Finding the right denomination

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I'm not even really sure. I like a lot of it. Maybe lack of scripture study. I've thought about trying rcia classes. Ccd as a kid was a bit of a joke. The problem is with me rather than all these different churches. I just need to figure out what it is.
My preference in sermons is where an exposition is done on a passage(i.e., roughly a chapter) of Scripture. Doing it that way makes it harder to take single verses out of context.

That's not the way it usually, goes, though. Instead, a few verses from here and a few verses from there and a couple from another place and one other from a final place...and we have ourselves a sermon...combined with several stories/events from the preacher's life. (Blah)

The best way to get past the lack of scripture study is for us to do it at home. A parallel Bible(one with several versions) and a Strong's Concordance and a Bible dictionary, along with some dedication and no distractions, are a good start.

We're responsible to feed ourselves and keep our physical body strong/healthy. Same thing goes with our soul. :)
 

birdie

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Not sure where this topic fits, so I'll put it here. I've been looking for a church for years. I never seem to find one that seems to keep me coming back. I was raised catholic and made a few attempts at returning. I've also been to, baptist, Presbyterian, non denominational, churches of christ, Lutheran. I'm not sure what I'm looking for, but I keep seeking. I like in depth bible study which I really only found at church of christ. But feel like something is missing. Or I have trouble conforming to what they say about attending and no instruments in worship. It seems like I want to take a little of every denomination and put it together. Also I've been told certain churches are the one true church and all others aren't saved. That makes me constantly wonder if I'm in the right place. Just wondering i guess what church you like and why.

Thanks for sharing. The Bible talks about a time when the congregations of the church age fall away from the true gospel. It gives the advice, apparently, to those who are true believers: "And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues." Fortunately, Jesus is always, and God is able to give his own the life in relation to himself and others that he wants us to have. Personally, I don't put a lot of stock in organized religion.
 

mailmandan

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Not sure where this topic fits, so I'll put it here. I've been looking for a church for years. I never seem to find one that seems to keep me coming back. I was raised catholic and made a few attempts at returning. I've also been to, baptist, Presbyterian, non denominational, churches of christ, Lutheran. I'm not sure what I'm looking for, but I keep seeking. I like in depth bible study which I really only found at church of christ. But feel like something is missing. Or I have trouble conforming to what they say about attending and no instruments in worship. It seems like I want to take a little of every denomination and put it together. Also I've been told certain churches are the one true church and all others aren't saved. That makes me constantly wonder if I'm in the right place. Just wondering i guess what church you like and why.
I was raised catholic and at one time had temporarily attended a church of Christ that forbids instrumental music during worship. I would stay far away from both of those churches! Be sure to find a church that holds to essential Christian doctrine and does not teach salvation by works or adds to God's word. After my conversion several years ago, I've mostly attended Baptist churches, but now attend a non-denominational church.
 

JennaLeanne

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I love what Blain said, In christ we are all one, i will never put myself under any denomination, all these labels are stopping us uniting and becoming one. I would encourage you to read the bible for yourself and believe whole heartedly everything you read, that way there can be no confusion of doctrine.

I went to loads of different churches and listened to loads of different preachers when i first became a christian.. it messed with me because the all contradict one another.

Just keep in mind that we are all one and carry this with you wherever you go. If you hold on to the truth of the word then you can never go wrong.

Also, ask yourself the question, what is church? Its not the building that makes the church remember its us, the body of christ.

Bless u, im praying for you xxxx
 
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That's very possible. I do believe I've felt God while at a Catholic men's night with adoration and confession. And also at a Poor Clares monastery here in town for adoration. So I wonder why I always fall away.
Possibly because you're expecting an experience? A feeling of God. Possibly because you don't know him yet? If you don't know what church fits because they all seem the same, it's likely because you don't yet know God to detect the differences.

You worry me that a Catholic gathering gave you something or that a guy asking after your well being gave you something. Go out to buy a car and you get that same something -- an experience. God gives something bigger -- a new life. It's not a feeling. It's knowing who he is and our designed purpose in him.

Too many on here go to church for the social experience. I'd rather be grounded in Christ and find others who believe him.

It is likely you fall away because you never fell for (God.)
 

mailmandan

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Also, ask yourself the question, what is church? Its not the building that makes the church remember its us, the body of christ.
Amen! The church, the body of Christ (Colossians 1:18, 24) is made up of all born again believers and is not simply a building with a name stamped on it.
 
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I love what Blain said, In christ we are all one, i will never put myself under any denomination, all these labels are stopping us uniting and becoming one. I would encourage you to read the bible for yourself and believe whole heartedly everything you read, that way there can be no confusion of doctrine.

I went to loads of different churches and listened to loads of different preachers when i first became a christian.. it messed with me because the all contradict one another.

Just keep in mind that we are all one and carry this with you wherever you go. If you hold on to the truth of the word then you can never go wrong.

Also, ask yourself the question, what is church? Its not the building that makes the church remember its us, the body of christ.

Bless u, im praying for you xxxx
Yeah, never joining a denom merely gives you another label -- nondenom-joiner. Or is it no-church-joiner? In my mind that's like being proud my shirts are the right color.
 

JennaLeanne

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Yeah, never joining a denom merely gives you another label -- nondenom-joiner. Or is it no-church-joiner? In my mind that's like being proud my shirts are the right color.
I personally dont see it that way, if people wish to label me as that then there isnt much i can do about it, we are definetly all one no matter what.. :)
 
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Thank you all so much for the great comments and advice. I'm not going to worry if I find the one true church like the coc says they are. It makes me crazy and stresses me out, and I end up not going anywhere. I imagine God wouldn't make it such a riddle to find him "the right way". More of us would be lost than saved, thinking we were saved. I would hope it wouldn't be that hard sorting through all the different churches and ways to worship before finding God hiding in one place. But like it was said if I read the Bible and pray , I'll have God in my heart and know I can go where it's best for me to experience the best worship that God would want me at.
 

JennaLeanne

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Thank you all so much for the great comments and advice. I'm not going to worry if I find the one true church like the coc says they are. It makes me crazy and stresses me out, and I end up not going anywhere. I imagine God wouldn't make it such a riddle to find him "the right way". More of us would be lost than saved, thinking we were saved. I would hope it wouldn't be that hard sorting through all the different churches and ways to worship before finding God hiding in one place. But like it was said if I read the Bible and pray , I'll have God in my heart and know I can go where it's best for me to experience the best worship that God would want me at.
Amen to that :) Remember God is everywhere all the time, he is with you for sure. Trust that. Continue to pour out your heart to him. He says that those who seek him with all of their hearts will find him. Bless you brother xx
 
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thepsalmist

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Not sure where this topic fits, so I'll put it here. I've been looking for a church for years. I never seem to find one that seems to keep me coming back. I was raised catholic and made a few attempts at returning. I've also been to, baptist, Presbyterian, non denominational, churches of christ, Lutheran. I'm not sure what I'm looking for, but I keep seeking. I like in depth bible study which I really only found at church of christ. But feel like something is missing. Or I have trouble conforming to what they say about attending and no instruments in worship. It seems like I want to take a little of every denomination and put it together. Also I've been told certain churches are the one true church and all others aren't saved. That makes me constantly wonder if I'm in the right place. Just wondering i guess what church you like and why.
Yes ... I empathize.

TRUE CHURCH

The reason we keep seeking is because God called us to fellowship with Him and His other children.

The reason we don't find this, is because we look in the wrong place ... with the wrong eyes.

The CHURCH is IN CHRIST ... we fellowship in SPIRIT and TRUTH ... not in flesh.


GATHER YOURSELVES TOGETHER

It's good to gather together, as Paul submits ...
so if you can find even two or three others that truly are of like-mind to gather with
then you are truly blessed ~
 

Marcelo

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As Angela said, you need to be in prayer, and God will help you. I know many people who did that and God answered their prayers: today they are Christians filled with the Holy Spirit and God uses them in His work.


 

Elizabeth619

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Rob, every person in this thread is going to tell you to attend the church they go to because they think theirs is the "right" one. I am not going to do that, but I will encourage you to study up on what the true church is. You mention you have some issues with the Church of Christ and instrumental music. There has been huge debates on that subject in here, and without getting in an argument with others the basic idea of the CoC is they speak where the bible speaks, and is silent where the bible is silent. The reason for no instrumental music isn't that instruments are bad, but there is no scripture that gives the authority to have instruments in worship service. Whether you agree with that is up to you. I am not going to tell you how to believe, but I encourage you to study up on it instead of taking others advice on what is right and what is wrong in certain denominations. I am church of Christ, and some of the comments made by others about the congregation is false. I understand you have questions about the doctrine, but only you can determine what is best for you. Not the opinions of others.
 
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Rob, every person in this thread is going to tell you to attend the church they go to because they think theirs is the "right" one. I am not going to do that, but I will encourage you to study up on what the true church is. You mention you have some issues with the Church of Christ and instrumental music. There has been huge debates on that subject in here, and without getting in an argument with others the basic idea of the CoC is they speak where the bible speaks, and is silent where the bible is silent. The reason for no instrumental music isn't that instruments are bad, but there is no scripture that gives the authority to have instruments in worship service. Whether you agree with that is up to you. I am not going to tell you how to believe, but I encourage you to study up on it instead of taking others advice on what is right and what is wrong in certain denominations. I am church of Christ, and some of the comments made by others about the congregation is false. I understand you have questions about the doctrine, but only you can determine what is best for you. Not the opinions of others.
Rob, every person in this thread is going to tell you to attend the church they go to because they think theirs is the "right" one. ::Scratching head:: Which posts are you referring to?

the basic idea of the CoC is they speak where the bible speaks, and is silent where the bible is silent. The reason for no instrumental music isn't that instruments are bad, but there is no scripture that gives the authority to have instruments in worship service. Whether you agree with that is up to you.
So...if I walk into a church...and see/hear/taste/smell something that I can't find clearly mentioned in the Bible, then it's out during the service? ::Scratching head again::

By the way, are you still winning the battle you told us CC members about a couple(?) weeks back?
 

Blain

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Rob, every person in this thread is going to tell you to attend the church they go to because they think theirs is the "right" one. I am not going to do that, but I will encourage you to study up on what the true church is. You mention you have some issues with the Church of Christ and instrumental music. There has been huge debates on that subject in here, and without getting in an argument with others the basic idea of the CoC is they speak where the bible speaks, and is silent where the bible is silent. The reason for no instrumental music isn't that instruments are bad, but there is no scripture that gives the authority to have instruments in worship service. Whether you agree with that is up to you. I am not going to tell you how to believe, but I encourage you to study up on it instead of taking others advice on what is right and what is wrong in certain denominations. I am church of Christ, and some of the comments made by others about the congregation is false. I understand you have questions about the doctrine, but only you can determine what is best for you. Not the opinions of others.
You sure about that? Because I think and I also am 100% sure many here also think that he should join the church that his heart knows is home a church where the love and light and fire of God is abundant.
God will guide his heart to the church where he belongs regardless what church that is, you cannot assume you know our hearts enough to say that
 
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Not sure where this topic fits, so I'll put it here. I've been looking for a church for years. I never seem to find one that seems to keep me coming back. I was raised catholic and made a few attempts at returning. I've also been to, baptist, Presbyterian, non denominational, churches of christ, Lutheran. I'm not sure what I'm looking for, but I keep seeking. I like in depth bible study which I really only found at church of christ. But feel like something is missing. Or I have trouble conforming to what they say about attending and no instruments in worship. It seems like I want to take a little of every denomination and put it together. Also I've been told certain churches are the one true church and all others aren't saved. That makes me constantly wonder if I'm in the right place. Just wondering i guess what church you like and why.

One that teaches you have to be born again by the blood and not by the water.
 

Elizabeth619

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Rob, every person in this thread is going to tell you to attend the church they go to because they think theirs is the "right" one. ::Scratching head:: Which posts are you referring to?

the basic idea of the CoC is they speak where the bible speaks, and is silent where the bible is silent. The reason for no instrumental music isn't that instruments are bad, but there is no scripture that gives the authority to have instruments in worship service. Whether you agree with that is up to you.
So...if I walk into a church...and see/hear/taste/smell something that I can't find clearly mentioned in the Bible, then it's out during the service? ::Scratching head again::

By the way, are you still winning the battle you told us CC members about a couple(?) weeks back?
I'm not getting in a debate about this. If one really wants to k kW the doctrine then they will study it
as far as the battle if you're referring to not smoking I have "fallen off the wagon" a little but back on it again. It's tough but I'll beat this habit
 

Elizabeth619

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You sure about that? Because I think and I also am 100% sure many here also think that he should join the church that his heart knows is home a church where the love and light and fire of God is abundant.
God will guide his heart to the church where he belongs regardless what church that is, you cannot assume you know our hearts enough to say that
Did you miss the part where I said he needs to study on his own and not the opinions of others? Especially when there has been false info given about the congregation he is currently attending. And yes, some here have been a little persistent to tell him what type of church to attend.
 
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There are things I like about coc and things I dislike. But that goes for all churches I've tried. I won't find one that is exactly what I'm looking for. So I will try and find one that keeps me wanting more. But I need to find faith myself, by reading the bible and praying. And not expecting a church to generate my faith for me. It has to come from me. The coc I had gone to had about 7 members that met in a rented mini mall space. It just didn't feel right.
 
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Is Christ divided? A house divided cannot stand.

1 Corinthians 1:10 NKJV
Now I plead with you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly joined in the same mind and in the same judgment.

The problem with finding the right denomination is that denominations by the very nature of what they are, divide the body of Christ into factions. While they may claim to all be unified in the "essentials" and that's all that matters (not biblical), how then can multiple denominations all say something different when it comes to doctrine. According to 2 Timothy 3:16, all scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, reproof, correction, and instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. Thus, if every pastor of every church and the laity of every church were listening to the Holy Spirit, we will be unified in the same mind and judgment regarding doctrine. We can argue that in 66 books, we have our doctrine and gospel.

This site has explicitly and correctly stated that Roman Catholic doctrine is not correct, even heresy. Let's not return to that. When finding a local church to be a part of, look for a church (not denomination) that teaches from the scriptures and doesn't extrapolate an hour on a single scripture, strengthened by the pastor's interpretation of scripture. God's word confirms itself through the mouths of two or three witnesses. Across the bible from OT to NT, the very same things are being said and we can understand it from that context. A local church you decide to join should also not shy away from difficult topics in the bible because they may be disturbing to our flesh. For that very reason, they should be addressed. A local church does need to speak about the grace of God and the victory we have in Him. It also needs to address sin and the consequences of sin, even for those who are in Christ. It should not detract from the responsibility of a believer to study his or her word. Study to shew thyself approved unto God.

A local church has the important responsibility of preparing the laity or parishioners for the narrow road walk of a Christian. Not as a substitute for God but by leading them in the right direction so God may be the one that guides each step and decision they make in life. By the light of Christ in these individuals, not with a lampshade over them, they may draw to them those from whom the ground is prepared by God so they can make a decision to come to Christ. Believers laden down with false doctrines and half truths are simply salt that has lost its flavor, good only to be thrown out. If we look like, sound like, and act like the world, how then can we witness to the world, when there is little difference between us?

As the bible says, in the end times there will be a famine on this earth, not for food but the word of God! Before the coming of the Time of Jacob's Trouble there will be a great falling away with people heaping up teachers to ease their itching ears. Satan's ministers will be in the pulpits of the church, twisting doctrine here and there and turning people to another gospel and thus another Christ. More and more we find that this is coming about with all of the seeker friendly/purpose driven style churches popping up and strange fire being given to woo the laity. For a local church, find one that does not compromise and stands as a beacon of light/truth amid the darkness. One that has the important purpose to prepare the laity for the narrow and difficult walk of a Christian! (Matthew 7:13-14). Find a local church that prepares the laity to rightly divide the truth from error and exercise their discernment to find what is pleasing to the Lord and walk from that which is not.