Ever OK to hit spouse?

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Matthew

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Leilaii425 said:
I believe spanking works for some kids and not for others.
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Your probably right, in my case I think my parents got it right by spanking us, my brothers and I were always acting hyper and doing something to drive my parents crazry and add 2 sisters to the mix, one toddler and one teenager and I doubt anything else would have worked, if my parents hadn't spanked us we would have run riot.
But on the other hand grounding never made a difference to us, we just misbehaved inside instead of outside.
 
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Jezreel

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Matthew said:
Your probably right, in my case I think my parents got it right by spanking us, my brothers and I were always acting hyper and doing something to drive my parents crazry and add 2 sisters to the mix, one toddler and one teenager and I doubt anything else would have worked, if my parents hadn't spanked us we would have run riot.
But on the other hand grounding never made a difference to us, we just misbehaved inside instead of outside.
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There is a scripture in Proverbs that says, "Foolishness and bound in the heart of a child and the rod of correction will drive it far from him"
My mother used the wooden spoon on me and it did not damage me in any way. I used the wooden spoon on my children and I could take them anywhere and everywhere because they were so well behaved, I was so proud of them, even to this day because of the way they are raising their own children, wisdom given by wooden spoon. I do say that I did not have to resort to the wooden spoon all the time. The time came where I could just suggest to them that they behave and they would because they knew they would get the wooden spoon so it was easier for them to obey. I does not help at all to hit a child in anger and parents are not to provoke their children to wrath because it will discourage them. Consistancy is the main ingredient of being able to successfully train up a child in the way he is to go. All of my grown children love the Lord and my grandchildren are wonderful. I do give Jesus the glory and praise for this though. There were times when my husband and I did not reflect the Lord but we did tell our childlren we were sorry. Always apologize to your children when you make a mistake and that is such a good witness for them as we are all humans we we all make mistakes as parents.
 
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JesusChaser

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Yeah I think that most people got this. Hitting is bad. No matter who it is. Unless it's spanking. Then again that's a whole other argument.
 
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elder1

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yes it is always wrong to hit a women
 
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Leilaii425

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I think its okay to hit your spouse with house hold objects, like plates, cups, sewing needles, tooth brush holders, earrings, stuff like that.
 
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I've spanked my boys for deliberate disobedience and then only after 2 warnings, 3 on the butt with the hand & only 3 then get to BED NOW... I would never recommend hitting your kids with ANY stick, it is not necessary as the sting of a hand is enough & how are you to know if you've gone to far if you yourself cant feel the impact of the hit. My mom hit me with sticks & with a belt... her hand would have done the job just fine but she gave that up cause she injured her hand once cause she was so mad. Granted i was an 8 year old smoker & deserved my punishment but it was excessive.
 
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Paws4Jesus

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I tend to think of my spouse as my best friend and I would no more hit or manhandle my best friend than I would anyone else I loved or cared for. I think it is a matter of respect that comes with maturity as well as patience. You have to know when to just walk away either physically or mentally and you have to have the patience to endure if you can't. Most people that strike out verbally or physically lack that maturity no matter their ages.
 
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Maddog

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Sometimes physical force can be a lot more useful and effective than just getting into a shouting match. I can't think of many situations where it would be necessary to hit one's spouse but I wouldn't want to say never. I suppose it depends on how much authority a man has over his wife.
 
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Glitter

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dont hit first, but if the spouse hits you, you better hit back, and if he's bigger then run!
 
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Ok I can speak from experience on this as I've been both in an abusive relationship where I've been slapped, mind you this IS NOT why I'm divorced. While I was still married to my ex wife she slapped me once because of something that was said during a verbal spat. A few weeks later she and I had another round resulting in her slapping me again. It was at this point where I decided that under no circumstances would I physically strike my spouse for any reason (which I wouldn't do anyway but still). Moving ahead to current day I found myself in a relationship not too terribly long ago where the girl had a temper from you know where. She would provoke me and push me and shove me to the point where one would think that I would have done something. But as I promised myself I kept my hands at my side and remained calm. It was a promise well kept and it paid off. This same person also tried to put their hands around my neck at which point I quickly in self defense before things turned violent removed her hands before she could physically get them around my neck and stepped back. In conclusion, it is under no circumstances right to put your hands on a woman for any reason. But there again this was how I was raised and I know people will have varying opinions.
 
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carpetmanswife

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Leilaii425 said:
I think its okay to hit your spouse with house hold objects, like plates, cups, sewing needles, tooth brush holders, earrings, stuff like that.
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i almost used an ashtray once...thought better of it
 
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Oh I know right....it's always best to be the better person.
 
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dianna

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No, No, No,will be asking is. Is it ok if I stab my kid just a little. Not the hole knife but the tip of it. WHAT?
 
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I'm sorry here... I didn't even read your post but I find it appalling that anyone would think that it's EVER okay to hit ANYONE!!
Tell me where Jesus ever hit someone. The life of christ is what we must immitate.

ChristopherMichael said:
Is it ever all right for you to hit your spouse? Maybe not even hitting, but just manhandle them against their will, or angrily grabbing at them? Like if you were to push them down, or angrily slap something from their hands, or shove them out of your way?

What if your spouse has been yelling at you a lot or trying to get you riled up and angry. Does this change it at all? What if they even know you loose your temper and get physical, and just want to make you feel inferior at being unable to control your emotions?

Now, I know a lot of you women out there are probably pretty upset or irked at this point, since it sounds like I'm trying to justify a man getting angry and physical with his wife. Seems like it should be just out of the question, not even able to be debated, right?

Now reread the question, and notice the gender-neutral terms. What if it's a woman, and she's getting physical (not in a good way) with her male spouse. I can't tell you how often I see women angrily pushing and hitting their husbands, both in homes, and in public. Makes me sick!

What are your thoughts?

- Topher
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flozzzy

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my parents used to hit eachother and get into seriouly crazy shouting matches, and it really destroys the children. i mean, seeing your mum and dad turning into animals at the age of 5 really affects you. i think if people can just TRY speak calmly and think alot b4 they say things it would help alot.
 
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Raeshelle

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There is no reason what so ever for a man or a woman to hit their spouse. Better to walk away and get out then to end up one or the other maybe killing the spouse. And Yes it happens, I know someone very close to me that this happened to. So NO it is not ok to slap, hit kick or punch your spouse. You are instructed in God's word to love them and love does not involve causing physical pain.
 
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Maddog

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Raeshelle said:
There is no reason what so ever for a man or a woman to hit their spouse.
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I think that's the ideal, but it's not the reality.

Raeshelle said:
Better to walk away and get out then to end up one or the other maybe killing the spouse. And Yes it happens, I know someone very close to me that this happened to.
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Sorry, but trying to draw a direct line connecting hitting and murder isn't convincing. One could even make such a connection between shouting and eventual murder.

Raeshelle said:
So NO it is not ok to slap, hit kick or punch your spouse. You are instructed in God's word to love them and love does not involve causing physical pain.
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Sometimes it does.
 
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