marriage going bad

[shirl1]

I would like to know why when i try to talk to my spouse he will act like i am not in the room i am a christian and try to do the right thing married 16 years

 

[LClark]

Is your husband a Christian? Would he be open to talking with your pastor?

 

[nimbus3852]

He sounds like a typical man.

Schedule a date if you want to talk about something important.

 

[brokenclay]

Hello Sister. Would you share more about you and your husband? Some history. How long has he been treating you like this? How much time have you spent doing things together? Is he always out at night? Has he suddenly been ore-occupied with the internet? Or cellphone? Speaking for myself I tend to bottle things up till my wife gets after me. Sadly many men don't know how to take the lead in a relationship and avoid confrontation. Silence can be a sign of internal struggles. Trying to decide on whether he wants to stay in this marriage or leave.if its the mid-life crisis than he is struggling with issues that will worsen if he doesn't open up. Do some research online as well. I will pray for him to open up to you. And that you may be his comforter and confidant. Men can be so immature and hide it so well. God bless your desire to please Him.__ Larry.

 

[shirl1]

On your question about cell phone and other no he works and come home he never do anything except tv yes he isa christian

 

[Toska]

In the past year, I also struggled with marital problems. They sound very similar to what you are describing.....no communication, never doing anything together, seems unhappy? That described my husband and this caused me to become very depressed. I sought out therapy with a Christian therapist. She was a wonderful woman who helped me to see the things I could do differently to help my marriage. She also taught me different ways to communicate with my husband that helped tremendously.

I am in no way saying that you are at fault, please don't think that. I am just speaking from personal experience. I did not understand why my husband was acting the way he was and trying to talk would end with bitter words and hurt feelings. I decided to go to therapy on my own and I am so grateful that I did. My marriage is stronger now than it ever has been.

Is therapy an option for you? A Christian therapist could possibly help you like mine helped me.

 

[shirl1]

Yes I will try anything, we use to talk and do things together all the time thank you

 

[surprisingrose]

I don't know your whole situation, but Jesus does and he has to answer, but a little advice sometimes it's good to be quiet and let your husband start chasing you again. Men like to chase... they want a little challange. And maybe spice it up a little bit when you do speak, don't bring up any problems you're both dealing with, but just give him a little compliment now and then. Let him wonder what's going on with you. His response might put a big smile on your face. I'll say a prayer for both of you, but yes, if too serious of a problem bringing the Pastor or a christian counselor in would be good. Sometimes a outside party can have more insight than the both of you. Wish you the best.

 

[mcolon45]

I have been married for avyear and I love my husband but he isvver insecure he doesnt allow me to wear jeans or shorts out in the public. When he met me i had a pair of jeans, he doesnt let me wear jewelry i feel like im in a prison.and to make it even worse he hardly touches me we have sex maybe once a month i just feel that i made a mistake marrying him. Any advice

 

[stoneice4]

It is the Devils job to disrupt your marriage. ..being a Christian is having that third eye that helps you to understand why we are going through what Noah went through in his time..increase your faith. ..free yourself of your flesh,and build up your Armour and you will then shed light on the darkness your husband is living in...know this , that his condition has more to do about how he feels about himself,than it does with you...

 

[Savannah77]

I am going through the same thing. My husband said he wants out of the marriage. He said it was nothing that I did, but just doesn't want to be married anymore. We have been married for 24 years and been together for 26. He is my first and only love and I am devastated. He won't give me a reason why he wants out. He says that I am a good person and he loves me, but I don't think he is IN love with me. I am sorry for your pain, I know how you feel. Can someone please talk to me? My husband used to go to church, but doesn't anymore. He does believe in God, but he says he wants out. Will not go to counseling (plus we can't afford it, but wouldn't go if we could). I feel so hopeless.

 

[Hobbs1977]

My husband and I have been married for 17 years. We married young I was 19 he was 22. Over the years he has always done his own thing. Many times during the marriage I asked for us to do things together and his answer was always "we have the rest of our lives to spend together" (our marriage has not always been bad) but for the most part I feel as if we've not been husband and wife but rather roommates at times. In 2005 I found out he had an affair, I loved him so much I decided to stay and work thru it. Flash forward to 2010 and he confesses to me that he has had 2 more affairs one of which a child was conceived that could possibly be his. Shortly after he was saved and baptized and has been faithful but still he was not completely committed to spending time with me. I have told him for months that I am unhappy with the situation and that something needs to change or I could not continue with the marriage. A few weeks ago I did something that completely went against everything I've ever believed in. I told my husband that we needed to separate and In a moment of weakness I went to someone and committed adultery. I am so disgusted that I gave in to something I have been so firmly against. I have asked God to forgive me, but I am having a hard time forgiving myself. I confessed to my husband and we are still separated. He wants to reconcile but I feel so much has happened that my heart will never let me be the person he needs to have as a wife.

 

[Missachu]

Most of you broken women need to get out of your situations and leave these rotten men. I mean geez, your clinging on to something that just needs to die.

 

[stoneice4]

Hi I married my childhood sweetheart at the age of 18 she was 22 we were together for36 yrs,devote Christians but,we were each others first! So you've had a Buick for 25 yrs and in 25yrs I've had 30 car's, who knows more about car's?? Point being that sometimes the lack of exposure can hurt some people sometimes. ..but know this ,All of this has more to do with him ,than how he may feel about you...as a man I know what he's going through. ..we Need to be validated to boost our self esteem. .you know what will make you valuable. .when he thinks someone else wants you,or you want someone else...do you !! Make over ,pursue other interests. ..don't let him leave you behind....watch what happens...it hhappenthe same way with me...same exact way..I told my wife the same thing. He's seeing someone or wants too..I did but when my beautiful wife got herself together. ..I could not stand the thought of her being with someone else. ..I fought hard to get her back, never did...then she died....I cry every day...EVERYDAY.. and live with regret and despair...cause some people don't miss the water until the well runs dry..36yrs. .gone..I pray for you both..but he just needs to grow up...Listen up folks!! If you EVER find yourself in a situation where you think the grass is greener on the other side...sometimes that just means you need to take care of your own grass..rest in god..ask god to make plain for him to see