How Is A Christian Lady Supposed to Dress?

[ember]

and I forgot this gem:

I'm not being a smart arse asking that either.

do you talk like that in church or just here? we are not supposed to talk like that

 

[ember]

Personally, I think women should react "offensively" and demand that Grace be extended to them just as men extend Grace to themselves...........but, that is just me I suspect.........

As I do not see a rush of Grace only men coming to the defense of women on this thread

well I get my dander up on this subject because I have never dressed to tempt anyone and yet have had plenty of unwanted attention

but old age may cure that LOL!

 

[ember]

well, y'all can relax...I'm going to take a chill pill now and have a cup of coffee

although one question please

why is it that these men who think women should put a bag over there heads (slight exageration) get all in a huff when a woman throws the mud back?

I am a woman...and not in the least gender confused...I have a decent education, above average IQ (guess that's a sin), plenty of talent in the arts and I am good wife and decent housekeeper

why is that so many men actually feel threatened by that profile?

oh...and my teeth are straight, I have nice hair and am in not too bad shape...doggone...where'd I put that burka?

 

[Miri]

This popcorn is really nice - chomp chomp.

No seriously, I go to a city centre church and it often attracts prostiitues and
the homeless into the services who have very little to wear.

What should we tell the prostitures, stay out cover up there is no grace
or salvation to be had here unless you cover up?

I would rather tell those saved "Christians" who already know God, to stay at home.

The healthy don't need a doctor, it's the sick that do.

Or what about the poor woman struggling on benefits to bring up children
whose abusive husband has walked out on her. She does not have any money to
spare to buy "Christian" clothing, so she wears the only things she has.
The dress may be a little low, a little revealing, the hem too high etc.
But she becomes a new creation in Christ, brings her children along who are
also saved.

The only clothing we should concern ourselves with is to make sure we
are clothed in righteousness.

As for the rather revealing woman next to you, leave her alone and let
Jesus work in her heart, let the Holy Spirit convict her in His own good time.

As for you - why are you not concentrating on the bible and the word
being preached?

 

[phil112]

[h=2]How Is A Christian Lady Supposed to Dress?[/h]

Modestly. Unfortunately, some women like to dress to attract and call it modest.
Woe to those that call lies truth and truth lies.

 

[p_rehbein]

Modestly. Unfortunately, some women like to dress to attract and call it modest.
Woe to those that call lies truth and truth lies.

Hmm, are they saved by Grace, or by dressing modestly? Do men dress to attract and call it modest?

 

[atwhatcost]

“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; but (which becometh women professing godliness).” 1 Timothy 2: 9-10

At a particular time, as I studied my scripture, this very scripture above, struck a chord in my spirit (witness of the Spirit). But I’m so confused as to why so many Christian ladies neglect its application in their dress code.

Worse of all, so many Christian leaders seem to be silent concerning this particular scripture. You know, we still see so many Christian sisters, dress so worldly in aberration to the above scripture. We still see sisters wear immodest attires around, even to the Church.

We still see Christian women adorn themselves with gold, pearl (Jewelries). Braid (Plait) their hair. Even wear costly arrays, yet no one seems to see anything wrong with it, except a few leaders that I know.

It amazed me the most, that even when I talked to lady minister concerning this scripture, her only defense was that, it was the Apostle Paul’s peculiar perspective. Then she also added, that if I preached that kind of doctrine in my Church, that people will not come.

Yes, sure enough, I believe if I preach this doctrine in its unadulterated form, many sisters (even bothers) will stop coming-although I’m not interested in only quantity, but also in quality-But the question that I’ve kept battling with-and I’m yet to get satisfying answer to is…

These Christian leaders that are allowing the sisters in their Churches to dress as they like, without any form of instruction, especially from the above scripture, is it that God told them, he has changed his mind concerning that injunction from Paul?

Or do they also hold the same opinion with the female preacher I consulted, that it was only Paul’s opinion then, and that it does not apply now?

Well, I’m not here to display any form of holier-than-thou attitude. After all, I want to make heaven, and God has told me that the only way for me to be saved, is to give myself fully to the doctrines of the scripture and also teach them to others to be saved as well (1Timothy 4: 16).

So please, I’m not here for any form of argument. I want you to spiritually and scripturally ponder over this scripture above by the Holy Spirit in you, and give me your opinion.

Please, let’s lay aside other people’s commentaries, unless you deem it fit, by the Spirit. Pls, let’s speak as one who will give account of our words on the Day of Judgment.

Honestly and spiritually, what do you make of this scripture above?

I’m open-Hearted to Learn.

There's a Ladies Forum on this site. We "ladies" (I can't help it. That makes me laugh. I am a woman, but ain't no way I'm a lady lol) just covered the topic of submitting on our own, in Titus 2 fashion. Dressing is part of submitting, so we're all cool. We really don't need another guy teaching us how to act.

One thing I do get wonder. Why don't guys ever ask the really hard question? It's about how they're supposed to at. "Husbands, love your wives as Christ loves is church." Whoa doggie! I am so glad I'm not a guy to have to figure out how to do that. I don't get woman, and I AM a woman! How do guys deal with us, once more love us?

 

[Miri]

Hmm, are they saved by Grace, or by dressing modestly? Do men dress to attract and call it modest?

Oh my goodness men can be just as vane, if not more so!
The hair gel, thick gold chains, strutting their stuff.
Sleeveless vests showing off the tan, tats and muscles.

Sprawling out across the seats taking up 2-3 chairs etc.
The designer close cropped/shaved beards. Expensive aftershave,
all for a little old sermon in church.

I think men should wear burkas too

 

[Blain]

Well the way i see it God looks at the heart, but at the same time it might seem a bit strange for a good Christian women to walk into church dressed in all black and sort of gothic makeup and such that might raise a few eyebrows lol

although I admit it does annoy me that so many women take so much care into their appearance, now clothes and hair this I can understand but boy the make up is just ugh... I lived in a house of girls and the amount of time it takes them to get ready all the kinds of make up and fragrances they packed onto themselves was ridiculous even a lot of Christian girls do this and I ask myself who they are trying to look good for?

idk maybe because I guy I find it ridiculous and dumb

 

[atwhatcost]

Yeah, I get your point, I think understand why you would be ticked, discrimination perhaps? It's not about being attractive, i'm not looking for other women, I think women in general look better without wearing make up.

Did you notice i mentioned I don't think it's a sin or they are doing anything wrong?

But it's my opinion just as much as you have your own opinion.

Oh, I have a leigtimate question, are you pissed off with Paul for addressing how women should dress in gatherings, whose words are far stronger than my opinion and that he didn't address how men should dress?
I'm not being a smart arse asking that either.

Just so men get that this isn't just Ember tired of these topics. Many of we women are. Here's the commonality that bothers me:
1. Always a man teaching how a woman is to act, (which, btw, isn't scriptural, if you check out Titus 2.)

2. Always how to act/look, instead of how to be.

3. 99% of the time it ends up being a post for men to voice their opinions of what they personally like in a woman. Honestly? I'm a butt person. I can go on for 25 minutes about the finer points of butts on a guy. Does it, at all, have anything to do with how men should be and how women should be? And, do I have any rights in telling men what they should be? Likewise, do strange men have any rights telling what a woman should be? I've got two really cool guys in my life telling me how I should be -- God and hubby. To them, I'll listen! I'll even listen to strange men if their point isn't to degrade me down to appropriate clothing and hairstyle! And I say that as someone who had older Christian women trying to upgrade my appropriateness, because I've always been extremely modest. (Granted, they tried. It didn't work. No one ever simply told me they wanted me to wear dresses to church. And even when I finally figured out the message, I still wore paints to church because, yo! God's seen me on the toilet. Not like he hasn't already seen me at my worse, so I can't impress him in a dress. And I'm not going to church to impress anyone else with some fashion statement. I wore nice jeans -- not completely baggy, but not skin tight either, and a collar shirt or a blouse. Nothing showing that shouldn't be showing. Not even hinted at. I don't care if that's what men want to see in a woman. I'm not there to please them. I'm there to worship God.)

 

[p_rehbein]

Well the way i see it God looks at the heart, but at the same time it might seem a bit strange for a good Christian women to walk into church dressed in all black and sort of gothic makeup and such that might raise a few eyebrows lol


........and it wouldn't be the same for a man to do such? Yeah, I've NEVER SEEN a man dress this way.......


although I admit it does annoy me that so many women take so much care into their appearance, now clothes and hair this I can understand but boy the make up is just ugh... I lived in a house of girls and the amount of time it takes them to get ready all the kinds of make up and fragrances they packed onto themselves was ridiculous even a lot of Christian girls do this and I ask myself who they are trying to look good for?


.......and men don't also do this?..........seriously? who are they trying to look good for?.....

idk maybe because I guy I find it ridiculous and dumb

.........................

 

[JesusLives]

Easy answer..... With clothes.

 

[Rosesrock]

Im not sure why you're asking, but here goes.

Simple guys are affected by what they see...be mindful of that.

Those verses talk about yes we can clean up, but what matters in on the inside. The inside will reflect what's on the outside

 

[Rosesrock]

Easy answer..... With clothes.

I almost posted that, but had a serious moment....lol

 

[Rosesrock]

Modestly. Unfortunately, some women like to dress to attract and call it modest.
Woe to those that call lies truth and truth lies.

Unfortunately we live in a time that teens are running the household, and not being taught what their future holds. If we were raising our children to be wives and mothers, then this issue would go away. Wait, let's go back a bit. Let's talk about the foundation of family and the way God sees family. Most if not all insecure girls who want "attention" don't have a father in the home that will give time and energy to help them feel "secure" or worth something. Yes it's sad. It's sad that we live in a society that feeds girls, even woman on what they look like. It's sad that MEN buy into it and feed it by watching, giving attention, when they could look at the wall. Girls should taught their identity comes from Christ, not what others think of them. We should be telling them that what you attract with you attract to. A man that you attract with your looks will one day get bored, cause sorry we all change. We should STOP dwelling on the outside of people and pray for the HEART. Then all the issues of things like this, would fad away. A girl that's sold out for her God, doesn't even question what she wears or buys, the decision has been made. And those who have question of what not to wear....when in doubt don't.

 

[atwhatcost]

I almost posted that, but had a serious moment....lol

I thought that was a serious moment.

 

[Rosesrock]

You know, when I think about it, I would like to see christian women not all dolled up for church (or at any other time for that matter). At the churches i've been too, the women have dressed decently but some really pile on the make up and do their hair right up. Now i'm not saying it's a sin to do so, personally. But I say this for their own sakes that they would be comfortable with themselves to be able to be seen in public as God had made them.
When you see a woman, (or a man) who allows their holiness to be their beauty LIKE MY WIFE for example It's so much better.
Maybe it's just me and I generally prefer women to not wear make up? As in I don't find make up attractive.

Anyway, I hope you get my point.

seems to me this whole post is about you judging why someone does something.... might need to stop that. Assuming is bad.

 

[Miri]

Could always try the fig leaf option, at least that would be kind
to the planet.

Miri's gonna have a gripe now - gripe alert

What really gets me is that I played the saxophone in the worship team
for several years.

Whenever I was playing on stage (which was most weeks) I would spend some
time jiggling about when getting ready making sure nothing was too high or low.
Also took great pains to make sure nothing was immodest, especially due
to the way the saxophone is supported by the body.

The neck harness can tug at clothing a bit and the saxophone is carried at the
front of the body. Because of the way you hold the sax up it is also important
not to wear anything with loose baggy shirt sleeves!

Also in church we have cameras which zoom in and really focus
on you on stage. So I also use to wear a bit of foundation when I was playing.

Apart from that I never wore make up. Can't do lippy when playing the sax, also
i can't stand eye make up, it makes my skin itch.

I always wore trousers too as the platform in church is raised up higher than the rest of the
congregation. Even skirts just below the knee can look a bit immodest when
playing on a raised stage.

So despite all this, here is just a few of the examples of comments I got.

Man - I don't think women should wear trousers in church.

Man - you always wear trousers it would be nice to see your legs for a change.

Woman - you always look nice even if you don't wear lipstick.

Man - don't you think it's too warm for long sleeves I would have thought you
would be wearing a vest in this heat.

Woman - it would be nice to see you in a dress for a change.

Man - I could eat you all up for dinner.

Man - by eck I could play your saxophone any time (this man was
just creepy full stop).

Woman - you wear a lot of dark coloured tops don't you.

Man - you always wear flat shoes on stage don't you, I would like to
see you in high heels. (Yeah like, you trying wearing high heels stood for half
an hour with a tonne of brass dangling from your neck!)

Honest I could go on.....


The point is it doesn't matter what a person wears, someone is gonna
disapprove of something!

As long as a person does not go out of their way to,deliberately
be provocatively and cause problems, then it should not matter
what a person wears.

If someone seems a bit too risqué prayer for them let the Holy
Spirit convict them. Also ask yourself is it just me.

Or find out when it is their birthday and buy them something nice.
I know someone who did this and the recipient was so overjoyed as
she did not have much spare money.

 

[ember]

Modestly. Unfortunately, some women like to dress to attract and call it modest.
Woe to those that call lies truth and truth lies.

and here we have the typical response from a man

we KNOW what scripture states...men should dress modestly too...yah know? no shirts open to the navel and extra tight jeans...and they should absolutely not douse themselves in cheap cologne...if you are wearing cheap cologne, take a shower guys...women don't find that attractive

and wear a jacket so we don't see your rippling biceps and cover the chest hairs

I'm so tired of this and yet here I am again...haha

 

[ember]

Oh my goodness men can be just as vane, if not more so!
The hair gel, thick gold chains, strutting their stuff.
Sleeveless vests showing off the tan, tats and muscles.

Sprawling out across the seats taking up 2-3 chairs etc.
The designer close cropped/shaved beards. Expensive aftershave,
all for a little old sermon in church.

I think men should wear burkas too

hmmm...I'm good with the expensive aftershave...but not too much...mind you, I have my own guy to admire it on

some men should absolutely wear burkas...the ones who think they are all that and when they grin at you, you change seats...I know I have