Perhaps you are only looking at the external things of a woman and not praying and asking God about her heart?
why did you marry the women to begin with? did you learn about their dreams? how do you know they knew scripture? did you learn if they had the Holy Spirit within them?
From a "male perspective" sounds like it more from a worldly bitter man's perspective. I admit most of the women I know are married or widowed but if given the opportunity and if they were cherished as God meant them to be I know quite a few women who would fit the proverbs 31 woman qualification.
However, I feel that you have a misconception of what a proverbs 31 woman would look like.
1. Her husband trusts her
2. she works with her hands
3. she brings food from afar, trading with merchants
4. she buys and sells land
5. she helps the poor and needy
6. she clothes her household
Proverbs 31
[SUP]25 [/SUP]Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
[SUP]26 [/SUP]She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
[SUP]27 [/SUP]She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
[SUP]28 [/SUP]Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
[SUP]29 [/SUP]“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
[SUP]30 [/SUP]Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
so it makes me wonder, did the women before you marry them become involved in charity work? did they have a heart for those less fortunate? Did they truly fear the Lord and wish to keep His commandments? Were they humble of spirit and willing to submit to God's guidance? did they offer you wise counsel? Were they kind even when no one was watching?
did you remember that "Charm
is deceitful and beauty
is passing," ?
just because someone goes to church and claims to "speak in tongues" does not mean they truly are a child of God or that they are guided by the Holy Spirit.
Your words sadden me. ... I am married and plan to be married only once, even if my husband was to leave me, cheat on me or tell me he changed his mind about marriage because God stayed faithful to Israel even when she went whoring after other gods and idols. I believe God wants us to love our spouse even when they wander away from God and us, because there is always they hope that the one lost sheep might be found and brought back to the fold.
I believe if a man wants to be the head of the house, then he should be man enough to learn how to protect his family from the whisperings of demons and their doctrines. He should speak with his wife and learn what strongholds or lies that Satan might have planted in her life that would cause her to go against God's commandments. He should attend a church where there are older women who can mentor her into become the woman of God she was meant to be. Perhaps people will say its not the man's responsibility.
but it reminds me of the question: Am I my brother's keeper?
sometimes one should pray and ask, am I truly ready for marriage? Can I treat the other person as Christ treats the church? would I be willing to die for her, protect, love, serve and lead her towards God's upward calling?
Ephesians 5
[h=3][/h][SUP]22 [/SUP]Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. [SUP]23 [/SUP]For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. [SUP]24 [/SUP]Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so
let the wives
be to their own husbands in everything.
[SUP]25 [/SUP]Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, [SUP]26 [/SUP]that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, [SUP]27 [/SUP]that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. [SUP]28 [/SUP]So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. [SUP]29 [/SUP]For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord
does the church. [SUP]30 [/SUP]For we are members of His body,[SUP][
d][/SUP] of His flesh and of His bones. [SUP]31 [/SUP]“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”[SUP][
e][/SUP] [SUP]32 [/SUP]This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. [SUP]33 [/SUP]Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife
see that she respects
her husband.
From the ppl of the world as potential spouses...I've been married three time...to three Christians...the first left in a week...saying she made a mistake and wasn't ready for marriage...and 60 later was dating and later filed for divorce...the second had my children and multiple affairs...the third was violent, lied, cheated and abandoned the marriage....all three attended church regularly, all three spoke in tongues, all three knew the scriptures...
All.there were rebellious...
All im seeing in church now from a male perspective is a bunch of women with democratic views mixed with christianity ...rebellious, wanting headship, career or work orientated...selfesh and with someone elses children, wanting to date or get married...but yet are busy, busy, busy....what happened to the proverbs 31 woman instead of these headstrong brash dominate "Christian" females...????
Who have their own interpretation of scripture that is politically correct and only relevant with the times! Smh
Gimmie a break "sisters"...
what kind of "break" is it that you need?
My sisters and I would rather hold your hand and pray with you that you may find peace in Christ and His love. that you may find joy in His truth and forgiveness in your heart for the pain your wives have caused you. that you may let go of the bitterness and not allow the hurt to taint your vision of others. that you may learn to counter the devices of Satan and the doctrines of demons that infect the minds and hearts of so many. that you might grow and learn and with love and wisdom from above speak words and tear down the spiritual strongholds of darkness in the minds of those around you and even within yourself that might war against the knowledge of God. We would pray that you might with the Holy Spirit grow to be a strong mature man of God, a pillar of strength, a well spring of pure living water that might bring comfort and peace to those you meet. God bless and keep you. In Jesus name, we pray.
that would be the only break I would know to give you.
