avoiding confrontation

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AgeofKnowledge

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When Jesus drove out the money changers from the temple with a self-made whip, was he acting from love?

I would argue that ultimately: He was.


Exactly...when done in the spirit of Jesus, confrontation is about love.
 
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Nobody enjoys confrontation.
That's just silly. I thoroughly enjoy confrontation.

sunnymdaze, I'm still not clear on exactly what you're asking. How is your husband being avoidant? Is he naturally avoidant person, or is this new behavior? Does this behavior only occur during work? What exactly is this behavior? What would you rather have him do?

I just don't feel like we're getting the whole picture, or even a fraction of it.
 

notuptome

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That's just silly. I thoroughly enjoy confrontation.

sunnymdaze, I'm still not clear on exactly what you're asking. How is your husband being avoidant? Is he naturally avoidant person, or is this new behavior? Does this behavior only occur during work? What exactly is this behavior? What would you rather have him do?

I just don't feel like we're getting the whole picture, or even a fraction of it.
If you say so. I see you do not consider yourself a Christian so there is a confrontation in your future that you will not find enjoyable. It is the confrontation of you and the righteousness of God.

For Christians we are admonished to as well as lieth within us to live peaceably with all men.

For the cause of Christ
Roger
 
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Sirk

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I think the word confrontation has a nasty mean connotation....just like the word anger. Not dealing with things is old school. Confrontation and anger are good healthy expressions of our humanness.
 
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Ugly

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Are most men like this?
No. It's either a personality trait or something he's learned in his upbringing (not a gender issue). To add to what another poster said, this is a business partnership, not a marriage. You have to rearrange your viewpoint to not seeing your husband as your husband, and what his responsibilities are in that role. You have to see this as two people in business, and the one best suited for a particular job should be the one to do it.
 
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I think the word confrontation has a nasty mean connotation....just like the word anger. Not dealing with things is old school. Confrontation and anger are good healthy expressions of our humanness.
If channeled/executed correctly.

I would word it like this: "Confrontation" and "anger" are not healthy or unhealthy by itself, but if channeled/executed correctly, it can and will lead to healthier and happier feelings/relationships.

Unfortunately, many people don't know how to do this. It's easier to be mentally weak and react out of emotion than it is reason/logic/love.
 
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Sirk

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If channeled/executed correctly.

I would word it like this: "Confrontation" and "anger" are not healthy or unhealthy by itself, but if channeled/executed correctly, it can and will lead to healthier and happier feelings/relationships.

Unfortunately, many people don't know how to do this. It's easier to be mentally weak and react out of emotion than it is reason/logic/love.
Anger should serve as a warning of a crossed boundary or a violated core belief. Unfortunately it is the surface emotion and therefore is the easiest to focus on and make desicions by.
 
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Sirk

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Processing experience with your loved ones is crucial to good relationship. Asking for and accepting feedback in how your loved ones experience you is like blood flow to your limbs. If the flow of blood is cut off we all know what happens physically. It is the same in relationship. Open honest and living communication is the lifeblood of connectedness.
 
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Kaycie

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I only avoid confrontations when the confronter does not have the right intentions.