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His problem with meth will not go away without direct intervention. He has an addictive personality. There is no way he should have contact with kids at the church. He is engaging in criminal behavior.

You need to get help. You must seek help either from the church or from proper professionals before the situation deteriorates into something much, much worse. Meth is a terribly destructive drug.

Take action and take it now. You really do not have a marriage with a man on drugs. I seriously doubt his use is limited to six times. Six times he might admit to but I think you suspect its much more than that.

For the cause of Christ
Roger
Meth use is much more serious than the porn. I read a book recently about Pres JF Kennedy being shot up with meth, and that was more than 50 years ago. Meth makes a person super sex hungry, he should not be around young people. Most have read of JFK's numerous affairs, at least partly caused by his meth use.

Agreed if he admitted using 6 times, why should he be believed.
 

Nice_Lady

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I believe porn is sin. First they watch, second phase is sex chat, then next level sex talk (and may be more) and finally a meeting in reality. Well the Bible teach us to correct a brother if we can (alone, if not - with two or three witnesses). If not repented - you know what s next - get rid of the devil.
 

Billyd

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Please, go to the pastor of your church together immediately. You are in the infancy of your ministry. Don't continue as you are, and destroy what you have accomplished.
 

tourist

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My husband and i have been married fr a year and a half, he is a youth ministries leader and an active member in our church. In that year and a half we have been married he has went out and used methamphetamine 6 times. Not only that but when he comes home he watches porn while im asleep and then wakes me up to have sex with him, and this is about the only time he will have sex with me, other than that he constantly watches porn while he is at work. Im fed up but i know this marriage is supposed to last forever, i just dont know how.
Listen closely to me dear. Take what few possessions that you can carry and leave this creep immediately. Go home or to a friend but please go. Tomorrow call the pastor of your church what you have written in this post. He may also be able to help get in your relocation. Do not let him or anyone give you the line that it is a sin to leave, your faith is weak or any such nonsense. Once you are situated have someone help you file the divorce papers. Do not try to reconcile as it is not going to happen. Please accept this advice and allow the prayer that I have said for you to work . You are in a horrible situation. Just go.
 
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brokenclay

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How long did you know this man before you married him? Had you not given yourself to him so readily you might have gotten to know his ugly side. It seems also that denomination might not be Christian. There are lots of imposters who call themselves Christians. They even use scripture but out of context. Either he is a fake himself; or that whole denomination is as well. Jesus said in so much as you have looked upon another woman with lust, you have committed adultry. Question. Is that grounds for divorce?
 
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Ariel82

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umm I don't think Mrs.Brewer is checking this site... her profile says:

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