in the faith of God, not a gut feeling based on ones instincts.

The moment one says
"the other is not fulfilling their role so I don't have to fulfill mine"
What does anyone think is gonna happen next?

As a Christian is it first and foremost a duty and a responsibility unto God once a person has agreed to that covenant under God.
And we know a covenant is an agreement where one fulfills their end of the deal regardless of whether the other does or not.
God provided this very example himself for us to follow.
So who are we to be higher than God to think one may redefine the terms of one of his Covenants.
 
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Cats, even dogs, expect their owners and masters love them well (just more than being fed up) btw.
 
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MidniteWelder said:
Unfortunately it's not up to a woman to place a condition on her husbands behavior in order to decide whether she chooses to submit or not.
It is a command from God.
It is her calling by the Lord himself even if he is an unbeliever that by through her own actions of love and submission and a gentle and quiet spirit and being respectful to him that by through these actions
(since we know love is an action not a fluffy fuzzy butterfly feeling inside the tummy)
that she is an example which brings her husband closer to God.
Doing anything otherwise will usually only bring about discord in the relationship for not doing things Gods way.
And we know only Gods ways work, all other ways fail.
We are to be a sacrifice, a living one.
both people not just one of them since a rship is the duty and responsibility of both parties.
Not just the husband.
And in that they both submit to the other
One persons role is not conditional upon the other.
Their roles are dictated by God
just as the mans role under Gods word is not dependent upon his wifes submission.
As Skipp pointed out, submission is a strength not a weakness.
A strength founded in the faith of God, not a gut feeling based on ones instincts.

The moment one says
"the other is not fulfilling their role so I don't have to fulfill mine"
What does anyone think is gonna happen next?

As a Christian is it first and foremost a duty and a responsibility unto God once a person has agreed to that covenant under God.
And we know a covenant is an agreement where one fulfills their end of the deal regardless of whether the other does or not.
God provided this example himself for us to follow.
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I could not have said it better! Thank you, MidniteWelder.
 
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Sadly, they (women) do have their right to decide and to say what their expectations and needs are... Amos 3:3

Men and women have to be honest and transparent enough.The saddest things are when there is not honesty or loyalty on that.
 
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Something to consider: At what point is a woman no longer Biblically required to submit?

Acts 5:29) Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men.

Now, some may say this doesn't apply, but consider this.................if a man/husband is demanding a woman/wife do things that are not in keeping with the Word of God...............is she STILL to submit to his will?
 
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