Guys, what about girls MOST confuses you. And, girls? you got it ;)

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GreenNnice

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I just saw a funny commercial for new movie out shortly. Or, maybe already out, called New Years Eve.

Man is listening to girl, probably wife, and gives a solid 'man' answer. We can be dense, I admit .

Girl: I think my water just broke.

Guy: All of it ?

Basically, IF you want to understand the gist of this thread, go take a look at julieannie's '10 things you've learned about the opposite sex' thread and meditate on your answers , maybe ruminate a little even, just don't marinate on 'them,' :D and then....

Pick the ONE of the 10 that MOSt confuzels YOU about the opposite sex.

AND, for those that still haven't made your 10 opposite sex learned things LIST, well, now you got ONE more good reason to get over there and do it ! :)

God bless your NUMBER ONE OPPOSITE SEX REASON, I repeat only this ONCE: NO BASHING OF YOUR OTHER HALF, GUYS ' DOLLS. God made us to get along, in the beginning.

Woman just messed things up. Why in the world would you ever listen to a SNAKE!

Just kidding. I love you all, all my leading ladies. :) IT was both our faults, in the beginning .


So, think, think, think, and, not only list your #1 answer, tell us why you feel the way you do.
 
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Bridget_Left_China

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I am confused by this behavior: Flirting with me.. then in the same breath pushing me away. Telling me you'd like to meet..then telling me we have little in common so why should we bother. Telling me what ingredient you'd like me to leave out of my recipe when/if I ever cook for you... then telling me that I should stay away from guys like you. Telling me that you'd love to spend the holiday near me...then telling me that I will be scared off by you any second now.

I don't get it! Why???? Is it a test? Is this trying to see how long I'll fight? By persisting am I gaining points.. or being labeled 'annoying' in your mind?

C'mon guys. Tell me what you think about this.
 
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Bridget_Left_China said:
C'mon guys. Tell me what you think about this.
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It's all a manifestation of insecurity.

Yes it is a test, a test you cannot pass, give the attention and the guy will label you needy/annoying, don't give the attention and it'll be that you didn't fight hard enough.
When a guy does anything like that I'd pack your bags, but trust me, we guys get it too, it's just one of the many unhealthy ways people react to bad experiences.
 
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Bridget_Left_China said:
I am confused by this behavior: Flirting with me.. then in the same breath pushing me away. Telling me you'd like to meet..then telling me we have little in common so why should we bother. Telling me what ingredient you'd like me to leave out of my recipe when/if I ever cook for you... then telling me that I should stay away from guys like you. Telling me that you'd love to spend the holiday near me...then telling me that I will be scared off by you any second now.

I don't get it! Why???? Is it a test? Is this trying to see how long I'll fight? By persisting am I gaining points.. or being labeled 'annoying' in your mind?

C'mon guys. Tell me what you think about this.
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This is kind of similar to how girls flirt with guys continually, then turn the guy down when he finally musters up the courage to ask her out. I always just assumed this was all about women not being able to make up their mind, or just wanting attention. You women do love attention! :rolleyes:

If a guy (or anyone really) does this to you though, don't stick around.

P.S.- You can cook for me anytime, Bridget! :D
 
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I don't think this was on the list, but I'm in a state of terminal confusion with regard to women. Bascially, I can't stand them (broadly speaking) yet some of them are still attractive. And they smell nice.

But I suspect this betrays more about my own psychological peculiarities than it does about women.
 
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Bridget_Left_China said:
I am confused by this behavior: Flirting with me.. then in the same breath pushing me away. Telling me you'd like to meet..then telling me we have little in common so why should we bother. Telling me what ingredient you'd like me to leave out of my recipe when/if I ever cook for you... then telling me that I should stay away from guys like you. Telling me that you'd love to spend the holiday near me...then telling me that I will be scared off by you any second now.

I don't get it! Why???? Is it a test? Is this trying to see how long I'll fight? By persisting am I gaining points.. or being labeled 'annoying' in your mind?

C'mon guys. Tell me what you think about this.
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It sounds like a cruel game played by an immature person. Perhaps he is just trying to see IF he could have a shot with you. I guess only he knows. Actually, maybe he doesn't even know.
I'd run for the hills and leave the silliness behind..I wouldn't want to "win someone over" who is like that......but that's just me. I have a very low tolerance for bull.
 
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What's with [usually single/childless] women and personification of small dogs or other animals? Is that a biological mothering trait kicking in or something? :confused:
 
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Bridget_Left_China said:
I am confused by this behavior: Flirting with me.. then in the same breath pushing me away. Telling me you'd like to meet..then telling me we have little in common so why should we bother. Telling me what ingredient you'd like me to leave out of my recipe when/if I ever cook for you... then telling me that I should stay away from guys like you. Telling me that you'd love to spend the holiday near me...then telling me that I will be scared off by you any second now.

I don't get it! Why???? Is it a test? Is this trying to see how long I'll fight? By persisting am I gaining points.. or being labeled 'annoying' in your mind?

C'mon guys. Tell me what you think about this.
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He loves me. He loves me not. He loves me. He loves me not. He loves...

Kind of like that, eh, Bridge ? :)
 
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Bridget_Left_China said:
I am confused by this behavior: Flirting with me.. then in the same breath pushing me away. Telling me you'd like to meet..then telling me we have little in common so why should we bother. Telling me what ingredient you'd like me to leave out of my recipe when/if I ever cook for you... then telling me that I should stay away from guys like you. Telling me that you'd love to spend the holiday near me...then telling me that I will be scared off by you any second now.

I don't get it! Why???? Is it a test? Is this trying to see how long I'll fight? By persisting am I gaining points.. or being labeled 'annoying' in your mind?

C'mon guys. Tell me what you think about this.
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This is likely all about the guy really likes you, but probably feels you are 'out of his league'. So he see's you, thinks about you, wants to be with you, gets around you, realizes how awesome you are and thinks 'oh crap, what am i doing, i could never make this person happy'. I can relate to that feeling. To be honest there are a number of women on this site i feel that way about. Though i don't believe i've taken it as far as how you were talking. In fact, i don't think most even know i have an attraction to them. But it no doubt would be very frustrating to receive that treatment, no matter what the reason.
 
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I am confused as to how some guys can be thinking about "nothing". What does that even feel like?

I have ADD and I don't think I've ever spent 10 seconds of waking moment not thinking about anything. :p
 
Liamson

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I think its because the complexities of a man deep in thought are not easily translatable verbally. A man may have the necessary faculties to explore the deepest reaches of a thought but, being able to share where his mind went is more than beyond him.
 
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I think its because the complexities of a man deep in thought are not easily translatable verbally. A man may have the necessary faculties to explore the deepest reaches of a thought but, being able to share where his mind went is more than beyond him.
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Deep, man. :cool:
 
Liamson

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Like if I'm driving, I think about things like how much steering feel I have based on the road surface and engine RPMs and speed and drag and turning arc and type of tires and slope of the road. All things which simultaneously go into my mind, rather non-verbally. If you were to ask me what I was thinking, I would probably reply nothing, because to think about all of that really isn't anything.

Also there is the expectation that we are suppose to be thinking about whatever a woman said earlier and that conversations relevance to whatever we are doing now. Frankly speaking I think men compartmentalize conversations to locations where the conversation occurred. This in Psychology is called the threshold theory I think. :)
 
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Relena7 said:
I am confused as to how some guys can be thinking about "nothing". What does that even feel like?

I have ADD and I don't think I've ever spent 10 seconds of waking moment not thinking about anything. :p
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I am thinking about nothing now. Got nothing to saY. :D

And, I mean that, I got nothing. Did laugh at this thought.... oh, I guess I do got something. It's true. :)
 
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Relena7 said:
I am confused as to how some guys can be thinking about "nothing". What does that even feel like?

I have ADD and I don't think I've ever spent 10 seconds of waking moment not thinking about anything. :p
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I was that way when I was young. One day when I was looking at the water by the dock I realized I could turn off the inner dialog just by watching the ripples in the water. Since then I can just turn it on and off by visualizing something, or just looking at my surroundings in the same way.

What confuses me most about women is how often they say one thing, while meaning something else.
 
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SnailRacer said:
What confuses me most about women is how often they say one thing, while meaning something else.
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It's cause sometimes we're thinking many things at the same time (we're good multitaskers), but we can only verbalize one at a time. And sometimes our thoughts are just too complicated to put simply so we do our best with words and hope the other person gets it. Not saying guys don't have complicated thoughts, but like Liamson said, men might not be able to verbalize them. Where as a woman can have one tenth of a thought completed and "think out loud" as she fills in the completion of the thought. I don't see guys do this too much.

Something about mens left and right hemispheres not connecting the same...hence why dudes can compartmentalize and we can't as well.
 
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GreenNnice

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It's cause sometimes we're thinking many things at the same time (we're good multitaskers), but we can only verbalize one at a time. And sometimes our thoughts are just too complicated to put simply so we do our best with words and hope the other person gets it. Not saying guys don't have complicated thoughts, but like Liamson said, men might not be able to verbalize them. Where as a woman can have one tenth of a thought completed and "think out loud" as she fills in the completion of the thought. I don't see guys do this too much.

Something about mens left and right hemispheres not connecting the same...hence why dudes can compartmentalize and we can't as well.
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God made us that way, differently operating brains. Nothing wrong with that. In fact, one could argue, everything is right with that. One completes the other , just like God made it clear, He didn't just scoop up a handful of dust and blow into it and, voila, WOMAN ! He took a rib from man to make her. There is great meaning in that thought.
(Green pats himself on the back, he is no longer right now thinking of nothing :) )
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I will eventually look at my list and pick the # of my 10 I feel most confuses me about the opposite sex, but, for.now, this definitely confuses me, or, rather intrigues me: I can be somewhere close by a bunch of girls and they are talking a mile a minute, six girls and, literally, in this small circle, 3, or, 4 different topic conversations can be going on at once. And, the laughing, girls ALWAYS laughing at the nonsensical talk they say while guys in a group of say, 6, usually, are much more reserved unless , maybe, it's a get-together like a sports-watching event like watching a World Series game 7 or, similar. Then, we can be quite gabby too :D
 
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I think its because the complexities of a man deep in thought are not easily translatable verbally. A man may have the necessary faculties to explore the deepest reaches of a thought but, being able to share where his mind went is more than beyond him.
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I always thought the "nothing box" was a myth.
 
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I always thought the "nothing box" was a myth.
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I don't think it's a myth :) Maybe it's a place to store what may seem inconsequential at the time, but at some point something within that box may become of importance or the stimulus for something greater.
 
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What confuses me is how the majority of women women process information and make value judgments off said information. The logic at work isn't necessarily inferior or superior in comparison to what men generally put forward, it is simply different and it bothers cyborgs like myself to no end.
 
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