But, I am hearing people here say that until we have done the right amount of demonstrating humiliation (or whatever), God harbors a lower view of us.
you've stated this with a snide tone, so I'm not sure how to respond.
if God is FOR US, we're going to be scourged when we do wrong.
you tacked "God harbors a lower view of us" on.
as you said parents don't stop loving their kids when they are punished - but to even suggest the parent (or God Himself) can't/won't/shouldn't have a severely negative response to sin is ridiculous.
why are you still debating the elementary principles?
when we fall short, we repent.
that's the way God set it up, including designing us with that amazing thing - the conscience.
if your conscience is always clean without repenting of your failures, I don't know how you managed it.