I was addressing these of your post...
"If we do not show the love of God to everyone we meet then we are not doing His commands."
and ...
"I would take it a step further and say why should we judge those who do? why judge at all? I know from experience that if God wants to change someone He can, without my shouting and balling. If anything I would probably get in the way."
First off, showing love is meaningless if somewhere you do not warn a person that the direction they are heading without Christ is destructive. That is simply narcissistic apathy. Jesus told us to preach the gospel...that already judges a person as guilty before a Holy God apart from the saving work of Christ. Your caricature of 'shouting and bawling' is sad and reveals your attitude towards those who have a passion for the lost. I hope you at least see your children as born in sin and in need of the Gospel and not just a good example.
I think I see what you are getting at. I agree with you on this, but what is true love? How can I say "I love you no matter what" and then let whoever walk of a cliff? That is not love, love protects and upholds. It isn't wishy washy fragrant nothingness. The gospel that people need to hear is that 'Jesus died for our sins so we do not have to'. Life without Jesus is very short, and lasts a life time, not long in the scheme of things. Both you and I crossnote are heading toward the end of our run on this mortal coil.
I find Jesus is the best at doing this by Himself. No matter what, I include Jesus somewhere in my interactions with the world, or try to. The love I hope I show is based on what He has done for me. Non of us can do otherwise or more. A little like Jeremiah, I am conscious of the blood of those I meet being on my head If I don't at least let Jesus in somewhere.
The condemnation for their actions then comes from Jesus directly to them. There are times that a violent reaction occurres, sometimes not much can be seen on the surface, but where the Spirit touches the world there always will be a reaction, even if it is hidden in someone's heart.
For me, if I were to start a conversation with, "Oh so your gay are you, don't you know you are going to hell if you don't believe?" does not belong in my inventory of opening remarks. I would hope that Jesus leading my actions as I keep Him close to me within those scenarios will show what they would need to see.
I used to be a member of MAG, "Motorcycle Action Group", they have offices all over the UK. it is a political pressure group, making sure that 'riders rights' are not overlooked within government policy. We met every fortnight. The group I was a member of was dwindling and about to be swallowed up by the group in a larger town, for economies sake. I heard one of my friends say something and turned around and could not see him, I was introduced to a lass called Sue and said hello, out of her mouth came the voice of my friend. It knocked me sideways. I didn't know. The upshot being I was angry because he hadn't said anything and I thought we were friends, and I was disgusted by his/her self mutilation. I knew he hadn't been well and been in hospital, we had all sent him a card, Eeeww. I didn't know Jesus then.
I have seen Sue since, the first thing I can't help but think to myself is she walks like a bloke, she has a blokes voice and I do feel awkward even now. She/he knows who I am and doesn't go out of her/his way to avoid me and its the same for myself.
I have only spoken with her/him once since the first meeting with her/him and that was over a fuel intake problem with his/her Ducati and it didn't last long. As we parted company I was in prayer and we haven't talked since. But I know when we do meet the conversation will not start with condemnation, it will not start with anything but love and anything I am asked will, God willing, be answered through the Spirit. I am not going to start rehearsing what to say in any given situation, I trust God to lead.
It is the same for my children. I talk to them, I show them what it means to me to be with Jesus as His constant companion in this life. I have two very nice young men in my household. I am proud of each to their own abilities, like chalk and cheese they are different but there is no difference between the love they receive, and the correction and guidance they also receive.
I do feel you have judged me brother, while you do not know me or my family. I do love you as I am supposed to do, so if there is offence in my words for you I apologise. I did find a little offence in your words and I forgive you and ask that you would forgive me for seeing that offence. but I will not say anything about judgement, that belongs to Jesus and I will not get in His way.
God bless you brother.