Recently separated, need prayers and insight

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djm18

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Pilkington said:
I am praying for you djm18 and your wife. I am asking the Lord to work in both your life and that of your wifes and that the Lord would bring the two of you back together.

Please, please don't beat yourself up about going round to see your wife and son. You did what you believed was right, you are not in control of how your wife and son responded. Although it didn't go well and they got angry maybe it was out of shock and not what they expected you to do. I will pray that your wife despite her initial anger will come round to the idea of going to counselling.
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Yes, this is what I will be praying without ceasing for.
Thank you and Lord bless.
 
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BarlyGurl

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djm18 said:
Thank you all so much. I know it is hard to be objective knowing so little about the situation. She told me that when I pulled up she had just been writing in her journal that she was thinking of contacting me to talk. About what I don't know. Maybe about my son's wrath which I experienced first hand while I was there. She had said he was very angry and I see now that was why he hadn't responded to my attempts to contact him the last several days. But she said when she looked up and saw me, her demeanor changed and she spoke the words, what the f is he doing here. Anyway, I crossed their boundaries and now I have pushed them away even further. What an idiot I was! I felt it was the Lord placing upon my heart to tell them I was the spiritual head of the family and that I was so sorry for my mistakes and that we needed Christian individual and group counseling. That I am seeking that on my own but I couldn't force them to. Instead, it was satan sabotaging things even further. It just went from bad to worse and I pray with all my heart I haven't lost all hope. Please, I need your prayers!
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I think YOU WERE going by the leading of the Lord... but the enemy has set up camp in your home and influencing your family. Please get some strong bible counsel regarding how to "VIEW" the issue spiritually vs immediate circumstances.

Keeping you in prayer!
 
Jenizona

Jenizona

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Olerica said:
It might be hard, but CHOOSE to love her in that moment. The most loving thing you can do is to hear her.

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So true. This would stop so many arguments in marriage. If she really FEELS you have heard her, you stand a chance. If she doesn't feel you've heard a word she says, after she's said it to you a hundred million times... yup. There's no reason for her to believe anything will change.
 
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djm18

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Please, please elaborate. I know I must fill my arsenal. I could feel the enemy in my house when l was there!
 
Jenizona

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djm18 said:
Please, please elaborate. I know I must fill my arsenal. I could feel the enemy in my house when l was there!
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None of us really know the whole situation or how your wife is feeling... is there a chance she could be scared? If there is the least bit of chance of that, you need to stay away. Period.
 
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djm18

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Jenizona said:
None of us really know the whole situation or how your wife is feeling... is there a chance she could be scared? If there is the least bit of chance of that, you need to stay away. Period.
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Maybe so. I pray not. But I have no choice I can not initiate any contact, I know that.
 
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BarlyGurl

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djm18 said:
Please, please elaborate. I know I must fill my arsenal. I could feel the enemy in my house when l was there!
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Aww djm18, that is a beautiful heart cry, the Lord hears. I refrain from giving you specific formulas because this is YOUR battle and God must lead you personally... but I will be in the prayer closet for YOU. Try Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. - Helping the Hurting Marriage for some spiritual tools in men's devotions and please seek information at MarriageToday for excellent biblically based relationship counseling. Lifting you up in prayer!!!
 
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Damaris

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Communication is crucial to a marriage but also very difficult. Seek God first and foremost and be open to what He may be telling you. It isn't always going to be what you want Him to say. Find a really good christian counselor who is familiar with these issues. You must be willing to work with your wife but also your wife must be willing to work with you. Sometimes one person is really trying to fix a marriage and the other isn't on board then when something tragic happens the roles become reversed. Try to see where you both are at and what it will take for the marriage to be reconciled. In all things trust this situation is in God's hands and then wait for Him to act.
 
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djm18

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Damaris said:
Communication is crucial to a marriage but also very difficult. Seek God first and foremost and be open to what He may be telling you. It isn't always going to be what you want Him to say. Find a really good christian counselor who is familiar with these issues. You must be willing to work with your wife but also your wife must be willing to work with you. Sometimes one person is really trying to fix a marriage and the other isn't on board then when something tragic happens the roles become reversed. Try to see where you both are at and what it will take for the marriage to be reconciled. In all things trust this situation is in God's hands and then wait for Him to act.
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Yes and Amen! Thank you.
 
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djm18

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I am trusting The Lord with all my heart!
 
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djm18

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I have decided to try the 180, no contact unless she initiates. I know l have to work on me now and I am praying for courage and understanding. Please pray for us.
 
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